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FEBRUARY 2009 Newsletter

Featured Articles....

February 7, 2009
Schedule of Weekends and Events
Invitation to Next North Carolina Couples Massage Event Feb. 27th
Couples Planning To Attend The February Event
Film Review: Kiss The Sky (1998)- R
Short Review Of The Estate At Carolina Friends
Sleeping Car With A Married Woman

Schedule of Weekends & Events
Write us for fo a complete schedule of events.

Next Couples Massage Event Feb. 27th
OUR NEXT EVENT IN NORTH CAROLINA FEBRUARY 27-MARCH 1 We invite you to join us for a massage-hot tub-swim spa dinner party.

Film Review: Past reviews For postings of all of my past film reviews, go to http://sexinfilm.blogspot.com/ Paul

Film Review: Kiss The Sky (1998)- R

The movie “Kiss the Sky” has many flaws. Segments of the film keep flashing back to me making this movie hard to dismiss though, and the lengthy and explicit sexual threesome scene is one such flashback moment. However, the strongest flashbacks are of Jeff and Marty’s confessions that their lives have no meaning or purpose

Jeff (William L. Petersen) and Marty (Gary Cole) are long time friends. They both are depressed. They believe their lives are going nowhere. On a trip to the Philippines they both fall in love with the same woman, Andy, (Sheryl Lee), and yes, she falls in love with both of them. Jeff and Marty believe in sharing and so does Andy. Sometimes the sharing is in the same bed and sometimes Jeff gets Monday and Marty gets Tuesday. Andy gives them both erotic pleasure but also hope for a new beginning in life.

“Kiss the Sky”, with all of its flaws, gives respect to male depression. This is the type of depression that is mindful and seeks meaning. This type of depression is dangerously close to suicide. The film gives value to the friendship of these men. The friendship, along with sex that they share with a woman, gives them hope.

I think film provides many expressions for female bonding around sex that lead to hope. A few examples are Sex in the City, The L-Word and Waiting to Exhale. Kiss the Sky comes close to a achieving this for men.

An On-Site Swing Club Visit: The Estate at Carolina Friends Charlotte, North Carolina

Emily and I recently visited The Estate, an on-site swing club located near Charlotte, North Carolina. This was our second visit to The Estate. The club is on the North Carolina/South Carolina border, just 15 minutes from Charlotte. The two floor facility is very spacious and the amenities are a plus. The club has a large dance floor with special effect lighting, 3 large hot tubs, three large general lounge areas, an adult film theater featuring 8 king size connected beds, 8 private rooms, 5 large group play rooms and a large outdoor (summer only) nude swimming pool. About 150 couples attended the club the Saturday evening we visited. No single men are allowed entrance. The single night couple entrance fee was $75. The couples were of all ages. There were many couples in their 50's and above. This added to our comfort. As part of the admission fee, the club provides a full catered meal buffet and 1am breakfast buffet. We both agreed that the food was surprisingly good. The BBQ Chicken was delicious. The staff were very friendly and helpful. We found the atmosphere very relaxed and erotic. The adult theater was especially fun. Couples quickly moved to the large connected beds and enjoyed mixed erotic play while watching the movie. The one negative of The Estate is the smoking. Smoking is confined to only one large room. Nonetheless, the cigarette smoke drifted throughout much of the facility during this winter evening. Despite this one negative, Emily and I had a very enjoyable and erotic evening at The Estate. The web site for Carolina Friends and The Estate is http://www.carolinafriends.com/events.html

Sleeping Care With a Married Woman

A SHORT LOVE STORY: A man and a woman who had never met before, but who were both married to other people, found themselves assigned to the same sleeping room on a trans-continental train. Though initially embarrassed and uneasy over sharing a room, they were both very tired and fell asleep quickly, he in the upper berth and she in the lower. At 1:00 AM, the man leaned down and gently woke the woman saying: 'Ma'am, I'm sorry to bother you, but would you be willing to reach into the closet to get me a second blanket? I'm awfully cold.' I have a better idea,' she replied 'Just for tonight,... let's pretend that we're married.' 'Wow!... That's a great idea!', he exclaimed. 'Good,' she replied. ...'Get your own fucking blanket.' After a moment of silence, .....he farted. The End!

DECEMBER 2008 Newsletter

Featured Articles....Have a wonderful Holiday Season
December 10, 2008
Schedule of Weekends and Events
Comments from our November event in North Carolina
Invitation to next North Carolina couples massage event Feb. 27th
Film Review: Bliss (1997)- R
YPF (2007)- UR
Visit to & Invitation to Paradise Lakes near Tampa
Short Review of EuropaDance Swing club near Boston
More on The Richmond Sauna by J & L
Grandma Finds The Vibrator

Write us for a schedule of events.

Comments from our November event in NC

Hello Paul and Emily,

Thank you both so much for making us feel so comfortable with our little adventure. Everyone went the extra mile to help us ease into this. We realize we were both rather shy this first time and we do look forward to a return visit. thanks again S & L

I think we all had a great time! It was a very fun weekend!

The number of couples that attended was (4)
The attendees home states were North Carolina (3), Georgia (1)
The ages of guests ranged from the 40's to 60's. As is common with our events, six of the couples were in their 50's.
The couple’s experience in the lifestyle: First experience (1), One to five pervious events (0), One to five years in the lifestyle (1), Over five years lifestyle experience (2), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa, Lifestyle Conventions or Lifestyle cruises (3).

Film Review: Past reviews

We see many of the films that Paul reviews. I found this one elevates sex to the realm of beauty as it should be. In En La Cama, revelation of character is in a purely sexual context. It portrays an important and vital aspect of adult life that any free thinking person can understand and identify with. We recommend the film highly. J & B

For postings of all of my past film reviews, go to Sexinfilm, Paul http://sexinfilm.blogspot.com/

Film Review: Bliss (1997)-R

Bliss is an important film that deals with three rarely discussed issues. The issues are childhood sexual abuse from a parent, the resulting marital sexual problems and finally the complexity of sexual healing. The film has had a small audience perhaps in part because of discomfort with these topics.

Joseph (Craig Sheffer) and Maria (Sheryl Lee) know from the start of their marriage that they have problems. Maria is unable to have an orgasm but that problem is the least of their troubles. Traditional mental health services prescribed long-term intensive psychotherapy yet this seems to offer little benefit for Maria. She then seeks an alternative therapy that includes Tantra sexual techniques and sexual surrogate treatment. That’s right, having sex with your therapist. Not surprisingly, Marie does not tell Joseph of her new treatment. Joseph accidentally finds out and is not pleased! The therapy turns from Maria to Joseph as he first threatens the therapist (Terence Stamp), then engages in treatment himself and finally facilitates Maria’s healing. The film’s sexuality is graphic and at times erotic.

Bliss presents a story of people taking very risky actions to heal themselves and their marriage. It presents the accurate dilemma of how only talking in traditional psychotherapy without experimenting with new actions rarely improves sexual health problems or for that matter, any problem. This is an important healing truth for the estimated 30% of people that have experienced some sort of childhood sexual abuse. Many adult sexual health problems are linked to these experiences. Bliss is a film that should be seen by all sexual abuse survivors. Moreover, it demonstrates strategies that could be helpful to all of us who want to improve our sexual health and sexual enjoyment. Most importantly the film demonstrates a couple deeply in love and willing to take significant risk to save their relationship.

I have not been a big fan of Tantra sexuality, mainly because of the near religious enthusiasm of its proponents. However, Bliss successfully peels away the healing Tantra techniques from the zealous eastern philosophy. Joseph experiences the healing qualities of Tantra in Bliss. This leads Maria to talk through the details of sexual intercourse with her father which began at age five. The screenplay in this scene is reason alone to see this movie.

Bliss is not a perfect film, yet it succeeds in both adult entertainment and adult education. This is a film for mature audiences, those mature, not just in age but also in capacity to address uncomfortable topics.

YPF (2007)-UR

YPF stands for Young People Fucking. This very very funny film follows one evening with 5 different couples as they make love. The five stories are divided into Prelude; Foreplay; Sex; Interlude; Orgasm; and Afterglow. There are five separate stories. There is a lot of sex and nudity, but YPF is not so much an erotic film. It is more focused on the relationships of the couples and the awkwardness of trying to get laid. Each couple has there own issue as to why this task is not simple. This is a true laugh out loud movie.

A On-Site Swing Club Visit: EuropaDance,NH

Emily and I recently visited, EuropaDance an on-site swing club located near Seabrook, New Hampshire. The club is just over an hour drive from Boston and is located in a ranch style home in a heavily wooded area. The club has a large dance floor, large hot tub, smaller basement meeting rooms and 5 private rooms for sexual play. About 10 couples and 8 single men attended the club the Saturday evening we visited. When we called ahead the hosts did not tell us that single men would be in attendance. However we also did not ask. This is a mistake we will not make again because the surplus of single men made both of us uncomfortable. We arrived about 9pm. A host did not greet us. As a sort of experiment, we simply talked together and waited to see who would greet us or introduce themselves. No one did. After 20 minutes we approached others and found the host. A tour was provided and we were offered a variety of food dishes to enjoy. We had a difficult time with conversation and did not play with any couple. It appeared that a number of the couples had pre-arranged “appointments” and were quickly behind closed doors. The group rooms were crowded with single men.

While driving home we discussed how the same people would have had lively conversation if the event were a charity cocktail party. The stress of a potential sexual encounter and the limited time of a one evening event seem to make people act oddly unfriendly

More on the Richmond Sauna by J & L

Richmond Sauna in Maine (see Google for web site.) Believe it or not, I found it on Craigslist the was curious about it.

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This is a followup from our past review by J & B.

Hello, We are J and L and receive your news letter. One day we will get to a massage event. I have been to Richmond Sauna many times and friends with Richard the owner before he got married again. I lived in PA then. He is a very nice man and tries to accommodate every one and make them comfortable. He wants the place primitive, likes conversation in the sauna lounge. nudity is always ok with him. Tries to duplicate times back in Finland where he was raised. The crowd varies from day/week to week. You never know when there will be people more sexual than last time. Sometimes the crowd is not sexual but shy. I went to school in Maine for a summer and was there almost every night. I did massage for folks and sometimes it was sexual depending on who was there. I didn't charge for it, friendly massage. Richard was not opposed to sexual activity at the place or in the house. The place is clean and well chlorinated to keep it germ free. he would not even let me help with dishes since he had a routine and washed dishes with hot water and clorax to be germ free. He did not want any health problems from who ever came there. Every morning the saunas are all cleaned before using again. We plan to visit there next summer since my wife of now has never been there. I have a lot to catch up on with Richard. The place was an old stage coach stop over with 2 stairways front and back. It is historic and he does not change that. He does not play with the guests. He used to take groups and nudist groups. this is not a place to be shy since people walk around naked.

The saunas are for private use within your group and he always had a communal sauna set aside for singles or couples if you didn't mind being with others. Sometimes there was sex there. I love the place and Richard is a nice man and his wife must also be nice.

This is how I remember the place and Richard and we will return to see how it is now. My wife and I are nudists and also been to swing clubs in several states.. thanks for listening, J

Visit to Paradise Lakes near Tampa-Dec.28

Emily and I will be visiting Paradise Lakes the week of December 28th. We invite anyone on our mailing list to join us. We own a condo at Paradise Lakes and have been enjoying the nude and erotic environment for over 15 years. Here is their web site http://www.paradiselakes.com/

We will also visit the other major nude resort, Caliente, during day trips. http://www.calienteresort.com/

Paradise Lakes is an upscale clothing-optional resort located just north of Tampa, Florida. The resort is located on about 150 acres of land in what is becoming a center of gracious Florida living, for both nude-friendly and mainstream individuals. There are multiple condominiums, townhouses, and private homes, most privately owned. Many individuals and couples as well as a few families make Paradise Lakes their year-round home. Others rent their units for short term or longer term renters. In addition, Paradise Lakes resort runs a pool side hotel. There is limited space for RV's in the RV section of the resort near the main gate. This area north of Tampa has become home to a number of clothing optional resorts ranging from rustic to upscale and those with a disco-type of atmosphere. We feel Paradise Lakes is one of the finest in the country with a lovely grounds and a friendly atmosphere.

The resort contains five swimming pools, including a meandering tepid conversation pool. There is ample opportunity for guests from around the world, as well as full time residents, to socialize almost any time of the day and in almost any weather. In addition, there are two hot tubs, lighted tennis courts, water and sand volleyball, putting greens, pool table, health club and spa, full menu restaurant, beauty shop, and pool side bar and grill. There are daily evening events, including movies, dances on the weekends, and karaoke. Major sporting events also allows an opportunity to watch with friends L'Attitude. (The indoor facilities are smoke free.)

Whether you come to the resort to read a book in your birthday suit, to find golf partners, or to meet interesting people, we think you will find that Paradise Lakes meets or surpass your expectations. We have enjoyed the freedom of what is truly a clothing-options rather than "nude-required" resort. Dress at Paradise Lakes is always optional, including at the restaurant and dances. (Courtesy requires one use a towel when sitting at the restaurant, bar, or on furniture when in the nude.) However, many ladies, and men, take the opportunity to dress in casual and/or very sexy clothing for dinner and the dances.

Paradise Lakes in not a swing club. However, many of the residents and guests enjoy the lifestyle. Overt public display of sexual conduct is officially not accepted. However, the evening dances and the late night teasing in the hot tubs are often very adult. We also would enjoy hosting some sort of event at our condo (certainly some sexual play and/or massage). Our friends, M & B and B & C who have attended a number of our massage weekends, will join us for part of the week. Write us if you would like more information. We would love for you to join us.

Grandma Finds the Vibrator

GRANDMA FINDS VIBRATOR

This is very very funny, enjoy!! http://www.bofunk.com/video/6675/grandma_finds_the_vibrator.html

OCTOBER 2008 Newsletter

Featured Articles
September 28, 2008
Schedule of Weekends and Events
Lifestyle Travels in Spain & Greece
Who's Attending Oct. 17th event, Invitation for You to Attend
Film Review: En La Cama (2005)- NR
Swingfest’08: “A disappointment except for the couples”
Link to 2008 Trinity Art Show
Les Misbarack: A Fun YOUTUBE about Barack Obama
Links

Lifestyle Travels In Spain & Greece

Hello Paul & Emily:

We were surprised to hear of your trip to Barcelona and Cap d’Agde at the south of France, as we were planning to take exactly the same trip this year. We were planning to fly to Barcelona, stay a week and then drive to France and stay at Cap for another week, but changed our plans the last moment. Last summer we spent two weeks in the south of Spain. The first week we stayed in “La Macarena”, an interesting couples-only swinging retreat near Malaga. It accommodates about 20 couples where we met a few interesting couples from France, Portugal, Belgium and Holland.. Very nice place but not quite the personal touch one feels at your place. The second week we toured Andalusia, namely Seville, Cordoba and Granada. Still great places.

This year we stayed in Greece and we vacationed in two wonderful places. First we spent 8 days on the island of Lemnos which is an island, beautiful in its own way, in the north Aegean Sea. We stayed in a place right on the beach, elevated up a little form the rocks, with a brilliant view of the sea and the sun setting behind the Holy Mountain at the distance. There are five rooms all together in the place, so when everybody was gone we had a little privacy, which kept us on the veranda for a big part of the day, certainly during sunset. Lemnos produces excellent white, dry wine with a nice fruity sent, famous from antiquity, which we enjoyed in our balcony. There were no nudist beaches but one day we discovered an empty secluded beach with nothing but a table and two forgotten chairs under a tree so we took out our ouzo and past a special day on our own private nudist beach. Our second week brought us to a mountain known as the Swiss Alps of Greece. We couldn’t help but enjoy the wonderful, crisp air and the mineral water. We past the days walking in the forest and driving around different villages, eating the wonderful goat meat and cheese prepared by the locals. Our balcony here too was quite private, sunk in the greenery of the surrounding forest. The main reason we got there of course is the spa with hot mineral baths, which we did twice a day. Lately, we started to enjoy our hot mineral water baths, which are supposed to be wonderful treatments for just about everything, and they are amazingly inexpensive. We have been to several of these spas around Greece, but this last one has been one of the best.

We thought of you several times and it would nice be if we can show you some of the beautiful places in Greece. There are plenty in the mountains and the sea, to enjoy and plan wonderful trips to. You ought to know that you always have an open invitation here in Greece. Summer of course is the best time for the islands. Spring and Fall are nice too, but not so warm for swimming. Just let us know, leave your swimsuit home and be prepared for a nice experience.
Your friends, M & B

Who's Attending Oct. 17th & Invitation

OUR NEXT EVENT IN MAINE OCTOBER 17-19, 2008

We invite you to join us for a massage-hot tub- dinner party. The gathering will be held at The Farm in Maine which is about 3 hours north of Boston. If you would like to attend send us a brief bio and we will be happy to add you to the list. If you have attended our events in the past or if you have recently sent us a bio, simple send an email stating you wish to attend. The Farm is a remodeled 1850 farm, located on 5 acres, nestled in a beautiful mountain valley surrounded by rolling hills. It has17 rooms including, 6 bedrooms & 3 bathrooms. The farm has a private beach, boats, 8-person hot tub, indoor sauna, fireplace, billiard room and deck . All couples and single women interested in attending our next massage weekend should send bios to mail@couples-for-massage.com

Film Review: En La Cama (2005)- NR

Is this a lasting treasure

Or just a moment’s pleasure

Can I believe the magic in your eyes

Will you still love me tomorrow

From Tapestry: Carol King

I thought of the lyrics of Carol King after seeing Matias Bize’s excellent film En La Cama (In the Bed). There are few albums that capture a generation. Carol Kings’ Tapestry surely is one. The haunting lyrics tell about sex, tell about being a woman and tell about being human. Her lyrics capture so much more than 1971 feminism. They capture the wish of a generation to embrace a freer sexuality without dishonoring its value. Carol King’s lyrics are the better prayers of my generation.

As with the lyrics of Tapestry, the dialogue in En La Cama will haunt you for many days. We meet the couple in a hotel room in bed making love. The couple found each other at a friend’s party. They do not know each other’s first names. Over the next hour and 25 minutes we watch the couple make love two more times. The scenes are explicit with ample nudity. However, between these brief explicit scenes we are riveted by their dialogue.

This is a story about a “one night stand,” a one night sexual emotional experience. Both partners know they will likely never see each other again. The talk begins with playful games of “do you remember my name?” It leads to multiple and sometime painful deceptions then disclosures. As with psychotherapy, it ends with each finding out more about themselves then their partner.

This Chilean movie with sub-titles is filmed solely from a hotel room. Even with subtitles the screenplay of this film is brilliant. As with the lyrics of Tapestry, the words will remind you of your own brief love experiences. People who the chemistry was perfect, the intimacy immediate and who were just as quickly gone. Maybe the chemistry was so perfect because it was only for one night.

Swingfest'08: "A Disappointment Except for the Couples"

We attended Swingfest’08 in August and were disappointed. The event was billed as the nation's largest convention of swingers. It was held at the Westin resort in Hollywood Florida and was attended by nearly 5000 people. The three day event cost $800 including hotel and meals. This was our first time attending a lifestyle convention or conference. We were particularly interested in attending some of the workshops on various lifestyle topics. Unfortunately, the event was very poorly organized. The event underestimated the quantity of food needed for such a large group. They ran out of food at the first meal. Included in the event fee were evening trips to local swing clubs. Busloads of couples were transported across town to local clubs. When we arrived the club owner told the group, nearly 500 people, that Swingfest had not paid the bill for the evening. All attainders were required to apply for club membership including paying the evening fee before admission. The group was furious. Many of the advertised workshops were cancelled because the presenters did not show. The evening parties were ok but certainly nothing special. What saved the event were the wonderful and enjoyable couples we met. Nude swimming in the hotel’s beautiful outdoor pools were “not” allowed. However, the group broke these regulations after about 10pm. We all had a fantastic erotic playtime in the pools that lasted until early morning. Many of the attending couples recommended the annual, very well organized, Lifestyle Conventions in Las Vegas.

Link to 2008 Trinity Art Show

Believe it or not, we do have "vanilla" (non-lifestyle) friends. One of them is an artist-photographer in New England. We think his work is great. He has allow us to link to one of his recent showings.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/75245308@N00/sets/72157606877466754

Les Misbarack: A Fun Youtube About Barack Obama

My daughter is a big Barack Obama fan. She sent me this fun Youtube link. It is very enjoyable even if you plan to vote for John McCain.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3ijYVyhnn0

AUGUST 2008 Newsletter

OUR TRIP TO CAP-D' AGDE, FRANCE

Have you ever wanted to see 7000 nude people? Your probably saying, "not really." Well, if the desire ever strikes you, a trip to Cap-d' Agde, France should be scheduled. We walked on the beautiful beach of this French nude resort for almost 2 miles. This was the height of the tourist season with the beach crowed with people of every size and shape and from all over the world. The Cap-d' Agde resort is truly a unique experience. A good web location to read about this resort can be found at http://gofrance.about.com/cs/nudismnaturism/a/bygcapdagde.htm

Here are some of our impressions:

1- To enjoy Cap-d' Agde you must enjoy Europe and France in particular. This is a proud country that loves their language. Different than the Caribbean resorts such as Hedonism, this environment is built around the French-European personality not the American. They welcome Americans, but you need to work at being French while visiting.

2- The resort is a fenced-in medium size city that in fact contains many resorts. It feels very chaotic at first. You have many many choices of eating, shopping and accommodations. There are many languages but the common one is French.

3- Europe and France in particular is very expensive. Be prepared for "sticker shock."

4- The resort is very family friendly. You will see many families with children, all nude. At about 8pm every evening people begin to appear on the streets wearing very erotic attire. In the daytime this resort is very PG nude. At night this resort turns very erotic with many sex-focused night clubs. However, the families with children do not leave the streets until well after 10pm. Europe is very comfortable with mixing both nudity and erotic play AND not hiding this play from children. Culturally, this is very different than America.

5- The resort town has at least four "couples-only" night clubs. We visited the same club for both of our nights. This was a VERY erotic experience. The club named "Glamor", in fact, did allow single men on the dance floor club level, but only allowed male-female couples in the sexual catacombs on the lower level. Admission for a couple was $55. The club was modern with two large dance areas on the main floor. The real fun was on the lower level. Here there was a maze of rooms and hallways. Many were totally dark, many ended in a "dead-end", some had S&M themes, some had one room where you could watch another room, etc. etc. (Emily and I were in one very dark room fondling and being fondled by 2-3 couples. Somehow there seemed like more hands than couples. Then we realized this very dark room had "hand openings" through the wall to an adjacent room. We therefore were being fondled by more hands than people in the room.) We estimate that at the most crowed times there were 100 couples in the catacombs. This was the ultimate location for anonymous sex and for "watching-being watched" activities.

6- Here is an honest-to-god real experience. We were in a pitch-black room with numerous couples. Emily and I connected with a French couple. The women speaking only French opens up her dress to me. I am kissing and licking her breasts as she continues to talk to me in French. I reply with "Qui-Qui" (yes-yes), the only French I know. This goes on for some time as we become more passionate. She then in perfect English asks, "do you have a condom?, I love to make love to Americans." I had a condom.

7- If you visit Cap-d' Agde try very very hard to visit Barcelona, Spain only three hours south. This is one of the premier European cities full of fantastic art. We could go back and spend another two weeks in this city. It is fabulous. It also has a nude beach.

FINDING YOUR PERFECT GIRL

Link to video sent to us by J & B
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FILM REVIEWS

Something About Sex (1998)- R

Something About Sex follows the lives of six people and three marriages. All six people have sexual secrets and maybe the point of the movie is that we all have sexual secrets.

The three couples meet for a dinner party that also includes an obnoxious author played by Jason Alexander from Seinfeld fame. The writer publishes stories revealing the affairs that men hide from their wives. Jason’s character boasts that all men are animals and simply cannot resist multiple sexual partners. This statement is strongly denounced by all six, yet as we soon see, it is accurate not only for the men but also for the women.

Research shows that only 25% of men and 15% of women, sometime in their marriage, experience extra-marital sex. In this light, the movie is very inaccurate. However, the movie does seem to accurately portray six versions of how people deal or do not deal with sexual secrets in their marriage. The dual themes of hypocrisy and secrecy were well done. Nothing was totally true and totally false; none of the characters were perfect. The movie was funny when it exposed how people become outraged when learning of a spouse’s sexual secret only to have their own secrets yet to be revealed. The film also showed how sexual secrets are not limited to actual affairs and that some affairs are “only” physical, whereas other affairs actually involve love.

A Walk on the Moon (1999)-R; Unfaithful (2002)- R

Over the course of three years Diane Lane, a talented and subtle actress, starred in a pair of films with similar plots but strikingly different resolutions. In each film Lane portrays a mother who is also wife to a devoted, hard-working husband. And in each she is also a woman who finds something missing in her life. She wants something more. In both films she enters an affair with an attractive poet-artist-musician. The sex is passionate and explicit. However, in Unfaithful (based on Claude Chabrol's 1969 classic La Femme Infidele, and for which Lane received a Best Actress Oscar nomination) the affair ends in tragedy; the husband, played by Richard Gere, commits murder. In A Walk on the Moon the Lane character's husband, this one played by Liv Schreiber, successfully brings an end to the affair in a rather more positive, humane and satisfactory fashion; in an effort to rekindle their lost sexual excitement he attempts to learn to dance. I vote for the second ending and also enjoyed A Walk on the Moon much more than Unfaithful.

The failure of film and our culture to understand the subtle nature and full dimensions of extra-marital sex represents a failure to grapple with its complexity. Better films, regardless of the plot, are more engaging because they present three-dimensional characters, and avoid trite, simplistic, overly moralistic "lessons" for the viewer. Set in the year 1969, when astronauts first landed on Earth's closest neighbor and young people gamboled at Woodstock, A Walk on the Moon presents us with four complex characters who by turns reveal their complex reactions to extra-marital sex. This quartet; wife, husband, teenage daughter and mother-in-law, are all simultaneously able to sincerely espouse the notion that the extramarital sex is wrong, and yet at the same time acknowledge their need to find something more in their life.

Anna Paguin, who was brilliant in The Piano (1993)-R, plays Lane's teenage daughter. Paguin gives a wonderful performance as a daughter in deep and angry conflict with her mother, who rushes to have her own sexual experience and then is terrified by the prospect of her parents break-up. Lane is also excellent as a woman who experiences very erotic pleasure for the first time, yet lovingly attempts to protect and care for her distraught daughter. This is drama with much depth, complexity and ultimately a generous helping of sweet humanity.

The film plays out against the backdrop of Jewish culture as expressed in summer family camps in the Catskills. The presentation of American Jewish life in the '60s is both entertaining and again presents a lesson about the complexity of extra-marital sex. Finally, the sex scenes are both erotic and explicit. The film captures very beautiful and erotic love-making scenes at a waterfall. For those seeking an enjoyable, entertaining and positively erotic film, this one is highly recommended

Body Heat (1981) - R

I am probably the last person in North America that had not seen this erotic-thriller classic. For the other few people who have not seen this movie, it is about a women, played by Kathleen Turner, in an unhappy marriage who is reluctantly seduced by a handsome fast-talking lawyer, played by William Hurt. Well, we think she is reluctantly seduced, but we soon find out that the tables are being turned on who is seducing who and for what reason.

This film is a classic for two reasons. It first has a screenplay that keeps both the character played by William Hurt and the audience continuing to second guess motives and truth. He cannot determine truth but can only be intoxicated by passion which leads to greater and greater danger. The second reason is that the “heat” in Body Heat is really “hot.” This is a film where the passionate heat drips off the screen. The erotic scenes are actually mild in their explicit full body views, but very erotic in close up views, particularly of the actors’ expressions. This is a movie full of powerful sex, and scenes that both women and men will enjoy remembering when they need an erotic boost.

MAY 2008 Newsletter

FILM REVIEWS
Lady Chatterley (2006)- NR

Film, like much of our popular culture, is obsessed by the topic of infidelity. Our feelings about affairs are so strong yet so paradoxical. Opinion polls say that 70% - 80% of people believe strongly that extra-marital sex is harmful. However, the subject remains one of the most popular and erotic in both contemporary and classic films and literature. Seven out of the last 28 Best Picture Academy Award winners featured infidelity as a major theme.

With a subject so popular one would think it is highly researched. In fact, the opposite is the truth. As documents by Adrian Blow’s excellent review of all published studies on infidelity since 1980 (Infidelity In Committed Relationships: A Methodological Review., Blow, Hartnett,. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy April 2005, Vol. 31, No. 2, 183–216, and Journal of Marital and Family Therapy April 2005, Vol. 31, No. 2, 217–233) the subject is poorly researched both by number of studies and quality of their design. Researchers cannot agree on the definition of infidelity (intercourse vs. romantic vs. cyber internet relationships, etc., etc.) and neither can the general public or Bill Clinton. Even when researchers agree to define it as genital intercourse, the few studies document incidence that varies from 50% of the population to 6%! However, most studies agree that it is closer to 25% of married men and 15% of married women that have had extra-marital sex sometime in their life. Many of these people have had only one event for when these same groups are asked if they have had extra-marital sex in the last 12 month the percent drops to under 2%. Finally, research cannot agree on how it affects a committed relationship. Though most studies document its painful impact, it is unclear if an affair is the cause of a poor relationship or is a product of a bad marriage. There are two studies that even document improved relationships as a result of affairs. Though research is unclear Hollywood is not. Infidelity in films is depicted as common, extremely erotic and dangerously destructive. This is why Lady Chatterley is such different and noteworthy film.

Lady Chatterley is a provocative and beautifully filmed story about the re-birth of a woman due in-part, to an affair. The film is based on D.H. Lawrence’s writing. Lawrence in fact, wrote 3 versions of this erotic story. Lady Chatterley is based on an earlier version and one where the erotic story develops slowly and where the characters are “softer.” This French film with English sub-titles is a story of a wealthy women Lady Chatterley played by Marina Hands. Her husband returns from WWI crippled both physically and spiritually. To escape her lifeless marriage she forms a friendship with the gardener, who has a cottage on their estate. The friendship turns both sexual and romantic. However, the real storyline in this movie is both more complex and more liberating.

Lady Chatterley is a captive in a prison of depression. Despite her wealth, she is enslaved in a house full of despair and hopelessness. Her Victorian society of the turn of the century keeps both her spirit and body wrapped in many layers. Lady Chatterley is a story about how a woman literally and figuratively removes these layers. Her freedom first comes from getting out of the house, walking in nature and enjoying the garden. The film has beautiful nature scenes. We walk with her through the woods and the camera spends as much time on a butterfly and the wild flowers as on the actors. Her freedom next comes with experiencing sex with a stranger. The sex scenes move from Lady Chatterley being a passive observer, to her first exploration of a man’s penis, to the discovery of her own passion and finally to teaching her lover the joys of running nude in the rain. Her final step to freedom is in the surprise ending where her new found freedom lifts the spirits of her husband and where she encourages her lover to enjoy the passion of his own wife!

The film provides an excellent road map for ending depression. A therapist certainly would not prescribe an affair, however a prescription would include getting out of your head and into your body and nature. It would include taking risks and changing your environment. I rented this film hoping that it would include the tasteful soft-core French eroticism similar to the movie “Emmanuelle” (1974-NR). Instead, this is a bold and complex film of sensuality, nature, sexuality and passion. This is also a film that cast a very different light on infidelity. It is very different than the painful outcomes of “Unfaithful (2002-R)”, “Indecent Proposal” (1993- R). and “Body Heat” (1981-R. The outcomes from Lady Chatterley are ones of hope, renewal, healing and movement towards honesty. The movie captures some of the complexities of affairs that the research lacks. One word of caution, stay with the film through its very slow moving first 20 minutes. You will be rewarded.

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REFLECTIONS ON OUR APRIL 2008 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

"The event massage last April in NC was just great . PAUL & EMILY are wonderful hosts, the house very cozy, and the group very respectful and charmy. For both of us being our first experience in the lifestyle, everything was pleasurable and full of excitement; not only sexually, but also in making new and good friends from all backgrounds and interests. A, did enjoy the massage so much, and she suggest to prolong it to 1/2 Hr . We both enjoyed the erotic and sensual touch. Once again, thank you very much to the group; and especially to the hosts Paul and Emily for having us at your place and making us feel very happy. Everyone was very nice, and we hope to see you again."

"Thanks again for including us last weekend !!! We had a great time and met some wonderful people. Please keep us in mind for future events. Look forward to seeing y'all again soon"

" We just want to say thanks again for an absolutely wonderful afternoon and evening at the River House. You two did a great job of making us feel welcome!! The group was delightful and we so enjoyed meeting all of the folks, and, especially seeing the two of again. Time does fly so quickly, doesn't it?"

"I (as a single women) had a wonderful time, Thanks for your great hospitality"

"We had a fantastic time this past weekend -- we didn't think it was possible, but it was better than the first two times we attended a session. The dancing on Friday with the get-to-know you questions was brilliant. Please continue using that mechanism."

"we liked getting together with old friends and making new friends, the dancing was great but too short!. this was great, maybe a Tantra workshop would be fun"

"the people, socializing, sensuality, the format, music, physical environment and meals were all great, everything was very good, maybe one thing different would be to add a floor mat in the great room for a second play area, Paul & Emily, your wonderful!"

"loved Saturday night dinner and playing in the swim spa, people need to be here before the massage and maybe have smaller parties, thanks for a great time,"

"wish this was closer to home, loved the quiet time and wished we had more time together"

"loved the friendliness of everyone, you could not improve on the fun"

The number of couples that attended was (10 couples and 1 single woman) The attendees home states were North Carolina (2), Virginia (1), New York (1), Maryland (2), South Carolina (1), Florida (2) and Georgia (2). The ages of guests ranged from the 40's to 60's. As is common with our events, most of the couples were in their 50's. The couple’s experience in the lifestyle: First experience (2), One to five pervious events (2), One to five years in the lifestyle (3), Over five years lifestyle experience (4), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa, Lifestyle Conventions or Lifestyle cruises (8).

EVENT DESCRIPTION:

All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The hot tub was full for much of the evening and served as a perfect place for conversation and touching. Some couples continued the play in the group room. The spas were also a center for conversation and activity on Saturday.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). During Saturday afternoon many couples enjoyed walks, boating, the swim spa and the hot tub.

A Saturday night meal was prepared. All ladies dressed in very attractive and erotic attire. Many thanks to M & S for the main course. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom, moved to private bedrooms or simply enjoyed the spa.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Plans were made to meet again.

MARCH 2008 NEWSLETTER

VISIT TO HEDONISM II IN JAMAICA
Hedonism II exceeded our expectations. We have heard so much about this resort that we were fairly sure we knew what to expect. Yet, we were surprised, and the surprise was not from the sex. So let's dispense quickly with a repeat of the well documented Hedo II sex scene.

Sex is performed by couples in the open during much of the day. The "performances" are most commonly done on rubber floats about 20 yards off the beach, but could be anywhere on the nude side of the resort. In the late evening the nude hot tub is the location for the action. Most nights there are numerous couples enjoying oral sex and all types of other sex. Yet, we must add a word of caution about "swinging." As we have experienced in most erotic resorts and clubs, a couple enjoying sex in the open for others to watch does not mean they have sex with other couples. Most couples still "only" have sex with each other and if they do "play" with other couples many (maybe even most?) still only enjoy "soft swing". To illustrate, on our last day we were invited to join a group that visits Hedo each year. They hit the hot tub and immediately begin giving and receiving oral sex with each other, most at the same time. We later learned that this was the 30th Hedo II trip for the lead couples and the 15th visit for the assistant lead couple. With further discussions we learned that the lead couple has never has penis-vagina sex with another couple whereas the assistant couple only has had intercourse with another couple three times. This being said there were still many couples at Hedo II that do enjoy the "full montie".

The sex and nudity at Hedo II was not a surprise, this was what we expected. We were surprised and impressed with the beautiful resort grounds, the service, the food and the attitude of the staff. The grounds were spacious with many, many hidden places and areas for quiet space. The resort is built on a slight terrace above the beautiful Caribbean Sea. The resort has built lovely small pools and waterfalls at the different terrace levels, each with their own quite space. We found this a lovely surprise.

The food was delicious and the service was great. This again exceeded our expectation. We know others have rated the food as only acceptable. This was not our experience.

Finally, a vacation spot should be judged by how staff respond to unexpected problems. Our hotel room bathroom's plumbing was not functioning and they immediately upgraded us to another room. Emily stepped on a sea urchin the second day and was nearly unable to walk. The resort's nurse spent a hour extracting each of the barnacles applying disinfectant and bandages. She was walking and doing fine only 90 minutes after the treatment. There was no charge for this care.

Hedonism II met our expectations as a wonderful nude and erotic resort. It exceeded our expectations as a beautiful location with wonderful food and service.

Here are 5 pictures of the beautiful grounds of Hedonism II
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SEX IN THE DESERT submitted by M & S
Hello Everyone, We just returned from hiking in Death Valley. If you like exploring on your own, great scenery and solitude ­ then you certainly should consider heading to DV for a vacation.
It’s an easy drive from Vegas, LA, San Francisco or San Diego. Just be sure to visit in fall, winter or early spring. We certainly plan to return. Here's a short Q&A of special interest to this group.

Q. Could you and did you hike clothing optional?
A. OMG yes -- this is the perfect place to hike nude except you need your boots of course. You can hike nude for hours without seeing another person. It's a little chilly in the canyons out of the sun, but otherwise it feels so good.
Q. Can you enjoy outdoor sex in Death Valley?
A. Absolutely -- DV is the perfect place for raw, primeval, glorious outdoor sex. Just be sure to bring a blanket if you decide to have fun on the sand dunes. All of your clothes piled together can help soften the hard rock. You can scream and shout your orgasms and no one will hear you.
Q. Is it true the stars shine so brightly in Death Valley that you can have sex outdoors at night?
A. Coupling under the stars can be a life-changing event. Just be sure the guy shares bottom time so he see the stars too.
Q. Isn't it awkward having sex if you are both wearing hiking boots?
A. It's best to take off your hiking boots, but the guy should always wear socks in case he must squash a scorpion.
submitted by M & S

REFLECTIONS ON OUR JANUARY 2008 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

VISIT TO PLEASURE GROVE in GEORGIA
"Emily and I visited a nude/swing resort in Georgia called Pleasure Grove over Thanksgiving. http://www.pleasuregroveresort.com/ We found the people very friendly and enjoyed our stay. The resort is more of a rustic campground-trailer Park setting. It is nestled in a valley just south of the major mountains of Georgia and within 10 miles of the resort town of Helen. This is a nudist-swinging location. To our knowledge, the only one of it's kind in the states. There are Friday and Saturday night dances that are very erotic and overtly sexual. At 11pm, a separate "party house" is opened where there is on-site sexual play. The dances are the most openly erotic we have experienced. They included a number of couples enjoying oral sex and a few stopping just short of actual intercourse. The resort has a fairly large swimming pool that was not heated during our visit and a large very comfortable hot tub (maybe large enough for 5-8 couples). During our stay we met two professional couples. The real plus of this resort is its close location to the beautiful hiking trails of the Smoky Mountains. We enjoyed breath taking hikes to a beautiful waterfall at the Unicoi State Park. This park was a short 20 min. drive from Pleasure Grove. There are many more upscale accommodation within 15 minutes of The Pleasure Grove, if that would be one's choice. We stayed in a small but very comfortable modular home within the resort for $360 for two nights including two meals. The resort is adult only and does not allow single men. We enjoyed our stay and will probably return." Attached is a link to a photo from our hikes in the state park. http://couples-for-massage.com/temp/025.JPG

REFLECTIONS ON OUR JANUARY 2008 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT
"We loved the dancing, the house, the hosts and communication! Next time we will arrive on-time. Love these weekends, we'll be back!"

"We liked the massage, relaxed setting and the playroom. Too much food! A bigger hot tub would be a plus."

"We enjoyed the weekend and believe we have forged some enduring friendships in the warmth of erotic massage. Everyone was extremely helpful in filling the gaps that developed when a couple was unable to attend. We both appreciate longer massage sessions, rather than just a 12 minute and then flip. While it is strenuous for the members of the team, investing the energy in a longer, more fulfilling session is well worth the extra effort. We feel this is true for us with all folks, regardless of their level of experience with erotic message."

"We enjoyed the playroom, music and dancing, and great dinner conversation with guests. Need to add more 60's & 70's music."

"We had a great time. This is the best group we have seen. The mix of couples was very good. The ladies looked great and B loved the attention she got. The Group Room both nights was hot and B and I enjoyed the evenings of both soft and hard play. The massage session was again very sensual and erotic. B enjoyed the attention afterwards and the threesome I participated in will be etched in my memory. The conversations were intriguing and since the weekend B and I have not been able to keep our hands off one another. Thanks for another great weekend. B suggested that dinner be moved up Saturday to allow more playtime. I agree."

"Thanks to the host and hostess for such a great event. I really enjoyed the massage weekend! I can't say enough nice things about all the wonderful people I met. As a single I always felt welcomed and never felt awkward or pressured. I loved the place, the meals, the conversation, the dancing and of course the hot tub. I was hoping we'd spend a little more time learning the actual massage techniques, but I guess "hands on" training works best! I hope to visit again in the near future."

reply from Paul
"A very reasonable request! Emily and I would love to have you back on a weekend where we could learn and practice techniques. We gave only a brief instruction on this weekend because most had attended the massage weekend in the past. We have two excellent instructional DVD on erotic massage. We could also demonstrate some other techniques. Maybe there are others who would enjoy an event where the focus would be on more instruction. Thanks for the comment , Paul"

The number of couples that attended was (7)
The attendees home states were North Carolina (3), Virginia (3), and Arizona (1)
The ages of guests ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, six of the couples were in their 50's.
The couple’s experience in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to five pervious events (2), One to five years in the lifestyle (3), Over five years lifestyle experience (2), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa, Lifestyle Conventions or Lifestyle cruises (4).


REFLECTIONS ON OUR NOVEMBER 2007 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

M & S wrote us before the event and offered a few suggestions to improve our events. Here was their suggestions:
"Based upon our one and only massage event -- and in total humility to those who have gone before us and have much, much more experience -- We would like to offer some environmental/party suggestions for the upcoming event. On Friday there should be some background music to help set the mood. Just what type of music I'm not sure. We don't like hip-hop, but others may love it. Something to dance to would be nice. I'm being selfish when I suggest that because my bride gets more turned on when we go dancing. She also uses dancing as a way of evaluating guys -- how good do they dance -- how good are they at conversation while dancing --how graceful etc. etc. Knowing this you may wonder how in the world she ever decided to marry me? It's something I continue to wonder about. Of course, it helps that you already have a perfect room for dancing. In the playroom, please consider having a television set on with sound off or real low showing a really good erotic films. This isn't so much to sit down and watch, as to simply set the visual mood for the room. We have some classic erotic films we can bring if you want -- . Somehow I feel you have plenty of good stuff.
We followed their suggestions which were similar to J & B at our Maine event. In the end we all agreed that the dancing was great fun and added to the event. It allows for another Friday evening fun, "get to know you" activity when the hot tub was full. We also agreed that the erotic films in the play room really did not add anything positive to the mood.

The number of couples that attended was (7)
The attendees home states were North Carolina (5), Virginia (1), and Florida (1)
The ages of guests ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, five of the couples were in their 50's.
The couple’s experience in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to three pervious events (2), One to five years in the lifestyle (4), Over five years lifestyle experience (2), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa, Lifestyle Conventions or Lifestyle cruises (6).

EVENT DESCRIPTION:
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The hot tub was full for much of the evening and served as a perfect place for conversation and touching. Some couples continued the play in the group room. The spas were also a center for conversation and activity on Saturday.
After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per one group and two couples per two groups. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). During Saturday afternoon many couples enjoyed walks, the swim spa and the hot tub.
A Saturday night meal was prepared. All ladies dressed in very attractive and erotic attire. Many thanks to D & A for the main course of Shrimp Creole. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom, moved to private bedrooms or simply enjoyed the spa. Most couples enjoy "soft swing" erotic play throughout the weekend.
Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Plans were made to meet again. In discussions about film, a number of couples strongly recommended the Ang Lee film The Wedding Banquet. See below for a review of this film.

COMMENTS FROM COUPLES:
Dear Paul and Emily, We had a great time this weekend. Thank you both for sponsoring it. We enjoyed dancing on Friday night. S felt a little strange in that no other women got dressed up-- but that didn't stop us. The food was excellent. We don't feel there is any need for any games unless the weather turns bad. The hot tub was great Friday even with the wind blowing. We like your idea of limiting the number of couples to no more than nine even if some of them cancel at the last minute. Can't think of anything right at this moment. thanks again for a wonderful time. M and S

Hi Emily and Paul - Thanks for a fun weekend. Your house on the river is so beautiful and relaxing, and it was great to meet everyone. D & J

Paul and Emily, Thank you for the weekend! D and I had a wonderful time -- we really did. I enjoyed your place and all the people, as you could probably tell. It was a great experience for us and we achieved what we hoped for -- all positive things. ...I felt so close right from the start (no surprises there!). Maybe you got complaints of noise from others??!!? ha! Thanks again, J & D



REFLECTIONS ON OUR SEPTEMBER 2007 MAINE EVENT

REFLECTIONS ON OUR SEPTEMBER 2007 MAINE EVENT
The number of couples that attended was (7)
The attendees home states were North Carolina (1), Maine (2), Vermont (1), and Massachusetts (3)
The ages of guests ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their 50's.
The couple’s experience in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to three pervious events (0), One to five years in the lifestyle (2), Over five years lifestyle experience (5), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa or Lifestyle Conventions (5).

EVENT DESCRIPTION:
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. The spas were also a center for conversation and activity throughout the weekend. Paul & Emily showed a 10 minute DVD clip of an erotic massage from Emmanuel-2 and also a 5 minute clip from The Alexander Institute's SoulMates V.1. Paul and Emily also distributed samples from the ARKADIA company www.myarkadia.com , these included Water-Based Lubricant, Silicone-Based Lubricant, Warming Lubricant, Medium Strength Heightener, Maximum Strength Heightener, Vaginal Moisturizer and Vaginal Exercise Balls .
After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per one group and two couples per two groups. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). During Saturday afternoon many couples enjoyed walks and the hot tub.
A Saturday night meal was prepared. Many thanks to J&J and D&D for a delicious evening meal. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom, moved to private bedrooms or simply enjoyed the spa.
Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Plans were made to meet again.

IN THE NEWS
M & S, who attended the June North Carolina massage event, traveled to Alaska on a nude cruise. They along with Paul wrote a travel review/DVD reviewed titled, "Nude Alaskan Cruise and the Movie “Swinging: From Fantasy to Reality” (2004) –Educational." The review was printed in Paul's blog http://sexinfilm.blogspot.com/ but then was picked up and reprinted in the well known erotic journal magazine Clean Sheets http://www.cleansheets.com/toc.shtml in their August 22nd edition. Here is a link to our review http://www.cleansheets.com/coverstories/movie_08.22.07.shtml
Paul and Emily have been asked by Castaways Travels http://www.travelnude.com/ to present a massage instruction session during the Danube (Nude) Adult Cruise, July 20-27, 2008 http://www.danubeadultcruise.com/

REFLECTIONS ON OUR JUNE 2007 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

DID YOU THINK WE DIED AND WENT TO MASSAGE HEAVEN?

No we didn't die despite our web site being down for the last 60 days! In fact we have created a whole new web site location and whole new email!! Our new site looks very similar to our old site but has a new web address and we have a new email address for our couples massage correspondence. Our new web address is http://couples-for-massage.com Our new massage couples email address is mail@couples-for-massage.com

We have also made changes to improve our security and confidentiality. We no longer will post the exact dates of our weekend massage events on the web. We will post an event schedule listing only the months. The exact dates of our events will be available only to couples that are "members" of our massage couples mailing list. If you have attending any of our events you are automatically added to our member list. For other couples, it is a simple process to become members. Simple send us a brief bio and a statement that you agree to our confidentiality policy. The complete details of membership can be found at http://couples-for-massage.com/datesa.html

We understand that this newsletter is mailed to hundreds of couples that have never attended our events but nonetheless, are very interested in couples sensual and erotic massage. We want you to send us a bio and a statement agreeing to confidentiality. Over the next 6 months we will transition away from our current large mailing list to a "members only" mailing list. You will continue to receive the newsletter and a schedule of weekend events for approximately the next 6 months. Thereafter, only our members will receive the event schedule.

OUR NEXT EVENT IN MAINE SEPTEMBER 14-16, 2007
We invite you to join us for a massage-hot tub-dinner party the weekend Friday September 14th to Sunday September 16th, 2007. The gathering will be held in southern Maine about 3 hours drive north from Boston's Logan Airport. The event will be held at our Farm. The Farm is a remodeled 1850 farm, located on 5 acres, nestled in a beautiful mountain valley surrounded by rolling hills. Located on a sparkling clear lake, perfect for all season recreation. Only 40 miles from the Appalachian Trail and the large peaks of the White Mountains, these foot hills offer both beauty and day hiking. The Farm contains an outdoor hot tub and indoor sauna. The Farm has six private bedrooms and large rooms for group play. With large groups we rent additional close by housing. As with all our events, the highlights will be sensual massage, erotic dress up dinner and evening lifestyle playtime. All couples and single women interested in attending our next massage weekend please send updated bios emails to mail@couples-for-massage.com

Our web page, which describes our erotic massage events, is located at http://couples-for-massage.com
REFLECTIONS ON OUR JUNE 2007 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT
The NUMBER OF COUPLES that attended was (7)
The ATTENDERS HOME STATES WERE North Carolina (4), Florida (2), and Massachusetts (1)
The AGES OF THE GUESTS ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's.
The COUPLES' EXPERIENCE in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to three pervious events (1), One to five years in the lifestyle (3), Over five years lifestyle experience (3), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa or Lifestyle Conventions (5).

EVENT DESCRIPTION:
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation and activity throughout the weekend. Paul & Emily showed a 10 minute DVD clip of an erotic massage from Emmanuel-2.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per one group and two couples per two groups. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital).
During Saturday afternoon many couples enjoyed the heated swim spa. The swim spa has a rapid current that allows for much wonderful nude adult play. Some couples enjoyed the canoes and kayaks.
A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom, moved to private bedrooms or enjoyed the spa.
Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

Finally,
Emily and Paul would like to report that they have a wonderful time on the 10 day nude cruise in the Caribbean in February. A week with 1250 other nude people traveling to the islands of Bonaire, Curacao, Dominica, St. Thomas and Bahamas. The cruise was booked through Bare Necessities http://www.cruisenude.com/ . We had a wonderful time and met some wonderful couples. In fact, one couple that we met on the cruise joined us for this massage weekend. As a side note, we also stayed at a lifestyle hotel in Hollywood, Florida called Roof Top Resort http://www.rooftopresort.com/attract.htm .

The cruise made us think about the next cruise we are planning in the summer of 2008. It is a river cruise (nude with lifestyle couples) down the Danube River in Germany. Here is a web site with the advertisement http://www.danubeadultcruise.com/ . We welcome couples to write us if they are interested in this great vacation.

COMMENTS FROM GUESTS
Hi Emily and Paul We had a grand time. What great new friends we've made, and we do hope to see any and all of you again soon! You are the sexiest host and hostess--thanks sooooo much for making this happen. Hmmm, changes to suggest..... I had a hard time seeing and hearing the DVD on Fri. night--could we have all headed into the "playroom" and watched it on the larger TV in there? It was VERY erotic! This slightly smaller group was fun, as well. We all got more of an opportunity to know each other. Please share our email address with the group. We just wanted to say how much we enjoyed talking with everyone, getting to know you and enjoying massage and other fun with you. We hope we get to see you in North Carolina again, or perhaps in Maine. We wish everyone a wonderful summer and if you are ever in eastern NC and want a place to stay, let us know. We would love to see everyone again at some point in the future.
P and P

Hello Everyone: C & W here. Just wanted to say thank you to all of you for making our first time experience at a couples weekend so relaxing and pleasurable. P & E do an amazing job of coordinating so many people's wants, needs and desires. We were made to feel so welcome. Both of us felt that there was a tremendous amount of respect and safety afforded us and that speaks highly of the quality of people that attended. You gave us the freedom to do and be however we chose without any kind of pressure in anyway. To say the venue is fabulous, is an understatement. We are a little partial to this area for many reasons, so it made being able to spend quiet time here without all the hustle and bustle of kids, cell phones and jobs that much more enjoyable. From a white wine snob, my only food or drink request is that more choices in white wines be available. Not everyone drinks red and I also heard someone else make a comment regarding same. The food was great, well-prepared and well-organized. It never appeared that anyone was having to shoulder too much of a burden. I understand now why you need more massage tables. We were with another couple of first-timers and I think all of us were very pleased with the experience. It was hard for us to imagine having another couple to massage or even having that many more hands involved. We couldn't figure out how we would have gotten another couple taken care of with allotted time. Everyone asked for what they wanted and everyone received that, at least from my perspective. It ended up quite erotically. We are looking forward to attending again some time in the future. Cheers to everyone! C & W

Dear Emily and Paul, We want to again thank you for a wonderful and exciting weekend. We greatly appreciate your efforts in hosting the event. We know how much work is involved. Your institute is helping many, many couples. Please KEEP doing this. We particularly liked the setting -- it's perfect. We enjoyed meeting new people and learning about them. The small-group setting -- ideally no more than 12 couples is perfect. Anything larger would become unwieldy. FYI -- before coming we read three books about the Lifestyle. We were amazed at how one book -- "Doing One for the Team" so accurately explained and predicted what we could expect by attending an event such as yours. Because of our research we were able to better enjoy, adapt and understand the group dynamics that occurred at your house. Thanks again for a great time. M & S

Hello everyone -- just wanted to say how much fun we had during the North Carolina event. It was quite a positive experience -- one that we certainly want to repeat. The afternoon in the swim/spa was especially fun --- and instructive. Yes indeed. We're getting ready for a clothing-optional cruise to Alaska next month. We'll give you an update after we return. M & S

What? No toy show? It matters little. We always learn something new. This time it was aquaphilia, something that had never even dawned on us. We tried it in the flowing pool. Will the wonders never cease? We got to know about half of the assembled company quite well. Perhaps with a little (dirty?) dancing we would have had a chance to know everyone better. The DVD was an interesting warm up. Maybe we should have had a massage demo right then and there. Folks could practice later on Friday evening. Since this was our third gathering, we know the ropes, but we remember our tentative, awkward sensitivity at our first event. As such, we can identify with newcomers. We know that there is no pressure, but newbies to the weekend should be reassured that nothing has to happen - if they don't want it to. These weekends enhance out relationship. We like the fluidity of erotic group interaction. We always take something new away with us. We can do for each other the beautiful things that others have done for us. J and B

Amazingly, we felt as if we were at a loving reunion with dear friends. Everything about the weekend was pleasurable and comfortable: It was interesting to see how many interests we shared. Consequently, conversation easily ran the gamut of travel, sports, dining, politics, mutual pleasure, etc., -----------It was over too soon, and we eagerly look forward to getting together ASAP.! S & E

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REFLECTIONS ON OUR JANUARY 2007 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

The NUMBER OF COUPLES that attended was (10)
The ATTENDERS HOME STATES WERE North Carolina (6), New York (1), Virginia (2) and South Carolina (1)
The AGES OF THE GUESTS ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's.
The COUPLES’ EXPERIENCE in the lifestyle: First experience (1), One to three pervious events (0), One to five years in the lifestyle (3), Over five years lifestyle experience (6), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa or Lifestyle Conventions (5).

EVENT DESCRIPTION:
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation and activity throughout the weekend. D showed a 10 minute DVD clip from "an erotic musical."

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital).

During Saturday afternoon many couples enjoyed the heated swim spa. Despite temperatures in the 60's, the water temperature was in the high 80's. The swim spa has a rapid current that allows for much wonderful nude adult play.

A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom, moved to private bedrooms or enjoyed the spa. THANK YOU K & S FOR MANAGING THE DINNER. THANK YOU S & D FOR MANAGING SATURDAY BREAKFAST. THANK YOU D & G TO KEEPING THE HOT TUB FULL AND DECK CLEAN!

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again. Almost all the couples at the weekend massage event enjoyed a very erotic weekend. That is, at least from the laughter and erotic moans, we assume all had an enjoyable erotic time. Most of the erotic play was in the large master bedroom-playroom. However, occasionally individual couples would retreat to the private loft or their bedrooms. A few couples kept their play to soft swing with intercourse only with their partners. However, most enjoyed full sex with other partners. Some of the most enjoyable times were after extended erotic play and near exhaustion, couples would laugh and talk while still in a "pile."
The three massage groups, each containing three couples, were formed Saturday morning. The massage sessions lasted for nearly 3 hours. This was a very relaxing and often erotic time.

Finally, Emily and Paul are leaving for a 10 day nude cruise in the Caribbean this Friday. Yes, a week with 1250 other nude people traveling to the islands of Bonaire, Curacao, Dominica, St. Thomas and Bahamas. The cruise has been booked through Bare Necessities http://www.cruisenude.com/ . There has been much chatter on a sponsored cruise link. Many couples are seeking partners for a "special massage." We will see what develops. In any case we very much are looking forward to the vacation. As a side note, we will be staying at a swinging lifestyle hotel in Hollywood, Florida called Roof Top Resort http://www.rooftopresort.com/attract.htm . We will report on our adventures through our next massage event "newsletter."

This upcoming cruise made us think about the next cruise we are planning in the summer of 2008. It is a river cruise (nude with lifestyle couples) down the Danube River in Germany. Here is a web site with the advertisement http://www.danubeadultcruise.com/ . We welcome couples to write us if they are interested in this great vacation.

COMMENTS FROM GUESTS
Emily and Paul, As always, you two provided a wonderful setting, arranged for old friends to meet, new people to become friends, and assembled a mostly interesting group of people this past weekend. Thank you! Quote for the weekend: "I'm familiar with that product!"
Movie list from the Sunday discussion:
Pieces of April
Sirens
Eating Raul
Babbet's Feast
Like Water for Chocolate
Motorcycle Diaries
Don Juan de Marco
Delta of Venus
Hope your next adventures are pleasant ones! hugs, K & S

Paul & Emily. Being new to this part of the country, we are always concerned about who we will meet and how welcome we will be. We were welcomed warmly by our host and found that we shared common interests with the group (books, wine, travel, food, good conversation). Despite the fact that many of those attending were long time friends, they were welcoming. It takes a while to get to know people and to be included in their playtime, but this was a good start. What we really liked;
-the massage session. Not only did it feel sooo good, it gave us an opportunity to really get to know two or more other couples
-the water play. To us, water, particularly warm water is a wonderful way to relax and enjoy others
-the fact that everyone participated in cooking, clean up, etc. This is another great way to get to know others
-the diversity and quality of the conversation.
We have a very strong relationship and see weekends such as these where we enjoy playtime appetizers with others as the first course of a fine meal. One then goes home and enjoys a very rich entree with one's partner. And then a day or so later, we have dessert. See you next time. D & N
p.s. and by the way, the entree and dessert were fantastic.

Hey Paul and Emily Great weekend! thanks so much for hosting these parties. They are the highlight of our year. We certainly look forward to them each time they happen and they never fail to be fun and exciting. P & P

REFLECTIONS ON OUR NOVEMBER 2006 MAINE EVENT

All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital).

A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

The weekend was very erotic. We never know exactly what to expect. Couples sometimes write asking "will this or that" happen. We reply that.., well, it has happened in the past, but (like investing money) "past performance is no guarantee on the future." Frequently couple write asking about group sex where partners exchange and where women enjoy women as much as men. All of this happening in one room. Well, most of the couples this weekend were very much into this type of group play. It started in the hot tub Friday evening, moved to the "play" room and then repeated late Saturday afternoon. The hot tub was particularly fun with the warm water acting as a lubricant for exchanging partners. Each "session" was 2+ hours of great fun. Four to six couples together making love and switching partners about every 30 minutes, or connecting with different sets of threesomes. Apart from the group sex the couples enjoyed real good massage and very enjoyable, fun conversation.

COMMENTS FROM GUESTS
Thanks for a lovely time. We had a very memorable time. It was so nice meeting you both and we do hope to see you in North Carolina, all things considered. The January week end will definitely be convenient given the Monday holiday. We hope the new group will be as much fun. We can certainly stay in touch with activities/plans for Europe as well. Best wishes for a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday! K & S

Another great Maine Farm weekend with a wonderful, quirky group of very energetic people. The weather was great; the hot tub was wonderful; the massage was the best yet and everyone had more fun than is legal. The traditional Saturday night diner was just right. (thanks to the other J and B) We are looking forward to seeing some of our new friends soon, and some of our old friends often. The Farm is just the best place to meet new friends and catch up with old friends. Thanks P & E for your friendship and always sage advise. We are already looking forward to next time. J & B

Paul,
Once again, thank you for a wonderful time. As usual, your weekend has elevated our mood and energized our spirit. Can't wait to do it again. As always, you attract a fun, attractive, intelligent and sexy group and we appreciate being part of it. Please feel free to exchange our email, We look forward to hearing from you all. Thanks, A and D

Dear Paul & Emily: P and I had SUCH a wonderful time at the Farm. As 'newbies', we felt immediately comfortable with the group as you welcomed us into your home. We are STILL talking about how sincere, wonderful, and real this group is, and we can't wait to see some and/or all of you soon. Again, thanks so much for your hospitality and warmth, and again, may I apologize for P's bad jokes and, as D would say, 'quirkiness'........[] Lots of Love, C & P xoxoxoxo

Paul & Emily On our second trip to the Farm, we had a real good time. It was helpful to have learned the routine and the ropes on our first visit. Generally, it was a good crowd with some silly fun and lots of laughter. It was apparent that the flow may differ from one weekend to another. Last time there was Friday night dancing, but this time several couples just "dove" right in. We have an aversin to night driving, so we arrived before the appointed hour. We think a 7 pm rendezvous confines Friday evening. Folks are unloading, grabbing supper, visiting with old acquaintances. Just jump into the tub and it's suddenly late - with lots more to do on the 'morrow. The music was a plus! On Saturday, we missed the toy show to which we were looking forward (as toy novices). Why not have a display case with function, source and prices labeled? Email address may be shared. Our best wishes for continued warmth during the winter. J and B

From Emily and Paul to J & B: A big thank you for managing Saturday night meal. It was wonderful!!! T hanks for all your work.

LIFESTYLE TRAVEL
We have been writing the Lifestyle travel agent Castaways Travel http://www.travelnude.com/ about a riverboat cruise in Europe. We are excited to offer the following event to couples and friends.

Castaway Travel reports: We have just signed a contract for a European Adults Only, Couples Only clothing-optional, luxury river boat cruise from Budapest to Nuremburg/Prague for one week, July 20-27, 2008, In port... clothes must be worn. This cruise is primarily for "hedonistic" couples only but no public sex. The ship's luxury cabins, all river view, (no inside accommodations) total 75 (or 150 cruisers). Accommodations range from $2,199/person Deluxe cabin to $2,999/person for Luxury suites with river view windows that open to the river. The Ship itself was voted the # 1 River Cruise vessel recently and has a fabulous flat sun deck up top for great tanning during the summer months sailing up the Danube River. Daily excursions are INCLUDED and we are planning wine tasting, visit to beer halls in Germany and other surprises. Deposit is $1,500/person to hold your space. Cruise is clothing optional and includes luxury accommodations, all meals, captain's cocktail parties, daily shore excursions and excursion transportation. Airfare, taxes and tips extra. The web site is being created right now and will have much more to show you shortly. Because of your interest, you are the absolute FIRST to be told about this so make sure your people who are interested let us know soonest. We anticipate this will sell out quickly so let us hear from you. Thanks again.....James Castaways Travel

Emily and I will be signing up for a Luxury suit and will host evening massage and other play. We expect many other couples to be interested. Please consider joining us. We are extending this invitation to all couples to join our group. If you have not attended our weekends, but are interested in this event, please write us for more details. Wouldn't this be great fun!!!

REFLECTIONS ON OUR SEPTEMBER 2006 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

We had a wonderfully relaxing and erotic time at our September event. Only three couples including ourselves attended the event. Family illnesses, personal illness, scheduling problems and complicated travel conflicts forced the other 7 couples to cancel. The two couples that attended traveled from Canada and Rhode Island and therefore prohibited any consideration about cancelling the event. In the end, the six of us created a different experience from our usual high energy, party style, massage events. The weekend was luxuriously slow, intimate and erotic. Our massage lasted nearly all Saturday. All six welcomed highly erotic caresses and touch. Though the weekend was "soft swing", all six enjoyed organisms on the massage table through both massage and oral play. The cycle of massage for each participant started with sensual full body stokes and then progressed to genital and oral play. The three women delivered a join oral and full body massage to each of the men. The women were comfortable giving and getting pleasure from both the men and women. Sometime the massage ended with a couple having intercourse with their spouse while others massaged. Emily and I commented afterwards that the small number and compatibility of the six allowed the group to take plenty of time for each massage and enjoy longer periods of "recess" between massage. At other times during the weekend, people enjoyed toys and ads to pleasuring. Emily introduced her (current) favorite two toys, one is an clear-"glass like" object shaped in a "J." She has found again her "G" spot and shared this toy with guests. Her other (current) toy is also a clear-"glass like" object shaped in a "lazy U." This toy was shown to be an excellent connection for women-women play. Both toys were used by the women. The men thoroughly enjoyed watching the show.

OUR JUNE 2006 NORTH CAROLINA WEEKEND

The NUMBER OF COUPLES that attended was (7)
DESCRIPTION OF LOCATION-NORTH CAROLINA: The event was at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's outdoor deck, hot tub and swim spa were enjoyed by all participants. A privacy (nude friendly) fence surrounds our grounds. The Riverhouse is located on a bluff overlooking a popular boating area and access to the ocean.
The ATTENDERS HOME STATES WERE North Carolina (5), New Hampshire (1), and Virginia (1).
The AGES OF THE GUESTS ranged from the 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's.
The COUPLES’ EXPERIENCE in the lifestyle: First experience (2), One to three pervious events (0), One to five years in the lifestyle (3), Over five years lifestyle experience (2), attended lifestyle convention (1), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa (3).
EVENT DESCRIPTION:
First time couples and new couples to the lifestyle arrived early Friday evening for a question and answer session with Paul & Emily. During this time couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The meeting was also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and had signed the confidentiality statement.
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks, naps or spent the afternoon in the spa and hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Most everyone enjoyed the spas.
Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom. Some couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed "full swap" with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

SPECIAL ACTIVITIES & HAPPENING AT THIS EVENT
Paul & Emily led a sex-toy demonstration on Saturday night.
One couple were former owners of a Lingerie erotic night wear store. They brought outfits from their store and a number of the ladies modeled the outfits for the group.
VIDEOS
We have a number of erotic massage and general erotic videos. We would be happy to loan them to couples who have attended the massage weekends. Please write us if you are interested.

OUR APRIL 2006 MAINE WEEKEND

The NUMBER OF COUPLES that attended was (8)
DESCRIPTION OF LOCATION-MAINE: The Farm is a remodeled 1850 farm, located on 5 acres, nestled in a beautiful mountain valley surrounded by rolling hills 3 hours north of Boston. Located on a sparkling clear lake. The Farm is only 40 miles from the Appalachian Trail and the large pikes of the White Mountains. The Farm has an 8 person hot tub, sauna and boating.
The ATTENDERS HOME STATES WERE North Carolina (1), Massachusetts (3), New Hampshire (1), New Jersey (1), Maine (1), and Rhode Island (1).
The AGES OF THE GUESTS ranged from the 40's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's.
The COUPLES’ EXPERIENCE in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to three pervious events (3), One to five years in the lifestyle (2), Over five years lifestyle experience (3), attended lifestyle convention (0), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa (4).
EVENT DESCRIPTION:
First time couples and new couples to the lifestyle arrived early Friday evening for a question and answer session with Paul & Emily. During this time couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The meeting was also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and had signed the confidentiality statement.
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks, naps or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Most everyone enjoyed the spas. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group playroom. Many couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed "full swap" with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.
SPECIAL ACTIVITIES & HAPPENING AT THIS EVENT A five minute segment of the film Xana & Dax: When Opposites Attract (2005) was shown during the Friday introduction session.
A large room with music and low lighting was set-aside for Friday night dancing.
Two films introducing erotic massage were shown throughout the weekend.
Paul & Emily led a sex-toy demonstration on Saturday night.

SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES
Another wonderful Maine Farm weekend. Relaxing and exciting at the same time. Another incredible, eclectic group of people. The weather was great, the food was delicious, the chili was the perfect Saturday dinner...and, best of all, we had our host and hostess back....and for those of you who are reading the comments and wondering about attending an event...as good as this one was...the next one will be better. So don't miss sit...We won't. J&B on the Cape. Y'all come see us..ya hear!!

Hello Paul & Emily J and B (# 2) responding to Paul & Emily’s request for comments about the recent weekend at the Farm. You may use ours in your newsletter. There is much that we enjoyed about the weekend and we would do it again. As the leader-orchestrator-administrator Paul was excellent. He made us feel comfortable right from the start and was totally responsive to the few questions we raised. It is hard to say what we liked best. It might be the company; it might be the play; it could be that there was sufficient time to engage socially with others in attendance; it could be the structure or the lack of structure; it could be the ambience of accepted intimacy. What we liked least is the separation of couples into two-somes or groups for play that projected a quality of exclusivity and lack of fluidity. Perhaps it was the bright lights in the loft on Saturday night (at least when we left). We would have preferred the promotion of group play which would have been something new for us and given us the chance to interact with more people while allowing whoever wished to demur. It seems that the play times were pretty much set to occur in the evenings. Why not encourage it in the morning or the afternoon. Why go for a walk when you can get the exercise in bed? The weekend was good for our relationship. We learn something good about ourselves with every wholesome lifestyle experience. 1. Friday - We would encourage more social interaction among couples attending. We find that dancing is a good lead in to intimacy, but there were few participants. Perhaps some games might be conducive (without being hokey or too lifestyle contrived). 2. DVDs - Why is it that erotic videos always feature folks about half the average age of the attendees? Why not erotic videos of older folks? Maybe we need to make some ourselves! Perhaps we should have seen the massage videos on Friday evening or have them running where anyone could watch and had the erotic video on Saturday, during, maybe, a cocktail hour (with beer or wine, of course). 3. Show and tell toys We don't have any toys, so it was all news to us. 4. Food In general, it was grand and abundant. Maybe there should be less next time. We hate waste! 5. Sex in film Sure, add us to your list. The conversations and camaraderie of Sunday morning were very reassuring and comforting. You have our gratitude for making the weekend a memorable and enjoyable experience. Cheers to all J & B

Good evening Paul and Emily, It was wonderful to re-connect with the two of you and all of the great couples that showed up for the weekend massage. Thanks, again, for including us on short notice. We have no doubt that S recovery was significantly speeded up! We enjoyed each and every person who attended the event and hope to see them again. Please give this e-mail address to all of the weekend's participants. It seems to both J and myself, after a five year (or so) hiatus, that the weekend is better than ever. Much more relaxed and easy-going. Sex toys are so specific to individuals and couples. Thought your "presentation" was a lot of fun and a good ice-breaker. Cannot comment on the DVD's, however, since we were not there. Anyway, best to you both, hope to see you in late fall. Sailing in North Carolina in the summer sounds fabulous, but, realistically, we will defer to another season. Talk with you soon. Be well, all our best, S and J

Paul & Emily Had a great time. Also put us on list for N.C. in June as we will be in Atlanta at that time. Also you have an open invite to come to stay awhile with us. D & J

OUR JANUARY 2006 WEEKEND

Fourteen couples attended the weekend in NC January 13-15th. The event was at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's outdoor deck, hot tub and swim spa were completed. A privacy (nude friendly) fence now surrounds our grounds. The attenders came from North Carolina (12), Virginia (1), and New York (1). The ages of the guests ranged from their 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As is also common with our events there was a range of experience in the lifestyle. For some attenders ( 3) this was one of only a few experiences. All other attenders had been in the lifestyle for over 3 years. Six couples attenders have had over 5 years experience in the lifestyle. Six couples have visited either Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa.

All but two couple arrived Friday evening. One couple left Friday evening. First time and new couples to the lifestyle received a telephone call from Paul & Emily prior to the event. During these calls, couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The calls were also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and agreed to the confidentiality statement.

All enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The evening included a spin the bottle game of introductions. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle. A five minute segment of the film Xana & Dax: When Opposites Attract (2005) was shown. Friday's play began early in the evening and lasted well into the night. Much of the erotic play started in the swim spa (a 9' x 16' waist deep swimming pool with an active current), hot tub and then progressed to the bedrooms and then ended back in the swim spa. The swim spa was also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into four groups, with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks, naps or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Most everyone enjoyed the swim spa. The spa has a jet that simulates a current. The current can be adjusted for intensity. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group play room. Many couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

One couple left the weekend early because they were uncomfortable with the sexual nature of the event. This has happened 3 times in the last 9 weekend events. Emily and Paul have tried to prevent these early leavings by providing more detailed written information about the events and phone interviews for all first time couples. It seems that couples new to the lifestyle, first time attenders and couples in a new relationship are particularly vulnerable to early departures. Paul and Emily are contemplating returning to a time when all first time couples would arrive early for an orientation session.

SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

Hi, As always, you and Emily seem to attract the most interesting and likeable people to your parties. S and I very much enjoyed everyone we had time to be with, and just wish there was more than 24 hours in a day. Thank you for another memorable, erotic weekend! Thank you for including us in the updates on Kati. I'm glad to hear a decision was made, even though it might not be the easiest path. Maybe her "journey" will help someone else in the future, and that has to make you feel better about the decision. You know S and I are cheering for all three of you, sending our thoughts for success. And, no bad side effects during treatment! We really had a good time this weekend. I'm sorry we ran out Sunday, we didn't want to disturb the atmosphere for the yoga... I'm still working on S to at least TRY it one time! Everyone there was interesting. The house on the river is so wonderful! You two run a good weekend, and I don't know of anything that I would change. The format allows for opting out of any activity, so it seems to be a good plan. I'll sign up for preparing dinner on Saturday night, and bringing it ready to heat and serve. That will cut down on the amount of food (and leftovers!) to deal with. hugs, k

Hey Paul, Great weekend as per usual. Ya'll are great hosts. Comments: 1. Friday evening was good and the brief introductions were nice. Could be a keeper with slight changes in topic each time to keep it fresh. 2. Massage, DVD yes. Other DVD for introductions, sorta lame. 3. about Yoga, Missed it, altho Karen later said she'd like to have done it but thought I wasn't interested. Next time. Best wishes to you both and to Kati. Thanks for the updates. S

Paul & Emily, Thanks for another outstanding weekend event. Nicky and I particularly enjoyed getting to know you two better. It was a great groups of folks and we are already looking forward to the next event. D

Dear Paul & Emily, Thank you for hosting another lovely weekend! We enjoyed meeting old friends and new. We missed Friday due to work schedule, but heard that the introduction "question" was an interesting way to get to know people. I don't know how I would have answered! Special memories for me include being S's waitress for Saturday morning breakfast. (and finishing 2 other people's omelets as well as my own, YUMMY S!) of course, the spectacular massage (B you are so gifted), and the conversation during it (sorry D, we just couldn't keep quiet). 9 people in the hot tub with legs all stacked together and fun conversation. how beautiful everyone was at dinner the fellowship we all felt at dinner and the wonderful meal provided by Chef K and her staff of many helpers. no need to mention the fellowship in the playroom! Yowza. Yowza. sweet D's Yoga Bringing home our Siamese Algae Eater. He made it fine and is at work in our tank right now. (You make special friends at these events that help you in many ways, like improving our Aquarium.) the enhanced closeness and communication between A and I. (I mean my own husband A, tee hee.) Please feel free to share this and our email address with the group. Sincerely, P (& A)

We did enjoy this weekend---as to the specific requests: 1. We were late to arrive so cannot comment on the intro 2, The DVD is always fun and inspiring 3. Yoga was a nice experience and a nice finish to the weekend. A

Paul & Emily Suggestions and recommendations: The actual massage time on Saturday was very good - but we felt that we did not really learn anything new about massage by the demonstration - we would have appreciated some more information from some of the others in the group (as a licensed massage therapist). And this may be because we have our own massage therapist and have learned by what she does for us. Just a little more overall structure would have been nice - yes, or perhaps a room set up during Saturday evening with a massage table left up, some kind of game that folks could join in on (we have some friends that have a swingers poker game). We brought all of our toys in hopes that after dinner Saturday there would be a group "show and tell" like was mentioned in the emails prior to the weekend, and yet no one ever initiated that. As first timers, we did not think it was our place to push that agenda, but it was something that we were looking forward to, and were a little disappointed when it did not happen. We know that other couples brought their own videos - it would have been nice to be able to watch those, or to even access a television with the Playboy channel! Playroom etiquette should be discussed at some point early in the weekend. We have always been under the impression that it is important to "ask permission" or to wait to be "invited" before joining in a group's activities - there were a couple of instances where this did not happen on Saturday afternoon, and it became a little awkward to get out of - this also made us reluctant to go back to the playroom, because maybe in this particular group (because of the overall familiarity of the core couples), entering the playroom means that its okay for anyone in there to "jump in".

Things that went very well: The get acquainted circle on Friday evening - keep that! The food was very good and well-organized, although it seemed like everyone brought too much, judging by the leftovers! The facilities were outstanding! The people we met we wonderful, fun and engaging. Whether or not we "hook up" with anyone else at one of these activities, it always adds spice to our relationship. It's also great to be able to run around in next to nothing (or nothing) for a couple of days.

Will we come back? Maybe. It was a great experience, and something new, but we don't often repeat the same experience twice, although we are looking for people to grow a friendship and share new experiences with. It might be enjoyable to return with a couple that we have developed a friendship with along the way. This is a lot of work, and a wonderful concept. Thank you for opening your place to us and for providing an environment for fun and sex! T and J

note from Paul: Every lifestyle group has different understanding about the group room "etiquette." However, it is usually informal rather than formal. The only "written" lifestyle rules are the NO rules and the CLOSE DOOR RULES. Emily and I have been to over 25 clubs and all have different group room customs. For instance we have been to swing groups in Boston and in Tampa and their "understanding" is that when you enter a group room you are saying you are open to a group experience. Again, you can always say no and as we demonstrated you can always take someone's hand (or mouth or head) and remove it. We have also been to some swing groups that have a rule of "only join when invited." However at these club, we were told that permission to join" was communicated through "the eyes" of couples. Such rules about permission to join are therefore very imprecise. That being said, I feel bad that you felt uncomfortable and again I am sorry you had a less than a positive experience. It sounds like your "space" was invaded and this made you uncomfortable. Again, I am sorry but it is very hard to define fixed rules in a group room. This is why we spend so much time talking about saying NO. In our Q & A we had 31 questions and answers, yet none stated etiquette rules for the group room, outside of the NO discussions. We will now add another Q & A about group activities. "We will basically say that the "understanding" is that when you enter a group room you are saying you are open to a group experience. If you want an restricted experience with only one couple, you should move to a private room, like your own bedroom." In theory, I would agree that there should be a "permission to join." However, in reality from our experience this is too hard to define and even harder to police. So therefore, it makes more sense that when entering a group room, it is a statement that you are seeking and open to, a group experience. This being said, EVERYONE at ALL TIMES should be sensitive to others, regardless of your location. We should always be sensitive to any indication that our actions are making another uncomfortable. We should ALWAYS stop doing something if another communicates their discomfort, even if they do not officially say NO.

Hi Emily and Paul We had a wonderful time over the weekend. It was perhaps the best ever. We would be most happy to share our email address with the group. Include any or all of the following "ramblings" in any information that you exchange with the group. We had the pleasure of sharing a massage table with S and M and felt like we learned a few good new tips about massage from watching S as she lead us through some simple techniques that felt WONDERFUL! Some of the things that she suggested that we hadn't thought of (or perhaps hadn't paid attention to in previous massage sessions...) were: spend time with scalp and facial massage (unless not desired by the person on the table)--all of us found it extremely relaxing; when massaging the feet, only do one at a time, because it is over-stimulating to do both at once (we agreed with her on that after we thought about it...); warm the oil in your hands before lightly applying (that's definitely one we had forgotten along the way); and she encouraged us to pay a lot of attention to the shoulders. She certainly did find ways to massage us! (...thinking fondly about the full-body slide and the butt to butt massage....). I will say that we have had "spicier" massages in past weekends, but none that were as deeply relaxing and erotic. Thanks so much to S and to all the hands that were relaxing us! We liked the relaxed "get to know you" feel of Friday night. The dvd's were very interesting, and some would have probably watched more of the Friday night one if the opportunity had been provided. But the Friday night hot tub was the perfect way to wind down after a busy week, and get in a relaxed frame for all the excitement that followed. Saturday evening was a GREAT fashion show of couples truly dressed for the occasion. Where do people find such great outfits? And some of the ladies did SO MUCH with SO LITTLE! We had a prior commitment that kept us from participating in the yoga on Sunday, and will be interested to hear how it was--we would be willing to set aside time for it next time, if the general reviews are good ones. The whole weekend was super. Everyone was soooooooooo sexy and it all felt so exciting, erotic and comfortable at the same time. We have always come away from the massage weekends feeling refreshed and renewed. We make new friends. We experience a gamut of wonderful sensations. We feel extraordinarily close to each other. We smile for days. Thanks for a GREAT weekend! P and P

Hello Paul & Emily, Thank you for everything. We were only sorry to have to leave early. Our Mom had a bad infection and is being treated. Possible surgery once cleared up to correct the screw that has moved. Our feedback as a new couple: We were made to feel welcome as soon as we walked in the door. All couples were very nice and friendly. No pressure atmosphere. Well organized and nice to see the team effort to prepare meals/clean up. Great home and nice surroundings! Changes to make things better: Maybe 2 sessions of massage. One in the morning, one in the later afternoon for those that chose to participate. Or a mini massage session on Friday night to break the ice. We think you would have some good responses to that. Provide directions and the list of foods to bring a few days earlier. This helps for couples who have difficult work schedules to plan a little bit more in advance. Provide information on what the food your bringing will be used for to help with the quantity of food to purchase. We definitely over bought, since we did not know how the food would be used (main course, toppings, side dishes, etc.) Hope that helps! We would love for you to send our e-mail out to the others. Please keep us posted on future massage weekends! We would be interested to attend again! Hugs to you both! A & T

Paul & Emily.. random thoughts Take time for your own restoration and renewal. I suppose that is what singing in the little church choir is for me. Comfort. No stress. Decent folks. No contentiousness. Quiet, Old hymns, a bit of ritual. We want you to take care of yourselves. Just as a thought, perhaps there should be a weekend of JUST younger people, say 30 to 40, 25-35? This taps into a whole different demographic. You might get a different feel for what is going on. The very first swinger-type people we met had been in a group such as this where everyone was educated, refined, tolerant, aware, insightful and most important, beneficial to each other beyond the sexual connection. Multi-talented, muti-faceted, well-traveled, appreciative of others' abilities and interests. Hmm. We love you and we cherish our time together. The sex is always fun. You are special partners. Even without the sex, it is very good. A & K

Paul and Emily, We believe the graphic videos on Friday evening set a tone, develop expectations and excite those who are comfortable with the massage weekend. For those who are new, it creates an intimidating gauntlet that they may not choose to run. We perceive this was a factor in the "head for home response" of one of our couples. If a couple is somewhat reticent, the videos are a direct challenge. The personal, "getting to know you" approach is much preferred manner of encouraging involvement for those who are a bit timid. We would cancel or "mild" the Friday night video. The food contribution list should be examined for equity in pricing. No need for ice cream in Jan. The weekend was solid for our long term marriage. We were safe and comfortable all weekend. We reflect together on specific interactions and portions of the weekend. We enjoyed the other couples, the massage and the music. The river house is a great spot with lots of internal space. The pool will be a much used asset in the summer months.The less labor intensive meal on Sat night was an improvement. D and G

Paul, I've been delayed in replying to you. Thank you for hosting an excellent weekend! In retrospect, I appreciate which segments of the Dax video you chose to share with us on Friday night. You could have shown only the hot sex, which is GREAT on that video. Instead you also included sections that revealed the couple as real people, who demonstrated their love care and admiration for each other both in their words and on their faces. Perhaps this was the overall tone for the weekend: I remember how, in the "Spin the Bottle" exercise to get to know each other, many couples shared what they loved or appreciated in each other, as well as (or instead of) what attributes of their partner was a turn on. Saturday's dinner was simple, and simply wonderful. Seemed like everyone had something that they enjoyed. By way of improvements: Although you introduce the play room to folks as part of their tour, please consider stating, during your evening introduction, that folks are invited to the playroom after the introductions meeting has completed. Please formally introduce late-comers into the space. I'd like to hear their names and their answers to the questions we all answered earlier! Also, consider giving the newbies their tour of the house after they settled into their space. Please let me know ASAP as to dates for the next weekend, so that I can get it into my calendar. M

Paul & Emily Counting every one at the party, we represented something like 600 years of sexual experience. The lessons we have learned in the last few years from practitioners of "our hobby", have been things like patience, trust, and honesty, not technique, or sexual trivia. We come to your place to spend time with quality people and have fun and we have never been disappointed. D & S

Thanks. We had a very interesting and enlightening time. Looking fwd to doing it again if you will have us!! R and C

OUR NOVEMBER 2005 WEEKEND

PERSONAL NOTE FROM PAUL & EMILY

We have so much enjoyed the support and prayers from those we have met in this community we call the "lifestyle." We have friends that started as "lifestyle friends" that are now..., just really good friends. During this event, some have offered to make meals, some have offered their homes (if we needed to travel for chemotherapy), some have offered to help manage our property..., and all have offered prayers and support. In our massage events and in our newsletters, we often say that the "sexual intimacy is great, but the longer term friendships have been what make swinging very enjoyable." This statement is mild to the real love we have received these past weeks from friends we have met in the lifestyle. It also then, gives us energy to give back to others during their times of BAD THINGS. Because, I guess, one reason "bad things happen to good people" is that everybody, sometimes, experiences "bad things." We again appreciate all your support and prayers.

(Maybe) Needless to say, we were unable to attend the November, Maine 2005 massage event. However, our good friends John & Beth led the weekend. Here is their report.

Four couples attended the erotic massage weekend in Maine on November 4,5 and 6. A combination of circumstances led to a smaller that usual group. Paul and Emily turned the hosting duties, temporarily, over to John and Beth who were attending their 15th consecutive erotic massage weekend. Two of the couples were new to the Maine event, however, one of the couples had attended North Carolina events. For one couple it was their first 'lifestyle' weekend. Two couples were from Massachusetts, one from Northern Maine and the other from middle Tennessee. An eclectic group for sure. The size of the group led to a less formal structure. Everyone stayed at the Farm. For some of us that was a first, and we found staying in the same place is very convenient...The hot tub was a popular spot as was the loft. The Friday night introduction was held in the hot tub. Everyone participated in giving a little background on themselves and their experiences in the lifestyle. There were many questions and as a group we provided answers. A "break the ice game" had been planned but by the time introductions were over it was apparent that there was no ice left in the tub. Later most moved to the loft while others recuperated after the long trip to the wilds of Maine.

After a leisurely breakfast on Saturday morning the group heard a brief introduction to erotic massage from John and Beth. Everyone participated, some with vanilla, some with spicy and some with extra crispy massage. The erotic massage usually lasts around 3 hours...this time it went over 4 and could have gone on longer, but we were all extremely hungry. After a shower, sometimes shared, and a quick lunch the group moved to the loft for good fun and good conversation and a lot of laughter. With the late lunch and a lazy afternoon/evening the formal dinner gave way to chocolate cake, stir fry, white chocolate covered strawberries and lots more fun.

Sunday morning was quiet. Everyone was hungry for some reason..and no one wanted to leave. We all agreed to come back in the Spring to see old and new friends and especially to see Paul and Emily. John and Beth want to thank everyone for making the weekend such fun...We both enjoyed everyone and we hope y'all had as much fun as we did. We look forward to seeing you again soon.

OUR SEPTEMBER 2005 WEEKEND


Our September weekend event was our largest event. Fourteen couples and two single women attended the weekend in NC September 23-25. The event was at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's outdoor deck, hot tub and swim spa were completed. A privacy (nude friendly) fence now surrounds our grounds. The attenders came from North Carolina (9), Virginia (2), Rhode Island (1) and New York (1). The ages of the guests ranged from their 30's to 50's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 60's. As is common with our events there was a range of experience in the lifestyle. For some attenders ( 4) this was one of only a few experiences. All other attenders have been in the lifestyle for over 3 years. Seven attenders have had over 5 years experience in the lifestyle. Two of the attenders kept their play to "soft" swing activities, yet everyone participated in erotic play. Seven couples have visited either Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa.

All but two couple arrived Friday evening. One couple was not able to attend the Saturday massage. First time and new couples to the lifestyle received a telephone call from Paul & Emily prior to the event. During these calls, couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The calls were also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and agreed to the confidentiality statement. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The evening included a spin the bottle game of introductions. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle. Friday's play began early in the evening and lasted well into the night. Much of the erotic play started in the swim spa (a 9' x 16' waist deep swimming pool with an active current), hot tub and then progressed to the bedrooms and then ended back in the swim spa. The swim spa was also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into five groups, most with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks, naps or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. The sex during the weekend was great, however most everyone raved about the swim spa. The spa has a jet that simulates a current. The current can be adjusted for intensity. Most of the afternoon the current was set to the strongest level. Fifteen or more nude bodies bounced and played in the fast water for much of the afternoon. It was great fun. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group play room. All couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings. Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

D and I just wanted to let you know that we had a great time this weekend. You guys are VERY gracious hosts and your place is awesome. Thanks so much for the opportunity to join your group. Everyone was very nice, respectful, and sexy!! We are looking forward to the next time. We only have one suggestion being the newbies there. For the massage time, newbies should not be placed by themselves with other newbies. We only had 2 couples in our group where everyone else had 3 or 4 couples. It would have been much better to have at least 3 couples in a group or 4 or 5 in a group. We four individuals had a good time...just feel the experience would have been better with someone that had at least done it before with us. We thoroughly enjoyed the weekend, your beautiful home, and the wonderful, friendly, sexy couples we met! D&D

From Paul & Emily: totally agree and next time we will be sure that new couples are not put alone together, very good point. Emily and I so enjoyed you, both your company and the erotic fun with you both..

Paul & Emily, Thank you for your prompt follow-up to our delightful weekend. For us, undoubtedly the best part was meeting and interacting with (on a variety of levels) the fun, stimulating, thoughtful, considerate and interesting people who each contributed to our pleasant and at times very erotic experiences. As first timers, we think the tone of your Friday evening presentation and the "spin the bottle" introductions were very helpful to merge veterans and newcomers into the flow of events. On the drive home, we agreed that as much fun and as exciting as our play with others was, the spice it added to our intimacy was the unexpected benefit of the weekend. We arrived at Riverhouse on Friday with only a vague idea of what to expect. We departed on Sunday with a new sense of life's erotic possibilities. D & N

Paul and Emily, As always you've out-done yourselves ... what a wonderful weekend. It's always so terrific to be with friends, old and new, guy and gal! See you soon and be well. Yours, K

Hi Paul and Emily The weekend was wonderful. Some really fascinating folks (some GREAT looking bodies, too...). We agree with you that the longer weekend format really does allow people time to get to know each other--on whatever level they choose--and feel more comfortable. The river house is a wonderful venue--plenty of room to spread out. We're not sure we could pick one thing that was a highlight, as there were so many good things happening all weekend long. Please share our email address with the group. We look forward to another opportunity to see everyone. P and P

Thank you for opening your gorgeous home to such rowdies. We very much enjoyed our time making new bonds and renewing old ones. Thanks again. K and A

Hi Paul and Emily As always, you were gracious and hospitable hosts, the week-end agenda was well planned...and executed.. The new location is indeed a welcome addition to the traditional week-end massage parties; it allows for a larger group of people in an idyllic setting. We enjoyed meeting all of the couples and singles attending. It was nice to connect with old friends as well as establishing new friendships. Our only regret was missing the massage event and having to leave earlier then usual both friday and saturday (schedules, schedules, schedules...). Nevertheless, our experience was positive as always. Cheers! E & R PS: you may share our contact information with everyone.

We liked sunrise, Sunday, on the river. We stessed some over the Saturday night meal prep. We all get caught up in nirvana and need to be reminded of our duties. We forgot to finish the fruit prep Saturday morning. Paul and Emily, YOU DID A GREAT JOB ! ! ! THANKS from R and M. PS. Feel free to share our email address.

Paul & Emily, I had a great time; everyone was friendly and made me feel comfortable. I was a little stressed since this was my first experience, however I look forward to doing this again. Don't worry about Saturday night; there were times when I was exhausted too. After the massage on Saturday morning, I was tired. I went to my hotel room and rested. All in all you and Emily were great hosts, and I enjoyed the weekend. DEFINITELY WILL DO IT AGAIN. I have always fantasized about making love to 3 or more people a day. My fantasies become a reality that weekend. I wanted to experience being with another woman, but was not brave enough to try it this time. Will do next time, I'm sure. C

OUR JULY 2005 WEEKEND


Our July weekend event was different than our other massage weekends in 4 ways. First, it was open only to couples who had previously attended our massage weekends. Second, we allowed couples to attend for only 1 day. Third, we had a theme other than massage, namely "Guide to better Cunnilingus." Finally, we kept the group small. By consensus, the group would like to vote for some other word than cunnilingus.., yet "eating pussy" probably will not work.

Eight couples and one single women attended the weekend in NC July 8-10. The event was at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's outdoor deck, hot tub and swim spa were completed. A privacy (nude friendly) fence now surrounds our grounds. The couples came from North Carolina (7), Virginia (1), and the single women came from Virginia (1). The ages of the guests ranged from their 30's to 50's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. All of the attenders had been in the lifestyle for over 3 years. Five couples had over 5 years experience in the lifestyle. One of the couples kept their play to "soft" swing activities All couples participated in erotic play. Four couples have visited either Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa. All but two couple arrived Friday evening. The weekend was billed as a "advanced training in cunnilingus" . Actually, the weekend was more of an exercise in threesomes. The addition of a single women added a wonderful opportunity (you do the math) for everyone to enjoy multiple combinations of play with three people. Friday's play began early in the evening and lasted well into the night. Much of the erotic play started in the swim spa (a 9' x 16' waist deep swimming pool with an active current), then progressed to the bedrooms and then ended back in the swim spa. The swim spa was also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast and after the 7th couple joined the group, the group held a brief meeting. All guests were reminded of the confidentiality agreement. Paul & Emily briefly discussed the importance of condoms, particularly regarding STD's such as genital herpies. Portions of two DVD were then presented. The first was "Ultimate Sexual Massage", an erotic favorite of Paul & Emily. Though the DVD does not focus on oral pleasure, it does provide good examples of pleasure massage for the labia and genitals. The couples in the DVD practicing the techniques were attractive and erotic. The second DVD "Nina Hartley's Guide to Better Cunnilingus ," was less well received. The group found the first segment of the DVD boring as it focuses on an anatomy lesson. However, the group became good students as the second segment of the DVD demonstrated a menu of culinary treats. Some couples passed the oral exam with their spouse (a-la-carte) whereas others enjoyed the buffet.

After (the real) lunch, most guests spent the afternoon in the swim spa. The sex during the weekend was great, however most everyone raved about the swim spa. The spa has a jet that simulates a current. The current can be adjusted for intensity. Most of the afternoon the current was set to the strongest level. Fifteen or more nude bodies bounced and played in the fast water for much of the afternoon. It was great fun. Throughout the afternoon pairs and threesomes formed and reformed for erotic play. The evening meal was managed by Karen. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group play room. All couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings. Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

Paul, Emily and friends, please accept our apologies for leaving early and on such short notice. My father is not doing well and I needed to be with mom and dad until his journey is complete. Please tell all they are a wonderful group, and it was a pleasure to have been in their company. Please tell S how much I always enjoy our discussions, whatever the subject may be. And please extend to K my regrets for not having spent some quality time with her. Again, C and I had a wonderful, although too short of a time with you all. A & C

Dear Paul & Emily, Great weekend as always at your place. We enjoyed seeing old friends and getting to know some really nice new folks. We both learned some interesting tidbits from viewing the cunnilingus CD, and loved putting our new knowledge to the test. You all are the perfect host and hostess and we look forward to seeing you again soon. Hugs, K & S

Emily and Paul, Many, many thanks to you for being the spectacular hosts you always are and for encouraging me to join you this past weekend. What a treat to spend time with good friends, old and new! And in my opinion everyone passed their "oral exams" with flying colors ... remember, practice makes perfect! Be well and talk to you soon, K

Paul & Emily My favorite part of the weekend was playing in the pool! I felt like a 9 year old. I can't say I actually learned anything about Cunnilingus. (Is that how it's spelled? What an awful word.) But every one who pleased me seemed to have learned a lot. I think we could have added a few techniques to the instructional materials. Thank you all for a delightful weekend. P (& A)

We really did have a great time and enjoyed all the company. Let us know when you all want do this again, count us in. The one thing we came away with is that cunnilingus is erotic for those who receive and those who give. This was the best get together for us yet. R and B

This is Paul. I did learn a few things about oral sex (cunnilingus, the word we love to hate, ...but the act we all love to do). I have always loved to suck and lick a women's lips (labia) and clit. What I learned this weekend is to spend more time pulling, sucking and playing with the skin all around the outside the outer labia. This skin is all connected to the clit (I learned) and if given early attention, the lips and clit become much more sensitive. So being the good student that I am, I went to the web to find more information. Surprise, surprise.., there is much information out there. This is one of my favorite sites called Holistic Wisdom. This page is called A Quick Guide To Cunnilingus,The Art of Female Oral Sex http://www.holisticwisdom.com/oral-sex-on-female-cunnilingus.htm Finally, (how do I day this..,) I want to say something good about the men of this weekend. We men frequently, and often deservedly, get a selfish reputation. We can however be wonderful and patient lovers. This weekend showed that.

This is Emily. I would agree with Paul's comments. I found the men this weekend to be slow, sensual lovers, and men (and us women too) were wanting to please. There was good pointers in both DVD, and the men did very well with the techniques. They enjoyed, practiced... and heavens know, we women enjoyed the attention.

OUR JUNE 2005 WEEKEND


“Eight couples attended the erotic massage weekend in NC June 3, 4 & 5. This was our first NC event in over a year and the first event at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's out door deck, hot tub and swim spa were only partially completed. Our contractors pledge full completion plus completion of privacy (nude friendly) fence by July 1st. However, all those who have ever worked with contractors' promises will take such commitments only as "best guesses." One additional house was rented to accommodate all guests. The couples came from Massachusetts (1), North Carolina (5) Virginia (1), and West Virginia (1). The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As also is common with our events, there was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. There was one couples where this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Five couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About two of the couples kept their play to "soft" swing activities of erotic massage play and erotic play in the hot tub. All couples participated in some swinging activities. Four couples have visited either Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa. First time and new couples to the lifestyle received a telephone call from Paul & Emily prior to the event. During these calls, couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The calls were also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and agreed to the confidentiality statement. All couples arrived by late Friday afternoon. All new couples signed the confidentiality statement. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included our usual opening gathering and hot tub. A tradition in our events is a Friday night opening gathering where each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle.


After the introductions, couples were invited to participate in a game. The game was optional and some couples choose instead to socialize in the kitchen or hot tub. The following key words describe this game: blindfolds, back/neck massage, women in control and chocolate strawberries. The game received mixed reviews with some couples feeling that it moved the group too fast into erotic play. After some reflection we (Paul & Emily) have decided to forgo games Friday evening at future events. Though such games sometimes are great fun, they risk unanticipated reactions. We all live and learn.


After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. A 10 minute DVD was also shown that demonstrated erotic genital massage. The group divided into three groups, with two to three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. In the afternoon, some couples took walks, kayaked or spent time in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. The food was wonderful. We will continue to work on efficient strategies of food preparation. However, we believe that on our tome stones will be the words, "Here lies Paul & Emily, may they RIP. Please forward all suggestion for improved food preparations to their new email."


After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group play room. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some couples chose to watch. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings. Some enjoyed threesomes. Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.


SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

hey every one . we had a great time with you all over the weekend and are looking forward to doing it again soon, everyone was so great with us and we would love to thank them for making us so welcomed into the "family." We feel we have met a whole new class of friends .and we do mean classy friends. We discuss the trip in detail and cannot wait to see you all again. Paul and Emily we wouldn't change a thing because it was great You will never know how much it meant to me especially, with me being so nervous and scared, that you made me feel so comfortable in this type of environment. K and I discussed the weekend at length and discovered that it was not the nudity or sexual part that we liked best but the conversation, joking, laughing, and getting to know the others that we enjoyed so much. Again, thank you for such an enjoyable weekend and we hope to attend the next get together. Hopefully, we will see you soon. Thanks again for making a very conservative shy girl feel very comfortable with her own sexuality. I never thought that I would. love k and t

THANK YOU FOR A WONDERFUL WEEKEND E & D

Hi We had a great time! You made a supreme effort to make everyone feel comfortable and at ease. Our impression is that you were very successful in doing so. You asked for suggestions or thoughts for future weekends and while we would enjoy repeating it just as it was, there did seem to be some confusion regarding individual responsibilities for the meals. Perhaps if you listed the menu for each meal, and then the individual items that each couple was to bring, there would be less confusion. We both look forward to opportunities for future massage weekends. J & G

reply from Emily: We enjoyed getting to know both of you. Thanks for the feedback. I've also thought that we should clarify clean-up responsibilities as well. We sort have gotten it down to a science with our Maine parties, but are still figuring out the details for NC. We are trying to figure out what is best when the number of couples exceeds the number of rooms at our place. For some folks the cost and convenience would make mattresses on the floor a better option than driving to a hotel or resort nearby. However, we have tended to feel couples should have there private space. If you have suggestions, let us know. The swim spa is almost completed and we had very nice quiet weekend watching the boats, swimming. and enjoying the almost finished projects. It is fun to see a vision become real.

Paul & Emily, Thanks for a great weekend. We had such a good time. The new place is terrific. P & A

JULY WEEKEND EVENT How about a Cunnilingus Party?? Too spicy for your taste? You are welcome to attend and just enjoy massage, the Swim spa and hot tub. We are adding an extra event to our calendar. We are sponsoring a small group of up to 6 couples or single women to join us for a weekend of play. We have a new DVD titled "Nina Hartley's Guide to Better Cunnilingus ," and think it would be fun to see it together (and then maybe practice) with a group of friends. We welcome any couples or single women who has previously attended one of our events to join us July 8-10. Here is the promotion on the DVD, "Nina Hartley's Guide to Better Cunnilingus." Porn star and registered nurse Nina Hartley offers mouth-watering tips and techniques for going down on women. She begins with a short anatomy lesson and moves on to the real thing, as she and her husband Dave demonstrate a variety of pleasurable techniques on a happily satisfied model. Nina explains how and why each kind of touch is exciting. Hot vignettes at the end make great inspiration for you and a lover to use your newly gained skills!

OUR APRIL 2005 WEEKEND


“Sixteen couples attended the erotic massage weekend in Maine April 15, 16, & 17. Two additional houses were rented to accommodate all guests. The couples came from Maine (2), Massachusetts (11), North Carolina (1) Rhode Island (2), and Pennsylvania (1). The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As also is common with our events, there was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. There were three couples where this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Nine couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About five of the couples kept their play to "soft" swing activities of erotic massage play and erotic play in the hot tub. All couples participated in some swinging activities. Four couples have visited Hedo resort in Jamaica and one couple regularly visits Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa.


First time and new couples to the lifestyle received a telephone call from Paul & Emily prior to the event. During these calls, couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The calls were also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and agreed to the confidentiality statement. All couples arrived by late Friday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included our usual opening gathering and hot tub. A tradition in our events is a Friday night opening gathering where each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle.


After the introductions, couples were invited to participate in a game. The game was optional and some couples choose instead to socialize in the kitchen or hot tub. The following key words describe this game: blindfolds, back/neck massage, women in control and chocolate strawberries. Women rotated to each blindfolded man and delivered a treat (massage, food, play, etc.). Some of the women made the game more erotic by removing some of their clothes. Men were unaware of which women was "treating" them. The group chose to resume the game Saturday night with the women blindfolded and the men "treating." Many couples enjoyed the games. Some chose to watch. The games evolved to very erotic play.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into five groups, with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared by three couples. The food was wonderful without taking much preparation time during the weekend, as has been a problem during previous weekends. Again thanks to M&S, M&S, & A&B. After the meal, some women volunteered to experiment with hot wax. Some couples also brought erotic toys. The group met Saturday evening for a sort of “show & tell” with erotic toy demonstrations. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES


thanks for another great wk end M & J

Paul and Emily, We'd like to thank you again for such a great weekend. We enjoyed meeting a bunch of great people and sharing some fun times. The Farm was wonderful and we had many interesting conversations with a wide range of people. It was just what we needed to start our vacation! We especially enjoyed the massage. It was terrific!!! I'd like to suggest that you consider adding a time for some nasty dancing. We had a great dance CD but forgot to put it on. Perhaps it would be a good thing to do after supper Saturday night? A great way to work off a few calories after dinner. The only hard part of cooking dinner Saturday was coordinating between the time it took the appetizers to get ready and the time it took to heat the main dish. Next time it should be easier. The game Friday night was nice. Saturday's game seemed to go maybe a little too fast for (some) first time people. I know it's hard to organize things like this and it's hard to gauge how they will progress. I had hoped to see J Sunday morning to thank her again for being brave and taking part in the hot wax experience Saturday night. Please feel free to pass our email address along to the other people from this weekend. We got a few email Sunday morning but didn't manage to get everyone. Thanks again for such a great experience. You were wonderful hosts and have obviously given this a lot of thought. We enjoyed ourselves tremendously and look forward to meeting some of the people we met before the next gathering. We're looking forward to seeing you again at The Farm. Take care, M & S

Hi Paul & Emily, J and I had a great time, it was great to see our old friends again, and we also made some new friends along the way. Things may not always turn out as you would hope they would but the effort that you and Emily put into the weekend is appreciated by us. Hope to see you both again at the next Farm weekend. Please feel free to post our e-mail address. P & J

Paul and Emily, We had a great time. The game Friday night was good, and while it wasn't planed that way, breaking it between the two nights, I think, was for the best. (C disagrees) I know C certainly enjoyed the Saturday session. Hard to think of ways to make it better (our experience is more limited than some), except perhaps a week sometime. The long weekend is so much better than a 6 hour house party. Both times we have been to the farm, we have come away with new friends. As before, there were people we wanted to re-connect with and didn't, and others we hadn't met before and wanted to get to know better. As always, a very non-judgmental group and we both felt very welcome. Cindy was of course nervous, both about being on crutches, and just how she would deal with the sexual activity, having been pretty cautious since her skiing accident and knowing how involved she can get when aroused. If invited back, we will certainly be there. Perhaps also down south. We welcome anyone to email us, and would love to get together with any of you during the summer and fall (before ski season of course - or at the mountain to ski and play - we hope to have our own place up north this next winter). Have a great summer. See you all in the fall. E and C

Paul-- The weekend was marvelous!! Hats (and more!) off to you and Emily for your kindnesses, for setting a wonderful erotic stage for play, for the sense of humor and fun you stirred into the weekend. We'll be back!! (and we might write more, too, when we have a moment....I am dashing between a few aspects of my kids' spring break at the moment. Hope you had a safe & easy trip back down south, and that you're having a great week...! K & M

Paul & Emily, Very nice weekend. It was worth the trip. Only suggestion is: bars of soap in the showers! Thanks for all the obvious significant efforts made to put this weekend together. A & B

We had an excellent time!! Again, thanks for your wonderful hospitality. You manage to do a great job bringing the right mix of people together. We had a blast!! Emily--thanks very much for the bikini-genie site. Paul--What are the tentative dates for the next farm event? Hoping to see you in the Fall of 2005. Have a wonderful summer if we don't reconnect prior to October. Fondly A & D

Hi Paul and Emily, We had a great time at Mainefarm this past weekend. You two were really wonderful hosts and really did make us as first timers welcome and very much at ease. We had a great time and met some wonderful people with whom we hope to become good friends. We enjoyed everything about the weekend, even though we were a little nervous when we first got there. The atmosphere and friendliness of everybody there soon put us at ease. We are already looking forward to hopefully coming to the next massage weekend. The erotic times were wonderful and the time talking and laughing with everyone were fun. You certainly know how the through a great party! Hope to see you again. J and S

OUR NOVEMBER 2004 MAINE WEEKEND

“Fifteen couples attended the erotic massage weekend in Maine November 5, 6, & 7 2004. Two additional houses were rented to accommodate all guests. The couples came from Maine (3), Massachusetts (5), North Carolina (1) Virginia (1), New Jersey (1), Florida (1), New Hampshire (3) and Vermont (1). The ages of the couples ranged from their 40's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As also is common with our events, there was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. There were two couples where this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Nine couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About six of the couples kept their play to "soft" swing activities of erotic massage play and erotic play in the hot tub. Three couples did not participate in swinging activities. Three couples regularly visit Hedo resort in Jamaica and one couple regularly visits Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa.

First time and new couples to the lifestyle were invited for a pre-meeting Friday afternoon. All couples arrived by late Friday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included our usual opening gathering, hot tub, neck & back massage "warm-up" and other play. A tradition in our events is where Friday night has an opening gathering where each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle. Some participants sat in a circle (male-female-male-female) and massaged the neck and back of he person in front. These activities simulated much erotic play within the group. The group room and hot tub remained popular well into the night. Some couples brought wonderful chocolate covered strawberries.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into four groups, with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Later, couples change into erotic nightwear. We returned to Lucy’s fabulous Lasagna for the Saturday meal. The food was wonderful without taking much preparation time during the weekend, as has been a problem during previous weekends. Again thanks to Lucy, Joyce & D&J.

Some couples brought erotic toys. The group met Saturday evening for a sort of “show & tell” with erotic toy demonstrations. Some couples wished this time could of evolved into more group play. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again. Two new couples expressed discomfort with the weekend’s erotic activities. Paul & Emily have decided to schedule phone conversations with new couples prior to their first visit. The phone conversations will re-state the nature of the massage weekend activities, strongly encourage attendance at the first-timers group and confirm that the couple would like to attend such an event. Such phone calls hopefully will minimize such discomfort.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

Terrific time - AGAIN Thanks so much M + S

Just wanted to let you all know that we so enjoyed seeing you all this weekend and spring is always is always to far off,,,,,, hugs and kisses, all our best always k and e

Paul and Emily, D and I would like to thank you for a great weekend! Your ability to introduce a couple of quirky strangers into a group of 30 or so people and make them feel so comfortable... in a theme gathering which can be quite uncomfortable if not organized and run properly.. is truly remarkable. You guys are truly the driving force behind something special. You brought together a group that was truly entertaining, intelligent, talented, sensual, exciting and just plain FUN. We would like the group to know that whether we came together in an intimate setting or just conversation and laughs you all brought something positive to D and my relationship. I know we both feel a rejuvenated spirit. And we hope we forged some friendships that will continue in a variety of settings. The gathering certainly created sufficient memories to keep us laughing and romping until we have an opportunity to meet with all of you again. As for negatives... I fear we can no longer fully appreciate the 'normal' two-handed massage we occasionally enjoy. Thanks again, A and D

p.s. Oh yeah... the food, wine and accommodations were outstanding... the pot-luck informal gatherings, the 'formal' dinner, and the hot tub were all highlights.

p.s.s. Oh yeah... the food and accommodations were outstanding! Did I say that?

p.s.s.s. And S...I welcome any corrections to the above text... spelling IS important.

Great time, many thanks! Awaiting email list. Warm regards, D

Paul, many thanks for a great time. .... One of the things that I think that you would tell ME about the lifestyle is that it is a venue of personal choice and responsibility. ... Not all factors can you or should you control. We had a great time and it has been a while since we've had the hedo like atmosphere. Felt good. With great respect. The only suggestion I would make for the weekend is to have a dance of some sort. As you know, dancing is a great ice breaker/erotic moment with the right crew. M & K

Hi Paul and Emily, Please do share my email with the rest of the group. We're looking forward to communicating with some of the people we met at the farm. The overall weekend was very nice. The accommodations were great and the food ranged from good to great. I thought your organization of the event was superb -- things went off very smoothly from that point of view. I really liked the group back rub exercise on Friday night -- it led to some interesting interactions at the end. The group massage was also very nice, but everyone in my group just wandered away after it was over and it didn't lead directly into more group interaction. If it could be accommodated, I think that putting all the massage tables together into one room might be fun -- it might be fun to observe other massage approaches. I had been expecting a bit more open, public interaction on Saturday evening, however, most of the action seems to have moved off into private rooms, which I found a little disappointing. One of my main interests is in group interactions, so I had been hoping for more in that area. I also heard the same thought from a member of another couple. The interaction could range from open, parallel play (soft swinging) with some degree intergroup touching to more hard swinging. Maybe we can think of a way to encourage more group interaction (for those that are interested), possibly by explicitly designating a room and a time for such an orgy. This could be preceded by some kind of group touching exercise as a lead in (like was done on Friday). The Saturday evening toy show was, I suppose, intended to be a lead in, but it didn't work really well for that since there wasn't much group interaction. Concerning first time couples, I would suggest that you to consider arranging a phone call with both members of any first-time couple before the event. You could answer any questions and make sure that they both understand the nature of the weekend and the type of interactions that are possible there. Overall we were happy with the weekend and we would be interested in coming back again. Thanks, S and J

Reply: Thank you S for the feedback. Your suggestions are helpful and we will consider incorporating them in our future events. It is always a "line to walk" between providing too much structure and not enough structure. There are those who feel the Friday back rub was too much structure. Over the years we have gone back and forth between structuring just the Saturday massage and providing more structure during the rest of the weekend. Usually, we have added some structure on Friday evening to warm the group to each other and then after Saturday's massage allowed couples to pursue the next level of intimacy they desire. It is difficult to find the right combination, however. After this last weekend we will have a phone discussion with new couples. In the past this has not seemed necessary. Emily and I need to do a better job communicating to new couples exactly the nature of our events. Thanks again Paul & Emily

After polling the Massage Weekend participants from this household it has been determined that the weekend was a success. Actually is was one hell of a good time. In the future we suggest that you add more minutes to the hour, more hours to the day and even more to the night, and more days to the weekend. We need to spend more time with old friends, more time meeting new friends more time on and off the massage table more time in the hot tub and sauna and more time with our host and hostess. Yes, ..you're right..we want more...more...more...greedy people that we are. We always meet the greatest people when we come to visit you. And we always hate to leave..that's the toughest part. See you in the Spring, if not sooner. J and B

Paul & Emily, Thanks again for such a very interesting weekend. D and I very much enjoyed the sensual atmosphere that was shared by all attending. We very much enjoyed the massage. That was wild. To have that many hands on you at the same time, all naked, soft music and especially the nails!!! It was absolutely wonderful. We also greatly enjoyed the Saturday evening meal. With everyone wearing something erotic (for the most part) it was very exciting. But honestly it was the sensual atmosphere that really was wonderful to experience. Everyone was so friendly and easy going. Enjoying a wonderful conversation with anyone who attended was a delight. As a first timer I was glad that we had arrived before the evening began with introductions in the living room. Having never experienced this type of gathering it gave me a chance to catch my breath and look around; get my bearings so to speak Even D who has done some swinging in the past was very glad to have that time with everyone. In talking about the weekend and all the had occurred and the people we had met, it brought us to another level as a couple. Amazing how hot it can make you just talking about it. We were a bit disappointed that there was not more of a group get together so to speak. We had not expected everyone to disappear quite so quickly after the toy presentation. The food was excellent. The company and experiences were priceless. Hope to attend more (too bad we have to wait so long!!!) D & J Hugs to everyone

Reply: Dear J and D I wanted to thank you for the providing the extra treat of the scallops this weekend. They were great. I'm not sure which couple told their adolescents that they were going to a gourmet dinner party!! I guess it would be true. Glad you had a good time. Emily

From Emily to S.. Besides the other attributes, you prepare a "mean" gourmet dessert menu, S. If the GI lab doesn't work out, you may want to audition for the Boar's Head Inn. Thanks for helping to make the weekend spectacular.

Emily: You are very welcome. For all the fun and pleasure we get out of coming to the farm making a few desserts was a pleasure. Thanks for all you do. S

OUR FEBRUARY 2004 NC WEEKEND

Twelve couples attended our North Carolina couples erotic weekend, Feb. 14th & 15th. Eight couples came from the North Carolina, the other four traveled from South Carolina, Virginia, West Virginia, and Massachusetts. The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. For three couples this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Six couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. Some couples kept their play to soft swing. Three couples met mid-morning Saturday. This pre-meeting was hosted by Paul & Emily to talk about the lifestyle and the weekend. Couples new to the lifestyle were invited to attend. All couples arrived by Saturday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. Paul & Emily presented an introduction to the weekend including confidentiality statements for new couples to sign. Each couple briefly introduced themselves and their experience in the lifestyle. The group talked about the importance of respect and saying "no thank you." A massage introduction was presented by Emily and Paul. The instruction included erotic and sensual non-erotic massage. The group divided into four groups, three couples on each of four tables. Though optional, many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, some continued the erotic play from the massage. Later, couples change into erotic night wear. Dinner was prepared. The couples group had a "sit-down" dinner. We used K & S now famous marinade for the chicken and beef. Thanks to everyone who brought special dishes and desserts. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room. The evening included hot tub, and other play. Most enjoyed nude hot tub play. Most couples returned Sunday morning. Paul prepared omelettes. There was great conversation covering nearly every topic imaginable from South Beach diet to Iraq. Some couples continued the conversations well into the afternoon. Plans were made to meet again.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES Hi guys, we would like to thank you for a wonderful week-end, the massage parties keep getting better and better, and you're are gracious hosts. The intellectual stimulation is indeed conducive to a much more satisfying physical interaction. This week's groups excelled at both. cheers! E&R

We wanted to thank you for your hospitality and the opportunity to participate in a very interesting time -- unfortunately when we got back to the hotel to dry hair/change etc, we found that there were urgent (not dangerous and fortunately now solved) issues that required our attention -- we did very much enjoy the company, the massage and the interactions afterward -- we hope the rest of the weekend went as well as the "kick off" == we would love to continue to be on your mailing list and would hope to join you again -- perhaps next time in Maine... thanks again for opening up your home to us -- very best regards j and m

Dear Paul & Emily, B and I would like to Thank both of you for a wonderful time Saturday. We are sorry we had to leave early. When we got home there were 6 messages for me from work, saying we had a run at 5:30 AM. B and I learned allot from the party, and enjoyed meeting the different couples there. Our only problem was we still are a little shy about approaching individuals, but I feel the longer we are into this lifestyle, the easier it will get. Again Thank you both for a super great time. Hopefully we will be able to attend the next party. E and B

Dear Paul and Emily, Of course, we would love to share our e-mail address with everyone. The weekend was full of firsts. We had a fantastic time and since coming home we have not been able to keep our hands off one another. We look forward to coming again. We enjoyed the massage. The experience was great. Who would have thought that a table with two new couples would have had as much fun as we did. Your system obviously works. Surprisingly, we enjoyed the camaraderie, the exchange of ideas, the laughter and the carefree attitude of those assembled most of all. Everyone seemed to want to make us comfortable. Thanks to both of you so much and to all the new friends we made. J and B

Dear Emily and Paul, As always, we had a fun time at the party last weekend and it was great seeing you all. Ya'll are the perfect hosts. We enjoyed seeing old friends from prior years and meeting new couples. Your parties seem to attract the most interesting people. Thanks so much for your hospitality and for all your effort putting this thing together time after time. K & S

Paul & Emily, Once again Thank you for inviting us. We both had a sensual, wonderful time, and the best recommendation is we would love to do it again. Our only thought would be to have all the couples in one area for the message time. This would give the whole group time to meld together erotically. We know space would be a concern. The food, drink, and comradery were the BEST. Please sent our email address to the others. Hugs F & B

Good weekend. We got back before the snow hit. We didn't get any but just 30 miles south of us got 8". Something good to be said for the mountains. A couple ideas to consider. Maybe a Friday night social for those who arrive in town that night. We may be the only ones who needed to do that. In the future we should have fewer "newbees" at the same massage table. Would the Sat eve meal go better if it was maybe bread, pasta and salad....less work? Also we need to have unsweetened ice tea for those who are not drinking wine or want to hold off.....sweetner can be provided for the individual tea glasses. Also lets have more ice available....maybe we are the only ones who use lots of ice. We look forward to our next visit. E & D

Hello, I'm sorry it has taken us so long to respond. A read the email & we have had several discussions about it, but now I'll write something down. It is almost like a homework assignment. "In less than 250 words, provide an evaluation..." Well, here goes. Tell us what you liked most, I liked the thrill of the experience. Going to a home for the first time and meeting total strangers is exciting. Also kind of scary. And exciting and scary is a turn on for me. What was amazing was how all these people got along so well. I guess because we all wanted to get along. I liked everybody. A & I had studied and annotated the profiles and tried to guess who we would find ourselves compatible with. We were TOTALLY wrong! Your hospitality was lovely. Emily, you just worked too hard. I hope you had fun. Paul, you have a gift for making people feel good. Such energy! and you never stopped! The structure and instruction was good. Also the introductions were fun. I found the small groups massage to be really relaxing, and enjoyed the evening social hour and the Sunday brunch. The massage got us all on the same wavelength and then we had something to talk to others about during the rest of the day. Sunday Brunch was good because we were all transitioning back to our straight lives. It gave a different view of folks. liked least, It is stressful to spend 12 hours with strangers. It would have been good if there were fewer people. It was a just a little frenzied. We went home exhausted & slept away the rest of our Sunday. (I guess that is the indication of a successful party.) how would you change it to make it better? Round off the number of eggs to bring to the next nearest dozen or 1/2 dozen. Order sunshine. Invite Jon Stewart & Halle Berry. Is there anything more we could of done to make 1st time couples feel more comfortable? We are not first timers, but I think you did a good job of setting expectations. I especially liked your interpretation of 'no' to include body language. Tell us if the weekend was good (or bad) for your relationship. It wasn't really good or bad. It gave us a lot to talk about. P & A

Hi Paul & Emily. Thank you so much for having us at your massage party. We had a really great time. The environment that you created was truly very enjoyable. It was really great to actually have a chance to talk to people and get to know them a little better. Who would ever go to a club again after coming to a party like yours?! Thanks again for a wonderful day. We will look forward to getting together again. S and J

OUR NOVEMBER 2003 NC WEEKEND

Sixteen couples attended the erotic massage weekend in Maine October 31, Nov. 1 & Nov. 2. Two additional houses were rented to accommodate all guests. The couples came from Maine (4), Massachusetts (6), Pennsylvania (1), North Carolina (2) Virginia (1), Minnesota (1) and Vermont (1). The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As also is common with our events, there was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. There were five couples where this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Eight couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About seven of the couples kept their play to "soft" swing activities of erotic massage play and erotic play in the hot tub. Three couples regularly visit Hedo resort in Jamaica and one couple regularly visits Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa.


First time and new couples to the lifestyle were invited for a pre-meeting Friday afternoon. All couples arrived by late Friday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included our usual opening gathering, hot tub, erotic massage video and other play. A tradition is forming in our events where Friday night has an opening gathering where each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle. An "aroma therapy-aphrodisiac" oil was used in an opening activity. Participants sat in a circle (male-female-male-female) and massaged the oil into the neck and back of he person in front. Many women removed their blouses inviting a more thorough massage. Needless to say, these activities simulated much erotic play within the group. The group room and hot tub remained popular well into the night. After Saturday breakfast a massage introduction was presented by Emily and Paul. The group divided into five groups. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, then had lunch. Many couples took walks or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others particularly in the hot tub. Later, couples change into erotic night wear. Dinner was managed by Lucy with the help of others. As usual, the preparation of the meal was as much fun as the meal itself. We had a "sit-down," meal. One lady was celebrating her birthday with the group which prompted a "happy birthday" chorus. Another couple celebrated their wedding anniversary. A high light of the meal was dessert. The choice was a selection of pies. However, the dessert choice quickly evolved into whipped cream covered nipples. The women offered up their nipples for coverings and then licking. It was truly a culinary treat. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room. Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES
Hello Paul, Just want you to know we had a great time this weekend. Thank you so much for your hospitality. Again, thanks and we look forward to the next time. Again, thanks for a great weekend. L and I both agree it was a great "first experience" for both of us. L & P

Paul & Emily- I wanted to send off a quick note telling you that B & I had a wonderful 19th anniversary celebration. Everything about the weekend was fantastic. The agenda was perfectly arranged to make everyone -- especially us first timers extremely comfortable. The weather was perfect for our bike ride and Saturday PM relaxing. Finally the people we met were wonderful -- many we hope that we will meet again soon. There was a lot of uncertainty on the way up on Friday afternoon yet Sunday night -- both B and I reflected that it was a very successful weekend -- total decompression from stress!. Neither of us thought about work, kids were out of our heads, and we experienced a new life style that both of us embrace. There was a lot of apprehension on our way to the "Farm", especially being newbies. Friday night was a great way to get to know everyone, our massages were worth the trip, and Saturday night was over the top. We felt bad leaving early. Being good Catholic -- some guilt crept in -- a little over our carnal enjoyment, however most of it was wondering what trouble our teenage kids we getting into. Fortunately nothing happened. In an earlier review of the weekend -- J sited that the group should be the Chester Cat club. Both B and I have experienced that shit-eating grin on our face thinking about the fun we experience yet unable to share anything with friends. Beyond the play, we were impressed with quality of the people and the friendships that were started. We would enjoy hearing from everyone especially those in the local area -- we'd enjoy getting together. Once again -- we are very grateful for the friendship & enjoyment that everyone offered during the weekend and look forward to rekindle that excite in the future. We are grateful that your organized the affair and look forward to hearing from many of our new found friends. Please share our email with the group. B & D

Dear Paul, You sure are organized , We think it is just wonderful that you got this message out so quickly. You Guys are perfect for this deal. The selection of couples turned out just right. Hi there, it's me, E. I wish I had not volunteered to get the first massage at my table, (wanted more spicy) I also wish I had gotten to try some of the toys. So we'll just have to come back another time !!!! Loved the weekend, and meeting you both. E & J

Hello and thank you for a wonderful weekend. Don't change a thing. Great time, great company, great sex...................... Thanks again, look forward to next time. A & M


Paul and Emily, Thank you for a great weekend again. Good food (and drink, great people, wonderful message, and the play time was so fun.) How can you top spontaneous dancing with you Paul to our own music! We both enjoyed the safe, comfortable atmosphere that you provide for all of us. Thank you for all the work that you do to set it up! K & T


Auwwww Paul & Emily :-) yes, we had a lovely time. We hope to keep in contact with the couples that we met at your weekend event, including you both! You were wonderful and gracious hosts. Thank you!. G & M


Emily and Paul: We had a wonderful time with you both and the others :-). The weekend exceeded our expectations. You two are wonderful hosts. D and I look at each other across the dinner table and can't help but grin knowing what each one is thinking about. We made it home just fine and the house was still in one piece. Hope your trip was uneventful. We want to thank you both for your inspired party format. Indeed the day and a half is much better for getting to know other folks. We had so much fun, we can't imagine how we could have had any more. While I sit at work, I get these flashbacks of passing L around the hot tub like a happy joint. Please keep in touch. D & S


Fantastic, Marvelous, Scrumptious, Delicious and just plain Great Fun! To all of our known friends we love you all and look forward to the next time and to all of our New friends, it was wonderful meeting you and getting to spend time learning ALL about you........and so look forward to seeing you all again ............as far as improving the weekend goes the only thing that could make it better is if it was twice monthly instead of twice yearly !!!!!!!!!!!! Love to All k and e


Paul & Emily, Well we had an uneventful ride home, thank god! As for the weekend at the farm, we again had a great time. The singing and dancing act seemed to be enjoyed by anyone that was brave enough to sit through it. Just kidding, it was hilarious. We are beginning to feel like old timers even though this was only our third time, and we are still progressing slowly. The people that we have met during our visits have been so understanding and caring that every time we go, we reach another step in our playing. I"m sure that the regulars that always attend can probably relate to what were saying. A no pressure atmosphere, with caring individuals that are eager to help you to that next step when youre ready to make it. We would like to thank two exceptional ladies for their special attention in helping us reach another step. Those memories will linger for quit some time. What a great group of people; thank you for allowing us to again join in on a memorable weekend. You asked what would we change. Personally, six months is too long between visits, were not getting any younger you know and every three months would be nice. We were having a good time in the hot tub, but had to cut it short due to the high water temperature that may have been caused by our hot bodies. Cooler water setting could solve this problem. Hope everyone has a warm and safe winter, see you in the spring. P&J


OUR FEBRUARY 2003 NC WEEKEND

Eleven couples attended our North Carolina couples erotic weekend, Feb. 15th & 16th. Only five couples came from the Carolinas, the other six traveled from New York, Maine, West Virginia, and Tennessee. The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. For three couples this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Six couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. Some couples kept their play to soft swing. Five couples met mid-morning Saturday. This pre-meeting was hosted by Paul & Emily to talk about the lifestyle and the weekend. Couples new to the lifestyle were invited to attend. All couples arrived by Saturday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. A massage introduction was presented by Emily and Paul. The instruction included erotic and sensual non-erotic massage. The group divided into four groups, three couples on each of four tables. Though optional, many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, some continued the erotic play from the massage. Later, couples change into erotic night wear. Dinner was prepared. We had a "sit-down," meal. We used K & S now famous marinade for the chicken and beef. Thanks to everyone who brought special dishes and desserts. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room. The evening included hot tub, and other play. Most enjoyed nude hot tub play. Most couples were unable to returned Sunday morning. A major snow storm blanketed the east coast and many couples were anxious to begin their travel home. Some couples were stranded in North Carolina and unable to return home for days. For the couples that did return Sunday, there was more conversation. Some couples enjoyed the hot tub and more erotic massage. Plans were made to meet again.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES Sorry we didn't stay for the (Sunday) morning gathering. At 6 AM we saw the weather report and decided we should go ahead and start back. We left at 7:30 and got in here 1:30. We saw 10 wrecks on the way and the roads from near RDU on were awful. We both had a great time. E & D

Thanks goes to you for putting this on, and making us all sooooo welcome! You most certainly may share our email with the others, with our love. Yes... we made it back safely! Actually, we made better time going home than we made going. There was very little traffic and the roads were not too icy or snowy. The worst part was within a couple of miles from home when we ran into THICK fog. Otherwise, we rode along reliving the weekend and recounting the various interactions with a GREAT group of folks!! You guys really put on an awesome weekend and made us two very happy campers. We are looking forward to our next time with you. Thanks again... M & B

Paul and Emily, Thank You so much for the invitation. We meant some really great people, you two are great hosts and we cannot wait until the next party. P really enjoyed meeting everyone and we have come away with some new friends. You did an outstanding job pairing the couples up for the message, a special thank you to E and D for their expert guidance during the message, without them our group would have been lost. Everyone you invited were just nice people, GREAT JOB. Thank You again for a fantastic weekend. D & P PS Please feel free to give our e-mail out to the group.

Hi P & E, As always, a wonderful weekend. You two seem to attract the most fun, interesting people for your parties. S and I met new friends and enjoyed it all. I hope everyone made it home safely. Thanks! hugs, k&S

Hi Paul and Emily , It is very gracious of you to be thanking us, when we should be thanking you!!! We have continued to be high and very stimulated by the event - and have brought home wonderful additions to our intimacy together. It was certainly an experience! Sorry that we could not be with you for the breakfast on Sunday, but it was just as well. We managed to get to Raleigh in great time (no ice, just rain) and asked if we could go stand-by on any AA flight to the NY area. We were told that there was only 1 plane leaving for La Guardia and that there were only 2 seats available on that plane. The reason that this plane was able to depart at all was that both the plane and the crew were there already. There were no other AA planes on the ground that could take off on Sunday. We were incredibly lucky. Just 5 minutes later and.... we'd still be there today. We were even able to stop at the supermarket for the odd items en route home before the snow started. We ended up having close to 20 inches, which took us about 2 hours on Monday afternoon to shovel out. Today was still a mess, with many tertiary roads not plowed and impassable. This was certainly an unforgettable weekend! You may certainly share email address but please. It was great to meet you both. Thanks again for all the hard work to set up the weekend. R & J

We got home Wednesday at noon. We were lucky at the airport -- many cars were buried in snow but we could drive out easily, although I did have to maneuver cutely to get in the passenger side door. Then we had to shovel 2 feet of snow to get into our driveway and the house. It is a mess here. Snow is piled up from the plows to 10 feet next to our driveway. At the airport, they are still clearing runways and the piles are 20 to 30 feet. By the time we finished shoveling, we were exhausted. Fortunately, we had wine in the house. Thanks for a great time WITH YOU as always. Love, A & K

OUR OCTOBER 2002 WEEKEND

The October event was different because our good friend Pete was not with us, having died just within the last month. Certainly, there was some sadness but also many smiles and good memories of his contribution to the group. Our prayers continue to go out to Judy. It was also complicated because we did not have our regular extra housing of the castle. Nonetheless, twelve couples and one single women attended the erotic massage weekend in Maine Oct. 7th, 8th & 9th. Two additional houses were rented to accommodate all guests, however one houses' heating was inadequate therefore prompting extra bedrooms to be created at both remaining locations. The couples came from Maine (4), Massachusetts (3), Pennsylvania (1), Connecticut (2), Minnesota (1), North Carolina (1) and Maryland(1). The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As also is common with our events, there was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. There were four couples were this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Six couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About seven of the couples kept their play to soft swing activities of erotic massage play and erotic play in the hot tub.

All couples arrived by Friday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included our usual opening gathering, hot tub, and other play. A tradition is forming in our events where Friday night has an opening gathering where each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle. This is often a very fun and humorous time. Paul introduced two additional "ice breakers" activities at this weekend. A video "The Art of Erotic Massage" produced by the Sinclar Institute was played. This video is a very well produced and very erotic tape. Furthermore, slices of lime were passed out and participants were offered the option of squeezing lime juice on a partner or new friend and then licking the juice up. Needless to say, both activities simulated much erotic play within the group. The group room and hot tub remained popular well into the night.

After Saturday breakfast a massage introduction was presented by Emily and Paul. The group divided into four groups. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, then had lunch. Many couples took walks or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others. Later, couples change into erotic night wear. Dinner was managed by Lucy. As usual, the preparation of the meal was as much fun as the meal itself. We had a "sit-down," meal.

Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room. Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

Dear Paul We were happy to see that you and Emily got home safely. We would have no problem with the email address ... We had a wonderful time...thank you very much...for your hospitality and opportunity to be newbies safely...and most importantly thank you for your patience....this was a big step for us! K and SP

Paul and Emily, We wanted to take the time and let you know that the farm weekend is one of the best experiences as a couple that we have ever had! We have met some of the finest people and had and shared some of the greatest experiences at the farm. Some of the people we have met during these weekends will be lifelong friends!! We feel very lucky to have found you and hope to continue our friendships and loving for many years to cum!! Hugs and Kisses,,,,and whatever else,,,,, K & E

Hi Paul & Emily. We had a wonderful time and enjoyed all the people. L will never get over all the attention. We cannot think of adding anything to your great plan. Hope to see you in the spring. Love, M & L

Thank you both for another wonderful, erotic and relaxing weekend. What a great group of people...again.! As much as we like the 'Castle' (and you know B loves the'Castle') the 'Camp' worked out extremely well..what a great comfortable place...it was enjoyed by all. The only suggestion we could make would be...don't change a thing!!..Whatever you are doing..keep doing it.. Well maybe a few more limes..and some well placed chocolate. We'll see you in the spring...if not before that. And we'll be thinking of you all...often. Your friends, J & B

Dear Paul & Emily, We would like to thank you and all the great people we met at the farm. J & I were somewhat apprehensive when we pulled up to the farm, but that quickly disappeared as soon as you answered the door. Everyone was so friendly and made us feel welcome. It was a great group of people, and good conversation. I personally want to thank you for the extra effort you put forth in finding accommodations for us (with heat) and a great group of people. And, I apologize for forgetting to help you drag the mattess' back upstairs @ the cabin. The weekend was all and more than we expected, especially the massage. We fulfilled fantasies we didn't realize we had, and the memories are going to last for quit a while. Thanks again to you and all the friends we made for a memorable weekend and we hope to make it back to the Farm in the spring . J is holding up two fingers Love P&J

Dear Paul and Emily, We would both like to thank you for the very special time we spent together last weekend. It was a very interesting and sensual new experience for both of us. We especially enjoyed meeting so many other couples. The massages were wonderful, and dinner Saturday night was delicious. Thanks again, B & C

Thank you Paul and Emily for providing such a wonderful weekend for me. I had the best time. You create a warm, inviting, safe place to play and met friends. Please think of me if you set up a travel group to a warm destination this spring. I wish I could see you both more often. I love to dance with you Paul! Love you both, K

Hi Em and Paul: Six months (until the next event)....torture you know! However, the anticipation of trying to outdo last weekend will be worth the wait! We had a wonderful time...thanks to your special attentions! Funny what runs through ones mind prior to attending an event such as this, apprehension, anticipation, anxiety of having ones period, etc, etc. LOL. We almost didn't come, but we are very glad we did cum, and cum and cum! :) Seriously, you both offered a relaxing and comfortable environment for newcomers and the experienced. What a great adventure for all! We look forward to the next event, and want to reserve the same bedroom to be in the middle of the action, which is what C expects at all times!!!! Plus I give house tours, and I'll even cook for the weekend! The only thing that was missing for erotica dessert for Saturday evening. I'll be sure to whip something yummy up to share with everyone for the next time.We enjoyed meeting such great people, yourselves included of course. If your ever passing through CT or (Maine) give us a call! Warmly, fondly, wetly, C & N

Our January 2002 Weekend


Twelve couples attended our North Carolina couples erotic weekend, Jan. 19th & 20th. Only five couples came from the Carolinas, the other six traveled from South Carolina, Virginia, West Virginia, Tennessee and Boston . The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. For two couples this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Six couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. Some couples kept their play to soft swing. All couples arrived by Saturday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included hot tub, and other play. Most enjoyed nude hot tub play. A massage introduction with video was presented by Emily and Paul. The group divided into four groups, three couples on each of four tables. Though optional, many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, some continued the erotic play from the massage. Later, couples change into erotic night wear. Dinner was prepared. We had a "sit-down," meal. We used K & S now famous marinade for the chicken and beef. Thanks to everyone who brought special dishes and desserts.


Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room. Most couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time but also a very funny time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative) and told many many jokes. Plans were made to meet again.


REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES


Hi Paul & Emily! Thank you again for your generous hospitality yesterday and last night. We thoroughly enjoyed our first massage weekend and look forward to attending others in the future. K & D


Hi, S and I had, as usual, a wonderful time with you this weekend. You seem to be a magnet for the nicest people, all of whom we enjoyed. Thanks for hosting an erotic, fun, stimulating time! hugs, k & S


Emily and Paul, Thank you for a sensual and erotic weekend. We appreciate the work that you put into making these weekends special for everyone. It certainly was for us! We enjoyed the opportunity to get to know you and others in a social (as well as sexual) setting. The conversation, hot tub, erotic play, and massage were all stimulating and fun. Please keep us in mind for future gatherings. C&D


Thanks for a great time! It was good to see old friends and to meet new ones. Even the Hot Tub was fun in the rain. We both had a wonderful time. Sorry we won't be able to make the Maine outing; but we will see you in North Carolina in August. E & D


Hello Paul and yes it would be very nice to get some emails. We were both so surprised to see how really welcoming and nice as a whole the people from the south really are. We had a very nice time and want to thank you for all your efforts. Again, we have heard it said so often that the southern people are friendly but now understand it from experience not from only the people at your place but wherever we stopped for food, gas and lodging. again, thanks for everything..D & D


OUR OCTOBER 2001 WEEKEND


The October event was a first in two respects. It was the largest group and the first time a single women attended. Sixteen couples and one single women attended the erotic massage weekend in Maine Oct. 12th, 13th and 14th. The remodeling of the Farm, with added barn space, allowed for this large group to be comfortable. Two additional houses were rented to accommodate all guests. The couples came from ten states, Canada & Great Britain. Eight couples came from the New England states of Maine, Massachusetts and New Hampshire. The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As also is common with our events, there was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. For three couples this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Twelve couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About six of the couples kept their play to soft swing or erotic play in the hot tub.

Four couples meet Thursday night for a pre-event "event" which included golf on Friday. These couples were seasoned veterans of our weekends and have become close friends. They wish to extend an invitation to other couples to join them for golf (etc.) on the Friday preceding our events. All couples arrived by Friday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included our usual opening gathering, hot tub, and other play. Most enjoyed nude hot tub play. The group room was also popular.

After Saturday breakfast a massage introduction was presented by Emily and Paul. The group divided into five groups. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, then had lunch. It was a beautiful Fall New England day which prompted many to take afternoon walks. A highlight of the late afternoon was a day time hot tub. As couples returned from walks then entered the hot tub. By dinner time, the tub was overflowing with people. It was a great time of laughter, breasts, etc. Later, couples change into erotic night wear. Dinner was prepared. As usual, the preparation of the meal was as much fun as the meal itself. The group had a moment of silence and reflection regarding the events of 11-September. We had a "sit-down," meal. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room.

Certainly one of the highlights of the weekend was chocolate covered breasts offered-up by a number of the women.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time but also a very funny time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative) and told many many jokes. Plans were made to meet again.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

Thank you very much for a lovely weekend in Maine. The scenery was great, the weather was great, the people were great, the massage was great, and the sex was great. We made it home safe and sound and on time. Everything went well. We'll be in touch.Hugs & Kisses & More . . .S& M

Paul and Emily, We still have the bottle of wine I meant to give you in the car as a thank you for the great weekend we had. And indeed we did have a great weekend. There is something about hot tubs that is very erotic...of course 13 naked and horny people help that view as well. Great place to have it and the people were a LOT of fun. Please keep us in mind for future gatherings! If schedules permit, we'll be there! Again, many thanks. M&K

Dear Paul and Emily, Just wanted to let you know what a good time we had. As usual, it was a great mix of people. With so many, it was hard to mingle with everyone and we regret not having had enough time to visit with everyone.. We hope they will come again and we might have a better opportunity to get together.. From the looks of the group, we decided that we should nickname it the "mammary gland group". I have never seen so many huge tits in one place in all my life. I was definitely intimidated by all of them. However, I did my best to help out by serving some sort of dessert. I hope a few people enjoyed the chocolate nipples. Got to help out whenever I can, you know. Thanks again for a memorable weekend, it was worth the 13 hr drive. J & E

Paul & Emily Not that you would change your schedules for us, but I thought we might send you our tentative schedule for the next year to help you plan the Maine weekend so that we might attend. Basically, will be in the US the following dates ....(Hellofalife!!) (By the way) We decided to get married (to each other ;-) on the way home from your place Sunday!!! Goodnight, B (& P)

Hi Paul and Emily I have to tell you both that so much attention was paid to my nipples that they are both extremely sore........... I think I have the equivalent of 'joggers nipples' without the jogging! (grin). We look forward to another visit sometime. P

Dear B&P We enjoyed the time with you. D & L (who were also at the weekend) finally decided to tie the knot after one of our weekends too! Apparently, D decided the married people were having so much fun, he wanted to be included. I don't know how soon we will be able to decide on a date for our spring event. It is usually in April or May. Late May has created some scheduling conflicts with some of our frequent guests (graduations, weddings, etc.) Emily

Dear Paul & Emily Thanks for the invitation! We had a great time. The only problem was the loooong drive back. E had to get business mail out by 5PM Monday. We hated to leave so early Sunday but we needed to start back. The drive through VT and NH was wonderful. We enjoyed the winding roads over to I-91. It took us from 8:30 AM to about 7:30 PM to reach Hershey, PA where we spent the night. As we were almost out of NY we saw a car from WV and they were people we know. You can travel 2000 miles and still run into friends. The only thing that we would suggest changing is having more bathrooms in the rental houses...we know you can't change that. The people were great as was the food and events that took place. We don't know if we will make the long drive again...we will more than likely fly; however we will be in NC. E & D

Paul and Emily, Thank you for allowing us to escape and relax among old and new friends for a few days. The afterglow hasn't worn off and the flashbacks are great fun. We remember the smiles...in fact we have taken to calling the event the Cheshire Cat weekend..we have never seen so many people with bigger smiles. And with very good reason. We think your 'experiment' was a great success. B and I both thought it was wonderful. As you know, some of us played golf on Friday morning. We would extend an open invitation for you two and anyone else to join us next time. We had a great time. Thanks D&L. Your friends, J&B

Paul and Emily, The weekend at the farm was wonderful. Every one made me feel so comfortable. I was nervous as a single woman to go to a couples event, but I was treated like a queen. The experience was just what I had hoped for. The laughing, good conversation, great food, warm moments like the hot tub and dancing in the kitchen, all the hands at the massage table. I was able to rekindled old friendships and meet some interesting new friends too. Emily, it was nice to chat with you, the weekend seemed to short. I wish we lived closer, I think we would be great friends. I can't wait to see you both again. I always feel so relaxed. Thank you for allowing me to come to your event and making it work. Please, if you ever want to come to ...., stay with me. I would love to return the hospitality you have extended to me. I have lot's of room. You can just call me. Thanks again, K

Dear Paul & Emily, Again you have outdone yourselves. It always intrigues us as to how you can put that many people together that almost always come away from the Farm with positive feelings. Again, Thank you for the wonderful weekend and the opportunity to add more friends and relationships to our lives. D & L

Hi Paul and Emily, We would like to share a little bit of the afterglow of the weekend. As always it was wonderful to see old friends and we thoroughly enjoyed making new ones as well. We come to the farm weekends knowing that there will always be fun involved and that we will likely have some new experiences that we will cherish for a long time. The work that you two do to set the tone is amazing and appreciated more than we tell you. Many thanks for all you do. Many thanks too, for providing the opportunity for us to explore our interests and expand our horizons. We had a wonderful time this past time and had several "new" experiences that will keep us excited for weeks and months. Perhaps even until the next time. Love, P & J

OUR AUGUST 2001 WEEKEND


Thirteen couples attended our North Carolina couples erotic weekend, Aug. 17th, 18th & 19th. Only seven couples came from the Carolinas, the other six traveled from Long Island, Virginia, West Virginia, New Jersey, Chicago and Greece. The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. There was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. For four couples this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Four couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About half of the couples kept their play to soft swing.

All couples arrived by Saturday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included hot tub, swimming pool and other play. Most enjoyed nude or semi-nude swimming and hot tub play, however the thunderstorms kept most from the pool.

A massage introduction with video was presented by Emily and Paul. The group divided into four groups, three couples on three tables and four couples at one table. Though optional, many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. One participant commented, "we respected the limits set by the person receiving the massage." This process is always a challenge because some couples come with high erotic energy and others may be very new and cautious.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, then returned to the swimming pool. Later, couples change into erotic night wear. Dinner was prepared. We had a "sit-down," meal. We used K & S now famous marinade for the chicken and beef. Thanks to everyone who brought special dishes and desserts. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room. Certainly one of the highlights of the weekend was the new game called "how many people can fit in an eight person hot tub?" The record so far is the 16 we had in there Saturday night. It definitely was an ice breaker. There was also a little side game going on called "Who's Toe Is That Anyway" - we never did figure that one out. Actually it was great fun and a wonderful way to get to know everyone up close and personal. I feel quite assured everyone had a fabulous time!!! Looking to break the record next time!

Seven couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time but also a very funny time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative) and told many many jokes. Plans were made to meet again.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

Thanks for allowing us to attend the Massage weekend. D and I had a wonderful time. You're such great host. It only took us 5 1/2 hours to drive back. The weather was hot and dry. We had the top down most of the way. We're looking forward to all of us getting together once again. E & D

Hi Paul, P and I had a great time and would love everyone's email address. thanks for a great weekend. P & A

Paul, thank you for the very nice weekend, We had a wonderful time. Let us know for future events. Thanks again. M & B

Hi y'all, Another great party! The mix of personalities and opinions was stimulating. The problem is always the same: not enough time for conversation with everyone, but I guess the introductions are all we need to pursue more time. Thanks for hosting the gathering, and thanks for having us. S and I made it home in time for a nap on the sofa, so I know you two were exhausted. Our pool time at your house was cut short by the rain, but we managed a dip in the river between showers later in the afternoon when we got home. Emily, Here is the recipe for the marinade (for 2 1/2 lbs beef/chicken): 1 cup fresh lime juice (OK, I used the bottle stuff!) 2/3 c beer 4 t. chili powder 2 t. cumin 1 t. oregano 1 t. salt 1/2 t. black pepper 4 cloves garlic, minced Please add our email address to the list to be passed along, and thanks for having us all! It was great. hugs, k & s

Hi Paul & Em, We just wanted to thank you for a wonderful weekend. It was certainly a great way to be introduced to swinging. Between the pool, hot tub and massage it was so easy to relax. Everyone was wonderful! Thanks again, W & J

OUR JUNE 2001 WEEKEND


Nine couples attended our North Carolina couples erotic weekend, June 29th, 30th & 1st. Most came from the Carolinas, however one couple traveled from Boston and one couple traveled from Maryland. The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 50's. There was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. For three couples this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Three couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. Of the couples that had previous swinging experience, half kept their play to soft swing.

All couples arrived Friday evening. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included hot tub, swimming pool and erotic play (particularly with their own partners). Most enjoyed nude or semi-nude swimming and hot tub play. "E" led the group in mixer games involving attempts to identify your partner by touch while blind folded. Conversation and erotic play lasted well into the evening on Friday. This late night activities caused many of the couples to then forgo our early morning golf tee times of 8am. Four of the nine couples played golf in a "scramble" game where the best ball was played. No score was kept. The golf outing was a fun time. Saturday was a hot (95+ degree) day which made the swimming pool a delightful place to cool off. A massage introduction with video was presented by Emily and Paul Saturday afternoon. The group divided into three groups, three couples on three tables. Though optional, most (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, then returned to the swimming pool. Later, couples change into erotic night wear. Dinner was prepared. We had a "sit-down," candle light, meal. Thanks to everyone who brought special dishes and desserts.


Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room. Six couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative), politics, religion, the Catholic Church and their jobs. Plans were made to meet again.


REFLECTIONS FROM COUPLES FROM E-MAIL AND COMMENTS DURING THE EVENT We wanted to say thanks for a wonderful and fun weekend. C and I enjoyed all the activities, and thought you two did a great job of making everyone feel welcome. We realize that it takes a lot of effort to make all that happen -- so thanks again. Will be in touch, would like to plan to meet some time. M & C


Sorry about not attending the Sunday brunch and not saying goodbye. We do want you to know that you held a super party!! We had a great time and if you will have us back we would love to do it again. We really enjoyed the other couples and I just want you to know that we had a great time with both of you. If you are ever in the Charlotte area, please look us up. Maybe you both would like to take in a Carolina Friends party sometime??!! Hope to see you again sometime. Please take care and keep in touch. Till later, N & B


HI, We had a great time too.. Until we got to the airport.. our flight had been canceled due to the bad weather in NJ and area... We tried to get a midnight flight but that got canceled also before flight time.. Soooo we spent the night in the airport .. not real fun but helpful in being the first in line at 5 am... so we took a 7:30 flight and got home around 1 this afternoon.... (monday).. Talked to E on-line, They had a good time too she said. but liked the farm craziness best. She is a wild and crazy kind of girl.. It was 63 degrees when we got into Providence but the sun was out making for a nice ride home.. Well guess that is it for now.. J has the tub warming up for some quick " tub games " and then to sleep...... Luv Ya B & J


Paul and Emily; We also had an absolutely terrific time and are looking forward to the next opportunity to get together with you and the rest of the group (or whomever is available). Thank you for your hospitality and all the enjoyment you shared with us. S & K


OUR TRIP TO MEXICO & THE CARIBBEAN REEF CLUB


We visited the Caribbean Reef Club for 8 days, March 20-March 27, 2001. This is a year round lifestyles couples only resort. Here is a link (www.CaribbeanReefClub.com). The Club is a remodeled hotel-resort located approximately 25 miles south of Cancun, Mexico. The club is an all-inclusive resort including alcohol. It is a three story facility with adjacent lounge, bar and dinning room. It surrounds a fresh water swimming pool and is located on the ocean. There are three types of room layouts which range from a standard hotel room to a suite with kitchenette to an even larger suite with kitchenette. The two larger type unites come with a balcony overlooking the sea, and are well worth the extra cost. A large hot tub and volley ball sand court is located adjacent to the swimming pool. The swimming pool area is landscaped with a beautiful tropical garden and has ample area for couples to enjoy to sun. The swimming pool area, garden and hot tub are cloths optional. The resort's capacity is @ 25 couples. About 90% of the couples enjoyed the swimming pool and hot tub nude. However, there was no pressure on couples to be nude and the ones remaining in their bathing suites seemed comfortable. The resort offered daily snorkeling and skin diving trips for a nominal extra charge. However, one of the most interesting aspect of the resort is it's access to the Mexican-Mayan culture. Within 45 minutes there are the sites of Tulum, a Mayan walled city build in AD 250. We also enjoyed visiting Cancun and Playa del Carmen. We think the real plus to this location is the option for day trips while still enjoying a lifestyle resort. Now, to the lifestyle. As stated, the pool-garden area and hot tub area were cloths optional. The hot tub only opened at 6pm but them stayed open for as long as people wanted. After dinner each night there was also a dance. From our conversations, we estimate that about 50% of the couples had some experience with the swinging lifestyle. The evening dances and hot tub provided social times for meeting couples of similar interests. Though the atmosphere was certainly erotic, Caribbean Reef Club should not be considered a "swinging resort." However, we did observe that during visits by swing clubs (which occurred the latter part of our week) the resort did become more oriented towards swinging. We had a great time, meet some wonderful people and would strongly recommend the club. We plan to go back and would love to act as host couple. The resort would be perfect for a massage couples week. Please visit our web site for pictures (G rated) of the Caribbean Reef Club. http://www.agate.net/~paulb/CRCbeach.jpg http://www.agate.net/~paulb/CRChottub.jpg http://www.agate.net/~paulb/CRCpoolandocean.jpg http://www.agate.net/~paulb/Tulumruins.jpg http://www.agate.net/~paulb/BeachatTulum.jpg


OUR APRIL 2001 WEEKEND


Twelve couples attended our New England couples erotic weekend, April 6, 7 & 8th. Most came from New England, however one couple traveled from Michigan and two traveled from North Carolina. All couples were in their 40's & 50's. There was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. For three couples this was their first experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Seven couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. Of the couples that had previous swinging experience, half kept their play to soft swing.

All couples arrived Friday evening. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included hot tub, sauna and erotic play. A group of couples enjoyed the Farm's new billiards room. A lively game of "strip pool" developed. A massage introduction with video was presented by Emily and Paul Saturday morning. The group also benefited from J & E comments who has Tantra training. The group divided into four groups, three couples on three tables and two couples on the fourth table. Though optional, most (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. Feedback from previous events, instructed couples not to join other massage groups if they finished early. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils. Lunch was served. Some couples took afternoon napes, others went for walks and still others enjoyed conversation. We had a wonderful "sit-down," candle light, Saturday meal. Thanks again to C & D for bringing the wine. All couples dressed up in erotic and "formal" attire. The outfits were more outrageous than ever. One outfit, purchased by a loving husband, displayed his wifes' breasts in the most inviting manner. Other members could not resist an early dessert, so chocolate was applied and then consumed by a number of participants. We enjoyed the new remodeled Farm recreation room, which comfortably allowed all 22 people to sit in the same room. All 22 participated in some of the preparation which was nearly as fun as the banquet. After the meal, the women organized a "full monte" dance for the men. E & D ended the formal dinner entertainment with leading the group in a chain dance throughout the Farm. It was a wild time. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. No erotic activities occurred. Most left the Farm by noon. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative), foreign travel experiences and vacation plans for the future.


REFLECTIONS FROM COUPLES FROM E-MAIL AND COMMENTS DURING THE EVENT Dear Paul and Emily, Thanks for a great weekend. Your hospitality helped us both feel very welcome and it was easy to quickly become part of the family. It sure was fun and, of course, pushed some buttons on both my part and M's. It's so interesting that even though we have had a few experiences like this that it's not always what happens, but how it happens that seems to stir things up. We really had a great time and experienced a powerful sexual connection together in the midst of our lusting after others. That was an unexpected bonus that we really loved. And, I might add, is still going on now. We are still having a blast with all of our great memories. Stuffing pasta shells will never be quite the same for us! We want to express our gratitude to all of you who helped us play out our fantasies in a safe and really fun way. You all gave us an opportunity to stretch our limits and grow! Many of you had expressed interest in the personal growth works we're involved with so here are the websites that you can check out if you'd like. The Human Awareness Institute has playshops on Love, Intimacy & Sexuality. They are clothing optional and provide a safe, loving space to learn about relationship. These are powerful, life changing weekends: www.hai.org The Native American work is called Deer Tribe Metis Medicine Society:www.dtmms.org We expect to hold a Quodoushka (Sacred Sexuality) at our house here in Michigan next fall or spring. This is one aspect of the teachings. Avatar is a course that gives us simple tools to create what we want in every moment. We are both Wizards in this & teach it at home and in larger group settings: www.Starsedge.com Sensuously Yours, R & M


Another great weekend! We had a lot of fun and enjoyed the food, fun and "family" spirit. We stopped on the way home to visit 2 of the couples and further discussed events of the weekend. You could say that it was all for the benefit of the "Humane Society" that made it all so special! Thanks again, and we'll hope to see you next time...at the farm. J & J


Dear Emily & Paul: Thanks for a lovely weekend. We had the time of our lives. Looking forward to staying in touch with you and the others and meet everybody in the future. Please keep us posted. We too had a wonderful time and would definitely like to do the weekend again,either in NC, or Maine (or both). S & B


Good evening Paul and Emily! We had a great time with everyone.Take care--- E & J


Paul/Emily: Thanks for hosting another great weekend. Great people, great food, and a lot of fun. C, hereinafter known as "The Chocolate Mistress", has sent her outfit to the dry cleaners. Despite the efforts of several who attempted to remove the chocolate, the outfit was in need of professional help. C also comments that those of us who put on the "all male review" after dinner may want to hold onto our day jobs - not that it wasn't entertaining, she adds. Thanks to everyone who made it fun - especially Paul and Emily for bringing it all together. Best wishes for a nice summer to all. C&D


Jan 2001 MLK WEEKEND


Eight couples attended our North Carolina MLK couples erotic weekend, Jan. 12,13, &14. Most came from North Carolina, however one couple traveled from Florida and another traveled from South Carolina. All couples were in their 40's & 50's except two who were in their late 30's. There was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. For a few couples this was their first and second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Four couples had many years experience in the lifestyle.

Three couples arrived Friday evening for a hot tub, to talk about the lifestyle and for "pre event erotic play.". All other couples arrived by 2pm, Saturday. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. A massage introduction with video was presented by Emily and Paul. The group also benefited from D's comments who has professional massage training. The group divided into three groups, three couples on two tables and two couples on the third table. Though optional, everyone (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. Feedback from previous events, instructed couples not to join other massage groups if they finished early.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils. A number of couples shared showers, "purely as a gesture to conserve water." Some couples moved to the bedrooms to continue the erotic play whereas others moved to the hot tub.

We had a wonderful "sit-down," candle light, Saturday meal. All couples dressed up in erotic and "formal" attire. All 16 participated in some of the preparation which was nearly as fun as the banquet. Some women were assigned to pinching butts. Meal preparation was interrupted a number of times by small groups retreating back up to the bedrooms.

Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room and in the hot tub.

Most returned for omelets Sunday morning. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. No erotic activities occurred. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative), foreign travel experiences and vacation plans for the future. We again tried to be more safety conscious during the event. We ask that all attenders read our "safety in swinging" web link page (see address below) . We supplied a "bowl of condoms" in each play room.

REFLECTIONS FROM COUPLES FROM E-MAIL AND COMMENTS DURING THE EVENT

It was lots of fun,..our first time with massage (though we have been in the lifestyle for sometime). Massage structured a way for everyone to be nude. We liked it a lot. keep in touch. P&P

HI Paul and Emily, First of all, thank you for the invitation to you party. It was a hugh success. But what made the party was you and Emily. You are such nice people, we really feel lucky to have meet you two at Paradise Lakes, and we hope our friendship will continue. Yes you can give everyone at the party our email, we have no problem with that. We would also like the email of everyone there, if possible. I got the info on the Mexico trip, I will check it out and let you know if we can make it. We would love to but just have to let you know. Also I got the info on your condo. Thank you for send it. Again thank you two for a wonderful weekend and again we can't tell you how much we enjoy being with you. Stay in touch and we will also. Hugs and kisses, B & C

Thanks B & C We really appreciated your active help with hosting and creating positive group dynamics. As a host, I try to enjoy myself while doing some of the hosting (monitoring) functions. It is so much easier to do that with both of you pitching in with the practicalities and in "taking care" of the new people. Thanks a lot. Emily

Hi Paul and Emily. We had such a wonderful first experience with your help! Thanks for opening your home to us and everyone else. We hope to get together with you again in the future. Take care and keep in touch. Enjoy your trip to Mexico!! Your friends, M & R

Thanks for the great time! So many people, so little time! D is complaining that her legs are very sore today. Yesterday too, but not so much that we didn't do it again last night after a soak in the spa! It seemed to have turned her horny switch back to the wide open setting. I think you may have gotten something going here. Our sex life has been really terrific since the party! Got us out of a rut. Our variety of play has gone back to wide and varied.Thanks, thanks, thanks, Many great memories. Thanks again. J & D

Dear Emily & Paul: This was certainly one of the most memorable weekends of S's life. Everything was planned so perfectly, your attention to everything was awesome. We talked about the weekend all the way home and S said if she was a kitten she would be purring. Everyone we meant were just the greatest, and we now have new friends to chat with and hopefully will see again. We both had a wonderful time and enjoyed meeting this great group. Thank You for letting us join you and hope that we will be invited to the next party. Please include our E-Mail address when you send them out. D ( of D & S)

Dear Emily and Paul: This was certainly one of the most memorable weekends of my life. The woman who left her home on Friday is not the woman who returned. It is like a whole new world has been opened and I almost feel like I could fly because of the freedom I feel. It is so nice to get that weight of worry, anxiousness, fear, doubt, etc., off my shoulders. You made this awakening so very comfortable for me. Your sensitivity and caring for a complete stranger is awesome and if I hadn't experienced it I probably wouldn't have believed it. Everything was planned so perfectly and added to the gradual timing of everything. I told Dan that if I was a kitten I would be purring! We both had a wonderful time and enjoyed meeting this great group. Thank You for letting us join you even though we had to cancel the last invitation but we definitely want to be there for the next party. Please let us know if you will be coming down to this area so we can get together and return the hospitality, etc., etc. S (of D & S)

OUR OCTOBER 2000 WEEKEND

Nine couples attended our New England couples erotic weekend, Oct. 27-29. Four couples came from the New England states and five traveled from the mid-Atlantic/southern states. Our relocation to North Carolina plus our NC events seems to be attracting more couples from the south. Couples were in their 40's to 60's. For many (four) of the couples this was their first or second experience with the lifestyle. These couples limited their play to "soft-swing" activities. Three other couples also limited their erotic play to "soft-swing" activities. The weekend's massage and play was erotic and very pleasurable. Emily and I were again reminded that couples weekends can be very stimulating without intercourse.

All couples arrived by Friday evening; wine, cheese and other refreshments were served. The group quickly engaged in conversation. One person shared that when she played spin the bottle as a youngster, nobody chose her. Well.., you can guess what happened next!! A wonderful (and erotic) game of spin the bottle ensued and you can be sure no one was left out. Afterwards, many enjoyed a nude hot tub or sauna, whereas others enjoyed erotic play in the group room.

After breakfast Saturday, a massage introduction with video was presented by Emily and Paul. The group also benefited from comments from couples who previously had attended the weekends. The group divided into three groups, three couples on each table. Each person chose the style of their massage: non-genital or massage including genitals. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures.

We had a wonderful "sit-down," candle light, Saturday meal. All couples dressed up in erotic and "formal" attire. All 18 participated in the meal preparation which was nearly as fun as the banquet. The highlight of the banquet came with "dessert." A hilarious mixture of "on the table" erotic talent show and experimentation with after dinner (Altoids) mints, left nearly everyone exhausted with laughter. Erotic play continued after dinner. Most couples were on the road for home after Sunday breakfast.

REFLECTIONS FROM COUPLES

Paul and Emily; thank you, thank you for a wonderful weekend. Once again you took strangers and turned them into friends in 40 hours..and a few of those we were asleep (sorry). The e mails and have been flying. Meetings are being planned. And B. and I are still on a "seminar" high. Ain't massage wonderful. We are already making plans for next time. Thanks again. You are both so good at what you do, and we feel truly privileged that you let us participate. Your friends, J&B

Paul & Emily: I've attached a tongue in cheek note that would only be appreciated by those lucky enough to have been there. Feel free to send it to the others..or let me know and I will... J&B ....the entire floor show, which followed the sumptuous dinner, was inspired. Vegas would envy the talent we enjoyed and enjoyed and enjoyed. L&B took us to new heights. B’s inspired instruction will remain imbedded in our minds forever. In fact we will never take flight in quite the same way ever, ever again. Special thanks to our host and his willing accomplice J. for preparing, serving and devouring the desert on the table. I am sure that many of us have, and will continue to use that recipe, and it’s secret ingredient, for years to come. So many wonderful things happened in such a short time that it is impossible to remember them all at once…they keep popping into our minds at odd times, making us smile and laugh out loud. And the people; how do you do it? Such a great eclectic group of wonderful people. Paul and Emily you have worked your special magic…again. Thank you…thank you. (The makers of Altoids thank you. For some reason the stock went up on Monday) Now...have you put together a group for the Solare Resort? We will be looking to get away from the snow in March. We usually cruise (and that's getting old), or just go to Florida and play golf ( and that's getting old too). So we are up for something different. Let us know. Maybe we can get some of that great Spring or Fall Farm group to go (either one or better yet, both) J&B

We laughed all the way home and are still laughing. I haven't had that much fun in years. Thanks again for such a great time. We really had fun and loved everyone. What a wonderful bunch of people. You are such great hosts. J & E

Dear Paul & Emily, You two never stop to amaze us. It is amazing the people that you invite to "The Farm". They seem to be some of the GREATEST in the world and always seem to enjoyed themselves. We thoroughly enjoyed ourselves as much as we ever have while being guests for the weekend. Everything from the people, the meals, massage, Dessert on the table, intimacy, Altoids, and of course all the laughs. We will remember this one for a long time and will make others question our smiles as we recollect on the weekend.To the new people that were there, hope you had a GREAT time and hope that it was all you expected and you came away with positive memories. Looking Forward to Hearing from all of you, D&L

The weekend was fabulous (as always). You are truly amazing people. And we love being around you and with you. The weekends always seem so short, because there are more ideas and possibilities than time. Looking forward, P&J

The weekend was, for us, educational, quite a different learning experience, and most of all - FUN. Thanks for being great hosts. The trip home was a little hectic through New England with 6 inches of snow. On the way home, we were discussing your confidentiality statement. We decided that it wasn't necessary; after all, who would believe that:

We would drive a total over 1200 miles to attend such an event; that the party would be held in an old farmhouse in conservative New England; that we would be cavorting in an outdoor tub with strangers at midnight in October; that many of the attendees would be grandparents like ourselves; that table top activities would take on a whole new meaning; & that we would be driving through 6 inches of snow on the way home.

NOBODY who knows us would believe a word of it so all of these events will be perfectly safe with us! Looking forward to seeing you again. Thanks, again. JJ

Hi Paul and Emily, I was just writing to let you know we really enjoyed the massage weekend and looking forward to the next one. We really met some nice people up there and P truly added altoids to her grocery list. Our ride back to Boston was not to bad. Just wanted to say for the ones we did not get to say Good bye to, that we really enjoyed meeting each person and please accept our hugs by email. Anyway a great weekend with a lot of great people. See you at the next one. A and P (PS it sure was great to see the great turnout from the southern states)

MAY 2000 NEW ENGLAND WEEKEND


Ten couples attending our New England couples erotic weekend, May 19-21. Most came from the New England states, however two traveling from North Carolina, one from Canada and one from Arizona. Most couples were in their 40's & 50's. There was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. A few couples have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Others had experiences many years ago and were again "testing the waters." For some couples this was their first experience.


A real treat was D&C providing wine for the group. They chose both a red and white for the weekend and brought amply supplies. Their selections were simply great. This was so wonderful! Thanks again you guys, you are a real class act. Our now traditional "sit-down" Saturday meal was a great success. All couples dressed up in erotic and "formal" attire. All 20 participated in some of the preparation which was nearly as fun as the banquet. The preparation of food occurred at the same time as hands caressed, lips kissed and bodies blended. It was a great show. The fun included couples singing show tunes and re-creating Broadway plays. Clearly the highlight of the evening meal was the group singing the Canadian national antrum while the Canadian female attender got on top of the table and striped!


Our massage was more erotic than at other events. Emily and I showed a 10 min. video demonstrating genital massage. Though optional, nearly all attenders chose this type of massage in addition to regular sensual massage. We also prevented any massage group to exceed three couples. All couples participated in erotic play in addition to the massage. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms.


REFLECTIONS FROM COUPLES Hello Paul & Emily; This is J of "J & D". :) We would just like to thank you both for a nice weekend. We enjoyed ourselves very much. Thank you for your hospitality. We hope to maybe return next year. Everyone was so nice and friendly. We made a couple of new friends as well. And the massage was good too!! I enjoyed it very much, thank you. :) There is nothing that I can think of that needs improving. The weekend has brought us closer together, we loved it just the way it was. :)) Thanks again. :) We wish you well and hope to keep in contact. Take care, J & D


Hi D & C, I know we said thank you 10 or more times for the wine, but I want to say it again. The wine and flowers show the real class of you both. Emily and I really enjoyed your company, the humor, the conversation and the erotic play. Thanks again for coming, Paul & Emily


Paul & Emily: The weekend was great. You two really put together a good time for a group of strangers (for the most part). Thanks again so much for having us. I don't know how you would make the weekend much better. It sure didn't seem like people had difficulty "breaking the ice." Maybe a very basic "scavenger hunt" for the first evening where some fun, sexy items are hidden (not too difficult to find) with people teaming up to find them much like you had us do this time. I'm sure if we thought about it we could think of some fun games or other forms of entertainment but things sure seemed to go alright as it was. Again, thanks for sponsoring the weekend and for having us. We had fun. Take care and keep in touch. D & C


To all of our new friends,: what can we say but WOW. A wonderful group of people to spend the weekend with. Hope to see all of you again soon.Please stay in touch. You all have a standing invitation to visit us. We could not have written a better script for the weekend Hugs: Your new friends S & S


. Paul and Emily, I just couldn't believe I was still smiling after a whole week.. It was funny that I had told J earlier I was still flying on a high from the weekend when your email came with the same message... great minds think alike.. We had such an incredible time last weekend... we are really looking forward to the next 'seminar' ..and hopefully some of the same people too... I know it is too much to ask for everyone to come next time.. but we sure were a great group... J has found the great massage oil we used and using it will bring back wonderful memories.. Please keep us informed of any up coming events.. B & J


NORTH CAROLINA MASSAGE WEEKEND- APRIL 2000

Five couples attended our April 15th massage Saturday. The weather was too cold for swimming but the hot tub was perfect. The day included massage (optional "mild" or "spicy"), group meal preparation, evening erotic play, hot tub and for some, Sunday brunch.
"Paul and Emily, We would like to express our thanks for the wonderful party. We had a great time. You and Emily were the perfect host and hostess. I loved talking with you both . Everyone was friendly and helpful. The massage was everything you described it to be and more. We had the best time ever. Thanks again and keep in touch." L AND D

NEW ENGLAND MASSAGE WEEKEND- MAY 1999


Two couples flew into New England for the weekend, three couples were from Northern New England and three from the Central New England area. Three couples were new to the group whereas the other five had attended previous weekends. Our experience with massage, erotic or otherwise, varied. Some have enjoyed occasional professional massage. Four of the couples were active in the swinging lifestyle and four were fairly new, though having some experiences. Ages ranged from the 30's to 50's.

We expanded the kitchen into the front porch. This had been Emily's vision for a number of years. It made a wonderful group space for conversation. It's always fascinating how space dictates the way people interact with each other! This added space contributed to lots of conversation.

We started the weekend with introductions. A foot massage followed, where each person gave and received. This evolved into general massage. A game of clothing-optional twister engaged much of the group along with conversation for the remainder of the evening.

After breakfast, we presented a 45 minutes massage instruction. The instruction covered general massage and erotic massage. Others added suggestions and recommendations. All participants disrobed and seemed comfortable with nudity. The couples divided into two groups. One group did individual massage. The other started with individual massage but quickly switched into large group massage. By the end of the weekend nearly everyone experienced this incredible sensation. The process is one where 8-10 hands massage you. The massage starts with general kneading but them progressed to where all the hands moved together from one end of the body to the other. It is an incredible sensation. Though hands freely massage genitals on the way up and down, the sensation is much more sensual than erotic. The receiver is unable to distinguish "a" hand. The hands feel more like "one" hand. A comment by one male was that though receiving the group massage was sensual, watching his wife be touched by twelve hands was very erotic.


Erotic play groups formed after dinner, some in small groups of threes & fours. Other groups played together in a large room. A few enjoyed intercourse, however most enjoyed side-by-side and oral play.

The following are comments from some of the couples:

"We totally enjoyed ourselves during the weekend event in May. The people were very interesting and the format made interacting very comfortable. Our only complaint was that it was too short !!! We both agree it was one of the most interesting and fun weekends we've ever had. It was a VERY interesting mix of people. The interactions with them both clothed and unclothed was a mix of good feelings. I think the main thing is that the format and nature of the attendees made it so that we weren't strangers after a very brief period of time, thus, there was no pressure and what happened just came natural, and it was wonderful. I think J had some trepidation going into it but she left exhilarated and talking about when the next one would be. "
S & J

Hello Paul and Emily,
I'm not sure I can express all that we are feeling about the weekend. It was fabulous!!! We are still so turned on I can't believe it. We must have made love 6 or 7 times last night and 3 times before J went to work this morning. During some of those we were just focused on us but many relived things that happened during the weekend. We cherish those experiences with both of you. They will stay with us for a long time, probably forever. We owe you two a lot for providing us with the opportunities and for being so comfortable to be with as we progress in our experiences. Many thanks. We started talking about our vacation plans this morning (and they are on the refrigerator). We want to include visits with lifestyle friends in it. We don't have any definite plans yet but we'll keep you posted if we head your way.
J & P

Thanks for all of your "planning, and organizing", In spite of not "fully" participating. We had a great time, good people, good food, and good accommodations, and even perfect weather. Hopefully we will both be feeling better next time so that we can better enjoy all of the "opportunities" to "get to know everyone better". We would appreciate if you could forward every ones E-Mail address so that we can stay in touch with them also. Thanks again for all of your hospitality, and kindness.
A M, and F

We had a great weekend. As always, it was wonderful to be with you both. We enjoyed the chats, the massage, the meals, etc. (especially the etcetera!)
M & L

NORTH CAROLINA MASSAGE WEEKEND Winter, 1999


Our group was small, consisting of only five couples. Two couples were from Virginia, one from the capital-DC area, one from New England and us from North Carolina. Our experience with massage, erotic or otherwise, varied. Some have enjoyed occasional professional massage. Four of the couples were active in the swinging lifestyle whereas one was fairly new. Ages ranged from late 30's to early 50's. Apart from our common interest in erotic massage, all had interesting histories and careers. We had much to talk about. Our larger groups in New England ranged from 8 to 13 couples. However, for this setting five couples was very comfortable and cozy. However, we could have easily accommodated a sixth couple.


After breakfast, we presented a 45 minutes massage instruction. We used content from an erotic massage workshop and content from "The Tao of Sexual Massage", Fireside Books, 1992. Later in the weekend, we passed around a copy of this book. Different than our other massage weekends, the instruction focused on a "one on one" massage. We gave instructions which included genital massage, through this was optional. After the instruction, we paired up and gave and received massage for the next three hours. We choose to massage together in the one large room. The afternoon included walks on the beach for some and shopping trips including a fun trip to a boutique. Some couples paired for more massage and erotic play. We then dressed for dinner out. Having been nude together for much of the morning, this was a great treat to see women in black dresses and men in suit coats. The late Saturday night provided a special treat. We all returned from dinner and "dressed down" into more comfortable and sexy clothes. Soon we discarded even these clothes. The five couples formed a group massage. Each individual received @ a 15 minute massage by the other nine participants.., or eighteen hands massaging them at one time! This was a very special event. The group then dissolved into erotic play.


SOME COMMENTS FROM COUPLES:


Paul and Emily, We'd like to thank you both for hosting such a wonderful weekend. We were given ample opportunity to bring several of our fantasies to life. Fun in the hot tub, wonderful one-on-one and indescribable many-on-one massages, the suggestive teasing and exhibitionism during our dinner out, and Saturday night's impromptu group 'event' were wonderfully satisfying. All of these events continue to arouse us when we think back on our experiences with all of you. Even the shopping was fun; in fact we think you should make group boutique shopping a regular part of the outings. More important than the weekend's activities were the people we met. Paul your greeting set the tone for the entire weekend. We arrived late and over stressed as a result of the bad weather, but you and Emily made us feel instantly at ease and welcome. All of the couples that were already settled in gave us a warm welcome and helped us to unwind from the trip. Beyond the art of making newcomers welcome, Paul has a definite talent for organizing and hosting this type of event. Unlike many male hosts, Paul knows to not over control a social situation, enabling the group to be spontaneous. The framework of suggested activities let everyone have as little or as much freedom as they wanted. G & M


Paul & Emily: Thank you for your note and for another great weekend. M & I were talking on the drive back to the airport how much we both enjoyed our "post event conversations" and that they are as much a part of the fun as is the rest. This weekend was wonderful -- made especially so by your thoughtful preparation not to mention financial risk. Both of us were grinning! L & M


Hi Emily and Paul! I just wanted to add my thanks to L's for yours and Paul's efforts to make last weekend so enjoyable. Aside from having fun and being with such nice people I always seem to learn something... I do enjoy our conversations. Take care. Keep in touch. M


Paul & Emily: We also had a wonderful time!! Thank you for hosting the weekend. We truly hope to make it to Maine for one of the parties. L & E


HI Emily and Paul. Had a great weekend, and safe trip back. Thanks for all of the preparations you put into the weekend. It was very relaxing. S was the recipient of another massage last night. I actually put him to sleep. (However, he awoke quickly due to another type of massage.) Thanks again. Hugs/kisses... mp


S here, we really enjoyed the weekend....


Description of September 1998 New England Weekend

Who Attended Our September 1998 Massage Weekend

Thirteen (13) couples attended our Fall '98 weekend in New England. Three of the couples flew in from distant regions. One couple traveled from Europe whereas others came from local New England areas. Our ages ranged from late 30's to mid-50's. Most of us had grown children. Nearly all had professional careers particularly in education, law and health care. Some couples had been active in the swinging lifestyle for years. For others this was their first or near first experience with couples erotic play.

The formal activities began in early evening. A treasure hunt game started the evening. People paired to search The Farm for various things. Pairs returned and reported their findings and told something that they had learned about each other.

We then did "Bach & Back." This was neck/back rubs done to classical music of Bach. The men massaged the backs of three women and then the women massaged the backs of three men. Our next game lasted most of evening. People were given a series of playful and erotic instructions. After each instruction there were required to choose a new partner. Here are some examples: Dance with your partner for the next song; Without talking, look into your partner's eyes and imagine sharing a hot tub together; eat a piece of fruit off your partner's body; share an erotic dance with your partner. Everyone had a playful or erotic experience with others. All shared a "moment" with all others of the opposite sex during this game.

The evening ended with couples enjoying the hot tub or the three play rooms. Activities in the play rooms included all sorts and levels of erotic play. Some couples simple enjoyed conversation. Others chose to retire to their bedrooms with their partners & spouses.

We provided @ 30 min. of massage instruction after breakfast. Couples then paired into groups of 4 or 6. Taking turns, all received a 45 min. massage from their small group. The massage was sensual but not erotic. It took much longer than expected and lasted until 2pm. Sandwiches were available for lunch.


At 6:30 we went to dinner at a local country club. Dressing up was fun and the food was excellent. We all returned and many changed into sexy nightwear. Music played for dancing. Some enjoyed the hot tub. Others enjoyed conversation. We were aware of two spontaneous erotic events (there may have been more). One was a pairing where couples made love in the same room yet on separate beds. A second late evening gathering occurred where 6-7 couples enjoyed a "group" event, of side-by-side erotic play.

At noon we had a good-by meeting. We encouraged everyone to tell others positive experiences they had had with each other during the last two days. We said good-byes. Two of the couples who attended the Spring weekend, prepared a large lasagna dinner. Another couple who flew in, selected some fine wines for our enjoyment. It was delicious. Many lingered into the early afternoon. By 4pm we had all departed.

Our Reflections

We started the massage weekends as an alternative to swing clubs. Our most enjoyable experiences have been ones in which we have also formed friendships. The erotic component is only one of many aspects of the relationship. We also wanted a time where soft swing and general sensuality (i.e., massage) were welcomed. Certainly some elements in achieving this are time and internationality. The weekends have been successful beyond our expectations. The Fall '98 weekend was our 4th sponsored weekend. They have all been erotic. What has been so surprising to us has been their "soul-full" quality. We're searching for other words.., but none come. We conceived the weekends as times to form erotic-friendships. We have gained real good friendships.., that at times are erotic. Paul and Emily

Couples Letters

Hi Paul and Emily -- just wanted to thank you for a wonderful weekend. C and I had such fun getting to know you and all of the other guests. We are certainly looking forward to being invited to the next event. I apologize for misbehaving (wearing very sexy cloths) at the restaurant - the temptation is always too great -sorry! Again, thank you for a great weekend and despite stress the past few days, the smile (is still) on our faces! We will never forget your kind consideration and wonderful hospitality - again, thanks!!!! S & C

We had such a wonderful weekend. Many thanks to you. I really enjoyed the structure and all the thought you put into this weekend. Too bad you couldn't put all this organizational skills on your resume. I do agree that the size of the group is at maximum. Both you & Em were so gracious -- didn't realize you were doing anything. Looking forward to the email list. Again, it was a wonderful time. We enjoyed our cottage very much. All the people were interesting and nice. Again, it always worked best when you were involved. You are a natural leader. It was always such fun to arrive in the morning where already you had contagiously with your humor and camaraderie got all in a fun mood while making the omelets, the coffee, fruit, and most importantly your good cheer. I'm sure most have felt as we have. It was a great time.. . d and d

Paul & Emily, We would like to thank you both for another terrific weekend. Everything was wonderful. Although I was concerned at first that the new people would not easily integrate, I was pleased to find my worries were groundless. The new faces and personalities made it all the more interesting. Both of us are sorry that we had to leave early on Sunday... next time we'll arrange our schedule with more free time at the end. I (M) have printed out the game instructions you mailed and will try to give feedback. What a lot of thought you have put into this! I am sure you enjoy every moment tho!! Have you and Emily been practicing the steps??? Take care. I'll be in touch soon. Regards,L & M

The thanks goes to you for having us. We had a wonderful weekend. It was everything we had hoped it would be and more. Through you, we have made wonderful new friends, including yourselves. You did a great job making us feel very comfortable and welcome. We have never had an experience like it before. The ice breaker games were great. They really accomplished what mere conversation never could. The sleeping arrangements for us were fun. It was like college, getting up and talking over coffee. We also really enjoyed the massage... R and I both would have liked learning how to give an erotic massage...Until next time, we will just have to experiment on each other.*S* Something we have seen as part of a party a "fantasy board" where couples put down their fantasies and then others have a chance to fulfill them. Just a different idea for an activity that may be included. All the way home we talked about how much fun we had and how stimulated we still were. The ride was not boring in the least... In fact it was quite erotic. We were so aroused by the time we got home, we went straight to the bedroom and made mad passionate love... we are still smiling!!!! It has now been a week since we all met. V and I are both still talking about the whole experience. We would love to attend the next one you have in the New England area. Please send our email address to all... would love to stay in touch with everyone. Again, Our deepest thanks for a most wonderful weekend. We are looking forward to the next!!!! Your Friends, R and V

Hi! Just a quick note of thanks for the great weekend. The 'glow' is still with us. You folks really out did yourselves once again. We didn't think that the March weekend could be topped but you somehow managed to blow the lid right off it. S and C expressed how great a time they had too! M's and my only regret was that we didn't get more time with you and Em. Given the size of the group, however, I was impressed with how much you were able to play. We also appreciate your efforts in making the 'new' people comfortable and part of the group. Through your guidance and leadership the 'new' people quickly became fully integrated members of the entire group. Once again the 'magical chemistry' was very evident and the camaraderie quickly included everyone 'new' and 'old.' Thanks for a great weekend of memories. Just to reiterate what S wrote - the weekend was a magical time. I came out a little more this time. I'm so shy!! Actually, I'm very conservative. M & S

Hi Paul, Hi Emily, Thank you for putting together such a fun weekend - you both worked hard before and during it, and we want to thank you. We really enjoyed meeting all the couples, mixing and playing with them in the games and activities. We found them all very congenial, courteous, and fun at the various levels of play and intimacy. What a neat way this is to get us to "love our neighbors." (Paul, you don't fool us; you're a closet minister on a mission from God!) Love from us both, J and A

Hi Paul and Emily, We delayed writing for this week to have more time to reflect upon and relish this past weekend. First, we want to reiterate the group's statements about the magnificent job the two of you did. It amazes us that you can host so many individuals with no apparent effort - we know there is tremendous invisible planning and effort and thank you for it. We took great pleasure from connecting with those we had met before and meeting new people. It is remarkable that we have developed deep relationships and understandings with many of those whom we met briefly at the Farm. Through our experiences at the Farm, each of us has grown personally in unexpected ways. J has become more flirtatious while S has become calmer in the presence of others. Perhaps more important, we both expect friendships to share kindness and understandings at a deeper level. Your approach to group interaction has so much to offer, we wish that it could be extensively shared. After the last flurry of summer activities, we shall begin preparing for winter in earnest. The May retreat will bring a welcome farewell to the cold and isolation of a Maine winter. Please put us on the attendance list. Hope to hear from you soon, all of our very best,S and J


Dear Paul and Emily, This is to say thank you for everything you have done to make the Maine week-end possible. The organization was fantastic and the place spectacular. We had a really good time and as a result made lots of new friends. E-mails are passing over the Atlantic frequently. We are still in the mood of “Remember what we did this time last week?”. Our homecoming was uneventful, we had an easy drive back to Boston and the airport. Thanks so much for having organized the week-end in Maine and for being so nice to all of us. We will certainly try to come back, May is probably difficult for us with many activities in the summer house at that time of the year but autumn is fine. Love, M and K

Hi Paul and Emily, Another fantastic event!! Thanks for all you do to make this happen. We look forward to many more. The atmosphere for adventure and safety you provide makes for parties that are fun and exciting. We enjoy the opportunity to explore our interests and test our limits at the same time. We enjoy making the kind of new friends that are attracted to the Farm. We now have a circle of friends with whom to enjoy many intimate times throughout the year. Many thanks, Love, P and J

Dear Paul & Em, Sorry that we haven't responded sooner but time flies when you are having fun. We did enjoy the weekend at the farm and hope to be able to do it again. WE don't know how you do it, but you do seem to pick out great people. Again, Thank you for another great weekend. You are GREAT hosts. Looking Forward to seeing you again "C" ya D & L

Hello Paul: Hello Emily: We enjoyed the weekend. It was fun. We felt that it would have been more fun if we have arrived a bit earlier.. We got all the names mixed up. We are big on watching and the set up did not give enough opportunity for that. We are looking forward for the next weekend at Maine. Thanks a lot. S & B

The weekend has ended up being a glorious experience for us, because it has sent our spiritual connection and our emotional understanding of the depth of our connection to transcendental levels. Our main adjustment was (at times) to learn to detach ourselves, seek each other out and touch, or cuddle, or go to our bedroom. The social times were truly wonderful. We learned an awful lot. Indeed, from point of view, one of the most outstanding qualities of the gathering, the quality and ability and character of the people there, contributed to the complexity of decision-making. I was genuinely interested in pursuing social relationships, and actually somewhat at times diverted from erotic relationships, because of the outstanding company! Now, from your point of view, that should be the highest compliment, indeed! From my point of view, it added to the choices, the timing, the pace of things we were doing. Some increment of stress, but not anyone's "fault". Obviously, we are attracted by and even tempted by, the touching of others with us, and agree with your comment about "also the struggle to say 'no-thank you.'" Today, both S and I would heartily agree. We also realized that, with non-traditional styles, we probably had to go through our first weekend to get through our first weekend. Most importantly, as the days have gone by, we have exulted in the intense closeness your weekend brought to us, the love and tenderness which has carried forward to this very moment and seems enduring-- our relationship was already close, and extraordinarily mutually-supportive... but the weekend, and our synthesizing of it, seems to have rocketed us to some wonderfully greater plane of existence for our love... we seem even more, and ever more, fused as a couple. G & S

NEW YEAR'S FLORIDA MASSAGE WEEKEND, DEC'98

Our group was small, consisting of only four couples. Two couples were from Florida, one from New Jersey and us from North Carolina. All of us have enjoyed the clothes-optional lifestyle. Our experience with massage, erotic or otherwise, varied. Some have enjoyed regular professional massage whereas others have enjoyed massage only at home as part of their sensual-sexual play. One member, who we shall call L, attended a weekend erotic massage workshop some years ago. The same group that Emily and I attended ten years ago sponsored this workshop. L was very helpful with massage instruction and direction. Some couples were active in the swinging lifestyle whereas other couples were not.

Our weekend began with a wine & cheese get-together, early evening of New Year's eve. After a couple hours of conversation we moved to the New Year's eve party. The party was attended by @ 300 people. There was dancing and party favors in a very exciting atmosphere. Some couples came dressed in formal attire whereas other came completely nude (with perhaps wearing only a bow tie). Many couples came in erotic lingerie or other exotic costumes. The party centered around swimming pools and hot tubs. By 2 am nearly all couples were in the hot tubs.

Our group then divided into pairs where we gave and received massage for the next 3 hours. During these sessions, we attempted to make the massage "more sensual" or "more erotic" based on individual comfort. After a short break, we had a second massage session. The afternoon ended with hot tubs. Some of the group went out to dinner and enjoyed very good food and conversation. We returned to the resort for more late night massage, erotic and sensual play. Our time "officially" ended however some couples stayed the following day for sunbathing, hot tubing and more erotic play.

SOME COMMENTS FROM COUPLES:

"We had a wonderful time. The weekend far exceeded our expectations and was both enjoyable and relationship enhancing. We came away from the event with a deeper understanding of our relationship and many memories. Some of the memories are: Paul's being unable to get out of the hot tub "just now!!", D's unexpected multiples, Emily's naturalness, L's volume. These memories make us smile. What a great time. Thanks for the initiative and energy and skill." L & D

"We did have a good time. (despite becoming ill from all the smoking) To bad there aren't places for fun that are really non-smoking. To Em... thanks for sharing about your past and family history. We do want to keep in touch. Maybe we could take a quickie (no pun intended) cruise or something sometime. That is, if we could ever coordinate schedules." K & J

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