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VISIT TO HEDONISM II IN JAMAICA
Hedonism II exceeded our expectations. We have heard so much about this resort that we were fairly sure we knew what to expect. Yet, we were surprised, and the surprise was not from the sex. So let's dispense quickly with a repeat of the well documented Hedo II sex scene.

Sex is performed by couples in the open during much of the day. The "performances" are most commonly done on rubber floats about 20 yards off the beach, but could be anywhere on the nude side of the resort. In the late evening the nude hot tub is the location for the action. Most nights there are numerous couples enjoying oral sex and all types of other sex. Yet, we must add a word of caution about "swinging." As we have experienced in most erotic resorts and clubs, a couple enjoying sex in the open for others to watch does not mean they have sex with other couples. Most couples still "only" have sex with each other and if they do "play" with other couples many (maybe even most?) still only enjoy "soft swing". To illustrate, on our last day we were invited to join a group that visits Hedo each year. They hit the hot tub and immediately begin giving and receiving oral sex with each other, most at the same time. We later learned that this was the 30th Hedo II trip for the lead couples and the 15th visit for the assistant lead couple. With further discussions we learned that the lead couple has never has penis-vagina sex with another couple whereas the assistant couple only has had intercourse with another couple three times. This being said there were still many couples at Hedo II that do enjoy the "full montie".

The sex and nudity at Hedo II was not a surprise, this was what we expected. We were surprised and impressed with the beautiful resort grounds, the service, the food and the attitude of the staff. The grounds were spacious with many, many hidden places and areas for quiet space. The resort is built on a slight terrace above the beautiful Caribbean Sea. The resort has built lovely small pools and waterfalls at the different terrace levels, each with their own quite space. We found this a lovely surprise.

The food was delicious and the service was great. This again exceeded our expectation. We know others have rated the food as only acceptable. This was not our experience.

Finally, a vacation spot should be judged by how staff respond to unexpected problems. Our hotel room bathroom's plumbing was not functioning and they immediately upgraded us to another room. Emily stepped on a sea urchin the second day and was nearly unable to walk. The resort's nurse spent a hour extracting each of the barnacles applying disinfectant and bandages. She was walking and doing fine only 90 minutes after the treatment. There was no charge for this care.

Hedonism II met our expectations as a wonderful nude and erotic resort. It exceeded our expectations as a beautiful location with wonderful food and service.

Here are 5 pictures of the beautiful grounds of Hedonism II
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SEX IN THE DESERT submitted by M & S
Hello Everyone, We just returned from hiking in Death Valley. If you like exploring on your own, great scenery and solitude ­ then you certainly should consider heading to DV for a vacation.
It’s an easy drive from Vegas, LA, San Francisco or San Diego. Just be sure to visit in fall, winter or early spring. We certainly plan to return. Here's a short Q&A of special interest to this group.

Q. Could you and did you hike clothing optional?
A. OMG yes -- this is the perfect place to hike nude except you need your boots of course. You can hike nude for hours without seeing another person. It's a little chilly in the canyons out of the sun, but otherwise it feels so good.
Q. Can you enjoy outdoor sex in Death Valley?
A. Absolutely -- DV is the perfect place for raw, primeval, glorious outdoor sex. Just be sure to bring a blanket if you decide to have fun on the sand dunes. All of your clothes piled together can help soften the hard rock. You can scream and shout your orgasms and no one will hear you.
Q. Is it true the stars shine so brightly in Death Valley that you can have sex outdoors at night?
A. Coupling under the stars can be a life-changing event. Just be sure the guy shares bottom time so he see the stars too.
Q. Isn't it awkward having sex if you are both wearing hiking boots?
A. It's best to take off your hiking boots, but the guy should always wear socks in case he must squash a scorpion.
submitted by M & S

REFLECTIONS ON OUR JANUARY 2008 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

VISIT TO PLEASURE GROVE in GEORGIA
"Emily and I visited a nude/swing resort in Georgia called Pleasure Grove over Thanksgiving. http://www.pleasuregroveresort.com/ We found the people very friendly and enjoyed our stay. The resort is more of a rustic campground-trailer Park setting. It is nestled in a valley just south of the major mountains of Georgia and within 10 miles of the resort town of Helen. This is a nudist-swinging location. To our knowledge, the only one of it's kind in the states. There are Friday and Saturday night dances that are very erotic and overtly sexual. At 11pm, a separate "party house" is opened where there is on-site sexual play. The dances are the most openly erotic we have experienced. They included a number of couples enjoying oral sex and a few stopping just short of actual intercourse. The resort has a fairly large swimming pool that was not heated during our visit and a large very comfortable hot tub (maybe large enough for 5-8 couples). During our stay we met two professional couples. The real plus of this resort is its close location to the beautiful hiking trails of the Smoky Mountains. We enjoyed breath taking hikes to a beautiful waterfall at the Unicoi State Park. This park was a short 20 min. drive from Pleasure Grove. There are many more upscale accommodation within 15 minutes of The Pleasure Grove, if that would be one's choice. We stayed in a small but very comfortable modular home within the resort for $360 for two nights including two meals. The resort is adult only and does not allow single men. We enjoyed our stay and will probably return." Attached is a link to a photo from our hikes in the state park. http://couples-for-massage.com/temp/025.JPG

REFLECTIONS ON OUR JANUARY 2008 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT
"We loved the dancing, the house, the hosts and communication! Next time we will arrive on-time. Love these weekends, we'll be back!"

"We liked the massage, relaxed setting and the playroom. Too much food! A bigger hot tub would be a plus."

"We enjoyed the weekend and believe we have forged some enduring friendships in the warmth of erotic massage. Everyone was extremely helpful in filling the gaps that developed when a couple was unable to attend. We both appreciate longer massage sessions, rather than just a 12 minute and then flip. While it is strenuous for the members of the team, investing the energy in a longer, more fulfilling session is well worth the extra effort. We feel this is true for us with all folks, regardless of their level of experience with erotic message."

"We enjoyed the playroom, music and dancing, and great dinner conversation with guests. Need to add more 60's & 70's music."

"We had a great time. This is the best group we have seen. The mix of couples was very good. The ladies looked great and B loved the attention she got. The Group Room both nights was hot and B and I enjoyed the evenings of both soft and hard play. The massage session was again very sensual and erotic. B enjoyed the attention afterwards and the threesome I participated in will be etched in my memory. The conversations were intriguing and since the weekend B and I have not been able to keep our hands off one another. Thanks for another great weekend. B suggested that dinner be moved up Saturday to allow more playtime. I agree."

"Thanks to the host and hostess for such a great event. I really enjoyed the massage weekend! I can't say enough nice things about all the wonderful people I met. As a single I always felt welcomed and never felt awkward or pressured. I loved the place, the meals, the conversation, the dancing and of course the hot tub. I was hoping we'd spend a little more time learning the actual massage techniques, but I guess "hands on" training works best! I hope to visit again in the near future."

reply from Paul
"A very reasonable request! Emily and I would love to have you back on a weekend where we could learn and practice techniques. We gave only a brief instruction on this weekend because most had attended the massage weekend in the past. We have two excellent instructional DVD on erotic massage. We could also demonstrate some other techniques. Maybe there are others who would enjoy an event where the focus would be on more instruction. Thanks for the comment , Paul"

The number of couples that attended was (7)
The attendees home states were North Carolina (3), Virginia (3), and Arizona (1)
The ages of guests ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, six of the couples were in their 50's.
The couple’s experience in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to five pervious events (2), One to five years in the lifestyle (3), Over five years lifestyle experience (2), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa, Lifestyle Conventions or Lifestyle cruises (4).


REFLECTIONS ON OUR NOVEMBER 2007 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

M & S wrote us before the event and offered a few suggestions to improve our events. Here was their suggestions:
"Based upon our one and only massage event -- and in total humility to those who have gone before us and have much, much more experience -- We would like to offer some environmental/party suggestions for the upcoming event. On Friday there should be some background music to help set the mood. Just what type of music I'm not sure. We don't like hip-hop, but others may love it. Something to dance to would be nice. I'm being selfish when I suggest that because my bride gets more turned on when we go dancing. She also uses dancing as a way of evaluating guys -- how good do they dance -- how good are they at conversation while dancing --how graceful etc. etc. Knowing this you may wonder how in the world she ever decided to marry me? It's something I continue to wonder about. Of course, it helps that you already have a perfect room for dancing. In the playroom, please consider having a television set on with sound off or real low showing a really good erotic films. This isn't so much to sit down and watch, as to simply set the visual mood for the room. We have some classic erotic films we can bring if you want -- . Somehow I feel you have plenty of good stuff.
We followed their suggestions which were similar to J & B at our Maine event. In the end we all agreed that the dancing was great fun and added to the event. It allows for another Friday evening fun, "get to know you" activity when the hot tub was full. We also agreed that the erotic films in the play room really did not add anything positive to the mood.

The number of couples that attended was (7)
The attendees home states were North Carolina (5), Virginia (1), and Florida (1)
The ages of guests ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, five of the couples were in their 50's.
The couple’s experience in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to three pervious events (2), One to five years in the lifestyle (4), Over five years lifestyle experience (2), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa, Lifestyle Conventions or Lifestyle cruises (6).

EVENT DESCRIPTION:
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The hot tub was full for much of the evening and served as a perfect place for conversation and touching. Some couples continued the play in the group room. The spas were also a center for conversation and activity on Saturday.
After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per one group and two couples per two groups. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). During Saturday afternoon many couples enjoyed walks, the swim spa and the hot tub.
A Saturday night meal was prepared. All ladies dressed in very attractive and erotic attire. Many thanks to D & A for the main course of Shrimp Creole. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom, moved to private bedrooms or simply enjoyed the spa. Most couples enjoy "soft swing" erotic play throughout the weekend.
Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Plans were made to meet again. In discussions about film, a number of couples strongly recommended the Ang Lee film The Wedding Banquet. See below for a review of this film.

COMMENTS FROM COUPLES:
Dear Paul and Emily, We had a great time this weekend. Thank you both for sponsoring it. We enjoyed dancing on Friday night. S felt a little strange in that no other women got dressed up-- but that didn't stop us. The food was excellent. We don't feel there is any need for any games unless the weather turns bad. The hot tub was great Friday even with the wind blowing. We like your idea of limiting the number of couples to no more than nine even if some of them cancel at the last minute. Can't think of anything right at this moment. thanks again for a wonderful time. M and S

Hi Emily and Paul - Thanks for a fun weekend. Your house on the river is so beautiful and relaxing, and it was great to meet everyone. D & J

Paul and Emily, Thank you for the weekend! D and I had a wonderful time -- we really did. I enjoyed your place and all the people, as you could probably tell. It was a great experience for us and we achieved what we hoped for -- all positive things. ...I felt so close right from the start (no surprises there!). Maybe you got complaints of noise from others??!!? ha! Thanks again, J & D



REFLECTIONS ON OUR SEPTEMBER 2007 MAINE EVENT

REFLECTIONS ON OUR SEPTEMBER 2007 MAINE EVENT
The number of couples that attended was (7)
The attendees home states were North Carolina (1), Maine (2), Vermont (1), and Massachusetts (3)
The ages of guests ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their 50's.
The couple’s experience in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to three pervious events (0), One to five years in the lifestyle (2), Over five years lifestyle experience (5), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa or Lifestyle Conventions (5).

EVENT DESCRIPTION:
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. The spas were also a center for conversation and activity throughout the weekend. Paul & Emily showed a 10 minute DVD clip of an erotic massage from Emmanuel-2 and also a 5 minute clip from The Alexander Institute's SoulMates V.1. Paul and Emily also distributed samples from the ARKADIA company www.myarkadia.com , these included Water-Based Lubricant, Silicone-Based Lubricant, Warming Lubricant, Medium Strength Heightener, Maximum Strength Heightener, Vaginal Moisturizer and Vaginal Exercise Balls .
After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per one group and two couples per two groups. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). During Saturday afternoon many couples enjoyed walks and the hot tub.
A Saturday night meal was prepared. Many thanks to J&J and D&D for a delicious evening meal. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom, moved to private bedrooms or simply enjoyed the spa.
Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Plans were made to meet again.

IN THE NEWS
M & S, who attended the June North Carolina massage event, traveled to Alaska on a nude cruise. They along with Paul wrote a travel review/DVD reviewed titled, "Nude Alaskan Cruise and the Movie “Swinging: From Fantasy to Reality” (2004) –Educational." The review was printed in Paul's blog http://sexinfilm.blogspot.com/ but then was picked up and reprinted in the well known erotic journal magazine Clean Sheets http://www.cleansheets.com/toc.shtml in their August 22nd edition. Here is a link to our review http://www.cleansheets.com/coverstories/movie_08.22.07.shtml
Paul and Emily have been asked by Castaways Travels http://www.travelnude.com/ to present a massage instruction session during the Danube (Nude) Adult Cruise, July 20-27, 2008 http://www.danubeadultcruise.com/

REFLECTIONS ON OUR JUNE 2007 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

DID YOU THINK WE DIED AND WENT TO MASSAGE HEAVEN?

No we didn't die despite our web site being down for the last 60 days! In fact we have created a whole new web site location and whole new email!! Our new site looks very similar to our old site but has a new web address and we have a new email address for our couples massage correspondence. Our new web address is http://couples-for-massage.com Our new massage couples email address is mail@couples-for-massage.com

We have also made changes to improve our security and confidentiality. We no longer will post the exact dates of our weekend massage events on the web. We will post an event schedule listing only the months. The exact dates of our events will be available only to couples that are "members" of our massage couples mailing list. If you have attending any of our events you are automatically added to our member list. For other couples, it is a simple process to become members. Simple send us a brief bio and a statement that you agree to our confidentiality policy. The complete details of membership can be found at http://couples-for-massage.com/datesa.html

We understand that this newsletter is mailed to hundreds of couples that have never attended our events but nonetheless, are very interested in couples sensual and erotic massage. We want you to send us a bio and a statement agreeing to confidentiality. Over the next 6 months we will transition away from our current large mailing list to a "members only" mailing list. You will continue to receive the newsletter and a schedule of weekend events for approximately the next 6 months. Thereafter, only our members will receive the event schedule.

OUR NEXT EVENT IN MAINE SEPTEMBER 14-16, 2007
We invite you to join us for a massage-hot tub-dinner party the weekend Friday September 14th to Sunday September 16th, 2007. The gathering will be held in southern Maine about 3 hours drive north from Boston's Logan Airport. The event will be held at our Farm. The Farm is a remodeled 1850 farm, located on 5 acres, nestled in a beautiful mountain valley surrounded by rolling hills. Located on a sparkling clear lake, perfect for all season recreation. Only 40 miles from the Appalachian Trail and the large peaks of the White Mountains, these foot hills offer both beauty and day hiking. The Farm contains an outdoor hot tub and indoor sauna. The Farm has six private bedrooms and large rooms for group play. With large groups we rent additional close by housing. As with all our events, the highlights will be sensual massage, erotic dress up dinner and evening lifestyle playtime. All couples and single women interested in attending our next massage weekend please send updated bios emails to mail@couples-for-massage.com

Our web page, which describes our erotic massage events, is located at http://couples-for-massage.com
REFLECTIONS ON OUR JUNE 2007 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT
The NUMBER OF COUPLES that attended was (7)
The ATTENDERS HOME STATES WERE North Carolina (4), Florida (2), and Massachusetts (1)
The AGES OF THE GUESTS ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's.
The COUPLES' EXPERIENCE in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to three pervious events (1), One to five years in the lifestyle (3), Over five years lifestyle experience (3), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa or Lifestyle Conventions (5).

EVENT DESCRIPTION:
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation and activity throughout the weekend. Paul & Emily showed a 10 minute DVD clip of an erotic massage from Emmanuel-2.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per one group and two couples per two groups. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital).
During Saturday afternoon many couples enjoyed the heated swim spa. The swim spa has a rapid current that allows for much wonderful nude adult play. Some couples enjoyed the canoes and kayaks.
A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom, moved to private bedrooms or enjoyed the spa.
Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

Finally,
Emily and Paul would like to report that they have a wonderful time on the 10 day nude cruise in the Caribbean in February. A week with 1250 other nude people traveling to the islands of Bonaire, Curacao, Dominica, St. Thomas and Bahamas. The cruise was booked through Bare Necessities http://www.cruisenude.com/ . We had a wonderful time and met some wonderful couples. In fact, one couple that we met on the cruise joined us for this massage weekend. As a side note, we also stayed at a lifestyle hotel in Hollywood, Florida called Roof Top Resort http://www.rooftopresort.com/attract.htm .

The cruise made us think about the next cruise we are planning in the summer of 2008. It is a river cruise (nude with lifestyle couples) down the Danube River in Germany. Here is a web site with the advertisement http://www.danubeadultcruise.com/ . We welcome couples to write us if they are interested in this great vacation.

COMMENTS FROM GUESTS
Hi Emily and Paul We had a grand time. What great new friends we've made, and we do hope to see any and all of you again soon! You are the sexiest host and hostess--thanks sooooo much for making this happen. Hmmm, changes to suggest..... I had a hard time seeing and hearing the DVD on Fri. night--could we have all headed into the "playroom" and watched it on the larger TV in there? It was VERY erotic! This slightly smaller group was fun, as well. We all got more of an opportunity to know each other. Please share our email address with the group. We just wanted to say how much we enjoyed talking with everyone, getting to know you and enjoying massage and other fun with you. We hope we get to see you in North Carolina again, or perhaps in Maine. We wish everyone a wonderful summer and if you are ever in eastern NC and want a place to stay, let us know. We would love to see everyone again at some point in the future.
P and P

Hello Everyone: C & W here. Just wanted to say thank you to all of you for making our first time experience at a couples weekend so relaxing and pleasurable. P & E do an amazing job of coordinating so many people's wants, needs and desires. We were made to feel so welcome. Both of us felt that there was a tremendous amount of respect and safety afforded us and that speaks highly of the quality of people that attended. You gave us the freedom to do and be however we chose without any kind of pressure in anyway. To say the venue is fabulous, is an understatement. We are a little partial to this area for many reasons, so it made being able to spend quiet time here without all the hustle and bustle of kids, cell phones and jobs that much more enjoyable. From a white wine snob, my only food or drink request is that more choices in white wines be available. Not everyone drinks red and I also heard someone else make a comment regarding same. The food was great, well-prepared and well-organized. It never appeared that anyone was having to shoulder too much of a burden. I understand now why you need more massage tables. We were with another couple of first-timers and I think all of us were very pleased with the experience. It was hard for us to imagine having another couple to massage or even having that many more hands involved. We couldn't figure out how we would have gotten another couple taken care of with allotted time. Everyone asked for what they wanted and everyone received that, at least from my perspective. It ended up quite erotically. We are looking forward to attending again some time in the future. Cheers to everyone! C & W

Dear Emily and Paul, We want to again thank you for a wonderful and exciting weekend. We greatly appreciate your efforts in hosting the event. We know how much work is involved. Your institute is helping many, many couples. Please KEEP doing this. We particularly liked the setting -- it's perfect. We enjoyed meeting new people and learning about them. The small-group setting -- ideally no more than 12 couples is perfect. Anything larger would become unwieldy. FYI -- before coming we read three books about the Lifestyle. We were amazed at how one book -- "Doing One for the Team" so accurately explained and predicted what we could expect by attending an event such as yours. Because of our research we were able to better enjoy, adapt and understand the group dynamics that occurred at your house. Thanks again for a great time. M & S

Hello everyone -- just wanted to say how much fun we had during the North Carolina event. It was quite a positive experience -- one that we certainly want to repeat. The afternoon in the swim/spa was especially fun --- and instructive. Yes indeed. We're getting ready for a clothing-optional cruise to Alaska next month. We'll give you an update after we return. M & S

What? No toy show? It matters little. We always learn something new. This time it was aquaphilia, something that had never even dawned on us. We tried it in the flowing pool. Will the wonders never cease? We got to know about half of the assembled company quite well. Perhaps with a little (dirty?) dancing we would have had a chance to know everyone better. The DVD was an interesting warm up. Maybe we should have had a massage demo right then and there. Folks could practice later on Friday evening. Since this was our third gathering, we know the ropes, but we remember our tentative, awkward sensitivity at our first event. As such, we can identify with newcomers. We know that there is no pressure, but newbies to the weekend should be reassured that nothing has to happen - if they don't want it to. These weekends enhance out relationship. We like the fluidity of erotic group interaction. We always take something new away with us. We can do for each other the beautiful things that others have done for us. J and B

Amazingly, we felt as if we were at a loving reunion with dear friends. Everything about the weekend was pleasurable and comfortable: It was interesting to see how many interests we shared. Consequently, conversation easily ran the gamut of travel, sports, dining, politics, mutual pleasure, etc., -----------It was over too soon, and we eagerly look forward to getting together ASAP.! S & E

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REFLECTIONS ON OUR JANUARY 2007 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

The NUMBER OF COUPLES that attended was (10)
The ATTENDERS HOME STATES WERE North Carolina (6), New York (1), Virginia (2) and South Carolina (1)
The AGES OF THE GUESTS ranged from the 40's to 70's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's.
The COUPLES’ EXPERIENCE in the lifestyle: First experience (1), One to three pervious events (0), One to five years in the lifestyle (3), Over five years lifestyle experience (6), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa, Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa or Lifestyle Conventions (5).

EVENT DESCRIPTION:
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation and activity throughout the weekend. D showed a 10 minute DVD clip from "an erotic musical."

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital).

During Saturday afternoon many couples enjoyed the heated swim spa. Despite temperatures in the 60's, the water temperature was in the high 80's. The swim spa has a rapid current that allows for much wonderful nude adult play.

A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom, moved to private bedrooms or enjoyed the spa. THANK YOU K & S FOR MANAGING THE DINNER. THANK YOU S & D FOR MANAGING SATURDAY BREAKFAST. THANK YOU D & G TO KEEPING THE HOT TUB FULL AND DECK CLEAN!

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again. Almost all the couples at the weekend massage event enjoyed a very erotic weekend. That is, at least from the laughter and erotic moans, we assume all had an enjoyable erotic time. Most of the erotic play was in the large master bedroom-playroom. However, occasionally individual couples would retreat to the private loft or their bedrooms. A few couples kept their play to soft swing with intercourse only with their partners. However, most enjoyed full sex with other partners. Some of the most enjoyable times were after extended erotic play and near exhaustion, couples would laugh and talk while still in a "pile."
The three massage groups, each containing three couples, were formed Saturday morning. The massage sessions lasted for nearly 3 hours. This was a very relaxing and often erotic time.

Finally, Emily and Paul are leaving for a 10 day nude cruise in the Caribbean this Friday. Yes, a week with 1250 other nude people traveling to the islands of Bonaire, Curacao, Dominica, St. Thomas and Bahamas. The cruise has been booked through Bare Necessities http://www.cruisenude.com/ . There has been much chatter on a sponsored cruise link. Many couples are seeking partners for a "special massage." We will see what develops. In any case we very much are looking forward to the vacation. As a side note, we will be staying at a swinging lifestyle hotel in Hollywood, Florida called Roof Top Resort http://www.rooftopresort.com/attract.htm . We will report on our adventures through our next massage event "newsletter."

This upcoming cruise made us think about the next cruise we are planning in the summer of 2008. It is a river cruise (nude with lifestyle couples) down the Danube River in Germany. Here is a web site with the advertisement http://www.danubeadultcruise.com/ . We welcome couples to write us if they are interested in this great vacation.

COMMENTS FROM GUESTS
Emily and Paul, As always, you two provided a wonderful setting, arranged for old friends to meet, new people to become friends, and assembled a mostly interesting group of people this past weekend. Thank you! Quote for the weekend: "I'm familiar with that product!"
Movie list from the Sunday discussion:
Pieces of April
Sirens
Eating Raul
Babbet's Feast
Like Water for Chocolate
Motorcycle Diaries
Don Juan de Marco
Delta of Venus
Hope your next adventures are pleasant ones! hugs, K & S

Paul & Emily. Being new to this part of the country, we are always concerned about who we will meet and how welcome we will be. We were welcomed warmly by our host and found that we shared common interests with the group (books, wine, travel, food, good conversation). Despite the fact that many of those attending were long time friends, they were welcoming. It takes a while to get to know people and to be included in their playtime, but this was a good start. What we really liked;
-the massage session. Not only did it feel sooo good, it gave us an opportunity to really get to know two or more other couples
-the water play. To us, water, particularly warm water is a wonderful way to relax and enjoy others
-the fact that everyone participated in cooking, clean up, etc. This is another great way to get to know others
-the diversity and quality of the conversation.
We have a very strong relationship and see weekends such as these where we enjoy playtime appetizers with others as the first course of a fine meal. One then goes home and enjoys a very rich entree with one's partner. And then a day or so later, we have dessert. See you next time. D & N
p.s. and by the way, the entree and dessert were fantastic.

Hey Paul and Emily Great weekend! thanks so much for hosting these parties. They are the highlight of our year. We certainly look forward to them each time they happen and they never fail to be fun and exciting. P & P

REFLECTIONS ON OUR NOVEMBER 2006 MAINE EVENT

All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital).

A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

The weekend was very erotic. We never know exactly what to expect. Couples sometimes write asking "will this or that" happen. We reply that.., well, it has happened in the past, but (like investing money) "past performance is no guarantee on the future." Frequently couple write asking about group sex where partners exchange and where women enjoy women as much as men. All of this happening in one room. Well, most of the couples this weekend were very much into this type of group play. It started in the hot tub Friday evening, moved to the "play" room and then repeated late Saturday afternoon. The hot tub was particularly fun with the warm water acting as a lubricant for exchanging partners. Each "session" was 2+ hours of great fun. Four to six couples together making love and switching partners about every 30 minutes, or connecting with different sets of threesomes. Apart from the group sex the couples enjoyed real good massage and very enjoyable, fun conversation.

COMMENTS FROM GUESTS
Thanks for a lovely time. We had a very memorable time. It was so nice meeting you both and we do hope to see you in North Carolina, all things considered. The January week end will definitely be convenient given the Monday holiday. We hope the new group will be as much fun. We can certainly stay in touch with activities/plans for Europe as well. Best wishes for a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday! K & S

Another great Maine Farm weekend with a wonderful, quirky group of very energetic people. The weather was great; the hot tub was wonderful; the massage was the best yet and everyone had more fun than is legal. The traditional Saturday night diner was just right. (thanks to the other J and B) We are looking forward to seeing some of our new friends soon, and some of our old friends often. The Farm is just the best place to meet new friends and catch up with old friends. Thanks P & E for your friendship and always sage advise. We are already looking forward to next time. J & B

Paul,
Once again, thank you for a wonderful time. As usual, your weekend has elevated our mood and energized our spirit. Can't wait to do it again. As always, you attract a fun, attractive, intelligent and sexy group and we appreciate being part of it. Please feel free to exchange our email, We look forward to hearing from you all. Thanks, A and D

Dear Paul & Emily: P and I had SUCH a wonderful time at the Farm. As 'newbies', we felt immediately comfortable with the group as you welcomed us into your home. We are STILL talking about how sincere, wonderful, and real this group is, and we can't wait to see some and/or all of you soon. Again, thanks so much for your hospitality and warmth, and again, may I apologize for P's bad jokes and, as D would say, 'quirkiness'........[] Lots of Love, C & P xoxoxoxo

Paul & Emily On our second trip to the Farm, we had a real good time. It was helpful to have learned the routine and the ropes on our first visit. Generally, it was a good crowd with some silly fun and lots of laughter. It was apparent that the flow may differ from one weekend to another. Last time there was Friday night dancing, but this time several couples just "dove" right in. We have an aversin to night driving, so we arrived before the appointed hour. We think a 7 pm rendezvous confines Friday evening. Folks are unloading, grabbing supper, visiting with old acquaintances. Just jump into the tub and it's suddenly late - with lots more to do on the 'morrow. The music was a plus! On Saturday, we missed the toy show to which we were looking forward (as toy novices). Why not have a display case with function, source and prices labeled? Email address may be shared. Our best wishes for continued warmth during the winter. J and B

From Emily and Paul to J & B: A big thank you for managing Saturday night meal. It was wonderful!!! T hanks for all your work.

LIFESTYLE TRAVEL
We have been writing the Lifestyle travel agent Castaways Travel http://www.travelnude.com/ about a riverboat cruise in Europe. We are excited to offer the following event to couples and friends.

Castaway Travel reports: We have just signed a contract for a European Adults Only, Couples Only clothing-optional, luxury river boat cruise from Budapest to Nuremburg/Prague for one week, July 20-27, 2008, In port... clothes must be worn. This cruise is primarily for "hedonistic" couples only but no public sex. The ship's luxury cabins, all river view, (no inside accommodations) total 75 (or 150 cruisers). Accommodations range from $2,199/person Deluxe cabin to $2,999/person for Luxury suites with river view windows that open to the river. The Ship itself was voted the # 1 River Cruise vessel recently and has a fabulous flat sun deck up top for great tanning during the summer months sailing up the Danube River. Daily excursions are INCLUDED and we are planning wine tasting, visit to beer halls in Germany and other surprises. Deposit is $1,500/person to hold your space. Cruise is clothing optional and includes luxury accommodations, all meals, captain's cocktail parties, daily shore excursions and excursion transportation. Airfare, taxes and tips extra. The web site is being created right now and will have much more to show you shortly. Because of your interest, you are the absolute FIRST to be told about this so make sure your people who are interested let us know soonest. We anticipate this will sell out quickly so let us hear from you. Thanks again.....James Castaways Travel

Emily and I will be signing up for a Luxury suit and will host evening massage and other play. We expect many other couples to be interested. Please consider joining us. We are extending this invitation to all couples to join our group. If you have not attended our weekends, but are interested in this event, please write us for more details. Wouldn't this be great fun!!!

REFLECTIONS ON OUR SEPTEMBER 2006 NORTH CAROLINA EVENT

We had a wonderfully relaxing and erotic time at our September event. Only three couples including ourselves attended the event. Family illnesses, personal illness, scheduling problems and complicated travel conflicts forced the other 7 couples to cancel. The two couples that attended traveled from Canada and Rhode Island and therefore prohibited any consideration about cancelling the event. In the end, the six of us created a different experience from our usual high energy, party style, massage events. The weekend was luxuriously slow, intimate and erotic. Our massage lasted nearly all Saturday. All six welcomed highly erotic caresses and touch. Though the weekend was "soft swing", all six enjoyed organisms on the massage table through both massage and oral play. The cycle of massage for each participant started with sensual full body stokes and then progressed to genital and oral play. The three women delivered a join oral and full body massage to each of the men. The women were comfortable giving and getting pleasure from both the men and women. Sometime the massage ended with a couple having intercourse with their spouse while others massaged. Emily and I commented afterwards that the small number and compatibility of the six allowed the group to take plenty of time for each massage and enjoy longer periods of "recess" between massage. At other times during the weekend, people enjoyed toys and ads to pleasuring. Emily introduced her (current) favorite two toys, one is an clear-"glass like" object shaped in a "J." She has found again her "G" spot and shared this toy with guests. Her other (current) toy is also a clear-"glass like" object shaped in a "lazy U." This toy was shown to be an excellent connection for women-women play. Both toys were used by the women. The men thoroughly enjoyed watching the show.

OUR JUNE 2006 NORTH CAROLINA WEEKEND

The NUMBER OF COUPLES that attended was (7)
DESCRIPTION OF LOCATION-NORTH CAROLINA: The event was at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's outdoor deck, hot tub and swim spa were enjoyed by all participants. A privacy (nude friendly) fence surrounds our grounds. The Riverhouse is located on a bluff overlooking a popular boating area and access to the ocean.
The ATTENDERS HOME STATES WERE North Carolina (5), New Hampshire (1), and Virginia (1).
The AGES OF THE GUESTS ranged from the 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's.
The COUPLES’ EXPERIENCE in the lifestyle: First experience (2), One to three pervious events (0), One to five years in the lifestyle (3), Over five years lifestyle experience (2), attended lifestyle convention (1), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa (3).
EVENT DESCRIPTION:
First time couples and new couples to the lifestyle arrived early Friday evening for a question and answer session with Paul & Emily. During this time couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The meeting was also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and had signed the confidentiality statement.
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks, naps or spent the afternoon in the spa and hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Most everyone enjoyed the spas.
Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace some visited the group playroom. Some couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed "full swap" with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

SPECIAL ACTIVITIES & HAPPENING AT THIS EVENT
Paul & Emily led a sex-toy demonstration on Saturday night.
One couple were former owners of a Lingerie erotic night wear store. They brought outfits from their store and a number of the ladies modeled the outfits for the group.
VIDEOS
We have a number of erotic massage and general erotic videos. We would be happy to loan them to couples who have attended the massage weekends. Please write us if you are interested.

OUR APRIL 2006 MAINE WEEKEND

The NUMBER OF COUPLES that attended was (8)
DESCRIPTION OF LOCATION-MAINE: The Farm is a remodeled 1850 farm, located on 5 acres, nestled in a beautiful mountain valley surrounded by rolling hills 3 hours north of Boston. Located on a sparkling clear lake. The Farm is only 40 miles from the Appalachian Trail and the large pikes of the White Mountains. The Farm has an 8 person hot tub, sauna and boating.
The ATTENDERS HOME STATES WERE North Carolina (1), Massachusetts (3), New Hampshire (1), New Jersey (1), Maine (1), and Rhode Island (1).
The AGES OF THE GUESTS ranged from the 40's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's.
The COUPLES’ EXPERIENCE in the lifestyle: First experience (0), One to three pervious events (3), One to five years in the lifestyle (2), Over five years lifestyle experience (3), attended lifestyle convention (0), enjoyed lifestyle vacation in resorts such as Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa (4).
EVENT DESCRIPTION:
First time couples and new couples to the lifestyle arrived early Friday evening for a question and answer session with Paul & Emily. During this time couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The meeting was also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and had signed the confidentiality statement.
All couples enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. Friday's erotic play began soon after the evening get-acquainted meeting and lasted well into the night. The erotic play occurred in both the spas and group room. Some couples enjoyed erotic play in their private bedrooms. The spas were also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into massages groups with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks, naps or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Most everyone enjoyed the spas. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group playroom. Many couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed "full swap" with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.
SPECIAL ACTIVITIES & HAPPENING AT THIS EVENT A five minute segment of the film Xana & Dax: When Opposites Attract (2005) was shown during the Friday introduction session.
A large room with music and low lighting was set-aside for Friday night dancing.
Two films introducing erotic massage were shown throughout the weekend.
Paul & Emily led a sex-toy demonstration on Saturday night.

SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES
Another wonderful Maine Farm weekend. Relaxing and exciting at the same time. Another incredible, eclectic group of people. The weather was great, the food was delicious, the chili was the perfect Saturday dinner...and, best of all, we had our host and hostess back....and for those of you who are reading the comments and wondering about attending an event...as good as this one was...the next one will be better. So don't miss sit...We won't. J&B on the Cape. Y'all come see us..ya hear!!

Hello Paul & Emily J and B (# 2) responding to Paul & Emily’s request for comments about the recent weekend at the Farm. You may use ours in your newsletter. There is much that we enjoyed about the weekend and we would do it again. As the leader-orchestrator-administrator Paul was excellent. He made us feel comfortable right from the start and was totally responsive to the few questions we raised. It is hard to say what we liked best. It might be the company; it might be the play; it could be that there was sufficient time to engage socially with others in attendance; it could be the structure or the lack of structure; it could be the ambience of accepted intimacy. What we liked least is the separation of couples into two-somes or groups for play that projected a quality of exclusivity and lack of fluidity. Perhaps it was the bright lights in the loft on Saturday night (at least when we left). We would have preferred the promotion of group play which would have been something new for us and given us the chance to interact with more people while allowing whoever wished to demur. It seems that the play times were pretty much set to occur in the evenings. Why not encourage it in the morning or the afternoon. Why go for a walk when you can get the exercise in bed? The weekend was good for our relationship. We learn something good about ourselves with every wholesome lifestyle experience. 1. Friday - We would encourage more social interaction among couples attending. We find that dancing is a good lead in to intimacy, but there were few participants. Perhaps some games might be conducive (without being hokey or too lifestyle contrived). 2. DVDs - Why is it that erotic videos always feature folks about half the average age of the attendees? Why not erotic videos of older folks? Maybe we need to make some ourselves! Perhaps we should have seen the massage videos on Friday evening or have them running where anyone could watch and had the erotic video on Saturday, during, maybe, a cocktail hour (with beer or wine, of course). 3. Show and tell toys We don't have any toys, so it was all news to us. 4. Food In general, it was grand and abundant. Maybe there should be less next time. We hate waste! 5. Sex in film Sure, add us to your list. The conversations and camaraderie of Sunday morning were very reassuring and comforting. You have our gratitude for making the weekend a memorable and enjoyable experience. Cheers to all J & B

Good evening Paul and Emily, It was wonderful to re-connect with the two of you and all of the great couples that showed up for the weekend massage. Thanks, again, for including us on short notice. We have no doubt that S recovery was significantly speeded up! We enjoyed each and every person who attended the event and hope to see them again. Please give this e-mail address to all of the weekend's participants. It seems to both J and myself, after a five year (or so) hiatus, that the weekend is better than ever. Much more relaxed and easy-going. Sex toys are so specific to individuals and couples. Thought your "presentation" was a lot of fun and a good ice-breaker. Cannot comment on the DVD's, however, since we were not there. Anyway, best to you both, hope to see you in late fall. Sailing in North Carolina in the summer sounds fabulous, but, realistically, we will defer to another season. Talk with you soon. Be well, all our best, S and J

Paul & Emily Had a great time. Also put us on list for N.C. in June as we will be in Atlanta at that time. Also you have an open invite to come to stay awhile with us. D & J

OUR JANUARY 2006 WEEKEND

Fourteen couples attended the weekend in NC January 13-15th. The event was at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's outdoor deck, hot tub and swim spa were completed. A privacy (nude friendly) fence now surrounds our grounds. The attenders came from North Carolina (12), Virginia (1), and New York (1). The ages of the guests ranged from their 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As is also common with our events there was a range of experience in the lifestyle. For some attenders ( 3) this was one of only a few experiences. All other attenders had been in the lifestyle for over 3 years. Six couples attenders have had over 5 years experience in the lifestyle. Six couples have visited either Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa.

All but two couple arrived Friday evening. One couple left Friday evening. First time and new couples to the lifestyle received a telephone call from Paul & Emily prior to the event. During these calls, couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The calls were also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and agreed to the confidentiality statement.

All enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The evening included a spin the bottle game of introductions. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle. A five minute segment of the film Xana & Dax: When Opposites Attract (2005) was shown. Friday's play began early in the evening and lasted well into the night. Much of the erotic play started in the swim spa (a 9' x 16' waist deep swimming pool with an active current), hot tub and then progressed to the bedrooms and then ended back in the swim spa. The swim spa was also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into four groups, with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks, naps or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Most everyone enjoyed the swim spa. The spa has a jet that simulates a current. The current can be adjusted for intensity. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group play room. Many couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

One couple left the weekend early because they were uncomfortable with the sexual nature of the event. This has happened 3 times in the last 9 weekend events. Emily and Paul have tried to prevent these early leavings by providing more detailed written information about the events and phone interviews for all first time couples. It seems that couples new to the lifestyle, first time attenders and couples in a new relationship are particularly vulnerable to early departures. Paul and Emily are contemplating returning to a time when all first time couples would arrive early for an orientation session.

SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

Hi, As always, you and Emily seem to attract the most interesting and likeable people to your parties. S and I very much enjoyed everyone we had time to be with, and just wish there was more than 24 hours in a day. Thank you for another memorable, erotic weekend! Thank you for including us in the updates on Kati. I'm glad to hear a decision was made, even though it might not be the easiest path. Maybe her "journey" will help someone else in the future, and that has to make you feel better about the decision. You know S and I are cheering for all three of you, sending our thoughts for success. And, no bad side effects during treatment! We really had a good time this weekend. I'm sorry we ran out Sunday, we didn't want to disturb the atmosphere for the yoga... I'm still working on S to at least TRY it one time! Everyone there was interesting. The house on the river is so wonderful! You two run a good weekend, and I don't know of anything that I would change. The format allows for opting out of any activity, so it seems to be a good plan. I'll sign up for preparing dinner on Saturday night, and bringing it ready to heat and serve. That will cut down on the amount of food (and leftovers!) to deal with. hugs, k

Hey Paul, Great weekend as per usual. Ya'll are great hosts. Comments: 1. Friday evening was good and the brief introductions were nice. Could be a keeper with slight changes in topic each time to keep it fresh. 2. Massage, DVD yes. Other DVD for introductions, sorta lame. 3. about Yoga, Missed it, altho Karen later said she'd like to have done it but thought I wasn't interested. Next time. Best wishes to you both and to Kati. Thanks for the updates. S

Paul & Emily, Thanks for another outstanding weekend event. Nicky and I particularly enjoyed getting to know you two better. It was a great groups of folks and we are already looking forward to the next event. D

Dear Paul & Emily, Thank you for hosting another lovely weekend! We enjoyed meeting old friends and new. We missed Friday due to work schedule, but heard that the introduction "question" was an interesting way to get to know people. I don't know how I would have answered! Special memories for me include being S's waitress for Saturday morning breakfast. (and finishing 2 other people's omelets as well as my own, YUMMY S!) of course, the spectacular massage (B you are so gifted), and the conversation during it (sorry D, we just couldn't keep quiet). 9 people in the hot tub with legs all stacked together and fun conversation. how beautiful everyone was at dinner the fellowship we all felt at dinner and the wonderful meal provided by Chef K and her staff of many helpers. no need to mention the fellowship in the playroom! Yowza. Yowza. sweet D's Yoga Bringing home our Siamese Algae Eater. He made it fine and is at work in our tank right now. (You make special friends at these events that help you in many ways, like improving our Aquarium.) the enhanced closeness and communication between A and I. (I mean my own husband A, tee hee.) Please feel free to share this and our email address with the group. Sincerely, P (& A)

We did enjoy this weekend---as to the specific requests: 1. We were late to arrive so cannot comment on the intro 2, The DVD is always fun and inspiring 3. Yoga was a nice experience and a nice finish to the weekend. A

Paul & Emily Suggestions and recommendations: The actual massage time on Saturday was very good - but we felt that we did not really learn anything new about massage by the demonstration - we would have appreciated some more information from some of the others in the group (as a licensed massage therapist). And this may be because we have our own massage therapist and have learned by what she does for us. Just a little more overall structure would have been nice - yes, or perhaps a room set up during Saturday evening with a massage table left up, some kind of game that folks could join in on (we have some friends that have a swingers poker game). We brought all of our toys in hopes that after dinner Saturday there would be a group "show and tell" like was mentioned in the emails prior to the weekend, and yet no one ever initiated that. As first timers, we did not think it was our place to push that agenda, but it was something that we were looking forward to, and were a little disappointed when it did not happen. We know that other couples brought their own videos - it would have been nice to be able to watch those, or to even access a television with the Playboy channel! Playroom etiquette should be discussed at some point early in the weekend. We have always been under the impression that it is important to "ask permission" or to wait to be "invited" before joining in a group's activities - there were a couple of instances where this did not happen on Saturday afternoon, and it became a little awkward to get out of - this also made us reluctant to go back to the playroom, because maybe in this particular group (because of the overall familiarity of the core couples), entering the playroom means that its okay for anyone in there to "jump in".

Things that went very well: The get acquainted circle on Friday evening - keep that! The food was very good and well-organized, although it seemed like everyone brought too much, judging by the leftovers! The facilities were outstanding! The people we met we wonderful, fun and engaging. Whether or not we "hook up" with anyone else at one of these activities, it always adds spice to our relationship. It's also great to be able to run around in next to nothing (or nothing) for a couple of days.

Will we come back? Maybe. It was a great experience, and something new, but we don't often repeat the same experience twice, although we are looking for people to grow a friendship and share new experiences with. It might be enjoyable to return with a couple that we have developed a friendship with along the way. This is a lot of work, and a wonderful concept. Thank you for opening your place to us and for providing an environment for fun and sex! T and J

note from Paul: Every lifestyle group has different understanding about the group room "etiquette." However, it is usually informal rather than formal. The only "written" lifestyle rules are the NO rules and the CLOSE DOOR RULES. Emily and I have been to over 25 clubs and all have different group room customs. For instance we have been to swing groups in Boston and in Tampa and their "understanding" is that when you enter a group room you are saying you are open to a group experience. Again, you can always say no and as we demonstrated you can always take someone's hand (or mouth or head) and remove it. We have also been to some swing groups that have a rule of "only join when invited." However at these club, we were told that permission to join" was communicated through "the eyes" of couples. Such rules about permission to join are therefore very imprecise. That being said, I feel bad that you felt uncomfortable and again I am sorry you had a less than a positive experience. It sounds like your "space" was invaded and this made you uncomfortable. Again, I am sorry but it is very hard to define fixed rules in a group room. This is why we spend so much time talking about saying NO. In our Q & A we had 31 questions and answers, yet none stated etiquette rules for the group room, outside of the NO discussions. We will now add another Q & A about group activities. "We will basically say that the "understanding" is that when you enter a group room you are saying you are open to a group experience. If you want an restricted experience with only one couple, you should move to a private room, like your own bedroom." In theory, I would agree that there should be a "permission to join." However, in reality from our experience this is too hard to define and even harder to police. So therefore, it makes more sense that when entering a group room, it is a statement that you are seeking and open to, a group experience. This being said, EVERYONE at ALL TIMES should be sensitive to others, regardless of your location. We should always be sensitive to any indication that our actions are making another uncomfortable. We should ALWAYS stop doing something if another communicates their discomfort, even if they do not officially say NO.

Hi Emily and Paul We had a wonderful time over the weekend. It was perhaps the best ever. We would be most happy to share our email address with the group. Include any or all of the following "ramblings" in any information that you exchange with the group. We had the pleasure of sharing a massage table with S and M and felt like we learned a few good new tips about massage from watching S as she lead us through some simple techniques that felt WONDERFUL! Some of the things that she suggested that we hadn't thought of (or perhaps hadn't paid attention to in previous massage sessions...) were: spend time with scalp and facial massage (unless not desired by the person on the table)--all of us found it extremely relaxing; when massaging the feet, only do one at a time, because it is over-stimulating to do both at once (we agreed with her on that after we thought about it...); warm the oil in your hands before lightly applying (that's definitely one we had forgotten along the way); and she encouraged us to pay a lot of attention to the shoulders. She certainly did find ways to massage us! (...thinking fondly about the full-body slide and the butt to butt massage....). I will say that we have had "spicier" massages in past weekends, but none that were as deeply relaxing and erotic. Thanks so much to S and to all the hands that were relaxing us! We liked the relaxed "get to know you" feel of Friday night. The dvd's were very interesting, and some would have probably watched more of the Friday night one if the opportunity had been provided. But the Friday night hot tub was the perfect way to wind down after a busy week, and get in a relaxed frame for all the excitement that followed. Saturday evening was a GREAT fashion show of couples truly dressed for the occasion. Where do people find such great outfits? And some of the ladies did SO MUCH with SO LITTLE! We had a prior commitment that kept us from participating in the yoga on Sunday, and will be interested to hear how it was--we would be willing to set aside time for it next time, if the general reviews are good ones. The whole weekend was super. Everyone was soooooooooo sexy and it all felt so exciting, erotic and comfortable at the same time. We have always come away from the massage weekends feeling refreshed and renewed. We make new friends. We experience a gamut of wonderful sensations. We feel extraordinarily close to each other. We smile for days. Thanks for a GREAT weekend! P and P

Hello Paul & Emily, Thank you for everything. We were only sorry to have to leave early. Our Mom had a bad infection and is being treated. Possible surgery once cleared up to correct the screw that has moved. Our feedback as a new couple: We were made to feel welcome as soon as we walked in the door. All couples were very nice and friendly. No pressure atmosphere. Well organized and nice to see the team effort to prepare meals/clean up. Great home and nice surroundings! Changes to make things better: Maybe 2 sessions of massage. One in the morning, one in the later afternoon for those that chose to participate. Or a mini massage session on Friday night to break the ice. We think you would have some good responses to that. Provide directions and the list of foods to bring a few days earlier. This helps for couples who have difficult work schedules to plan a little bit more in advance. Provide information on what the food your bringing will be used for to help with the quantity of food to purchase. We definitely over bought, since we did not know how the food would be used (main course, toppings, side dishes, etc.) Hope that helps! We would love for you to send our e-mail out to the others. Please keep us posted on future massage weekends! We would be interested to attend again! Hugs to you both! A & T

Paul & Emily.. random thoughts Take time for your own restoration and renewal. I suppose that is what singing in the little church choir is for me. Comfort. No stress. Decent folks. No contentiousness. Quiet, Old hymns, a bit of ritual. We want you to take care of yourselves. Just as a thought, perhaps there should be a weekend of JUST younger people, say 30 to 40, 25-35? This taps into a whole different demographic. You might get a different feel for what is going on. The very first swinger-type people we met had been in a group such as this where everyone was educated, refined, tolerant, aware, insightful and most important, beneficial to each other beyond the sexual connection. Multi-talented, muti-faceted, well-traveled, appreciative of others' abilities and interests. Hmm. We love you and we cherish our time together. The sex is always fun. You are special partners. Even without the sex, it is very good. A & K

Paul and Emily, We believe the graphic videos on Friday evening set a tone, develop expectations and excite those who are comfortable with the massage weekend. For those who are new, it creates an intimidating gauntlet that they may not choose to run. We perceive this was a factor in the "head for home response" of one of our couples. If a couple is somewhat reticent, the videos are a direct challenge. The personal, "getting to know you" approach is much preferred manner of encouraging involvement for those who are a bit timid. We would cancel or "mild" the Friday night video. The food contribution list should be examined for equity in pricing. No need for ice cream in Jan. The weekend was solid for our long term marriage. We were safe and comfortable all weekend. We reflect together on specific interactions and portions of the weekend. We enjoyed the other couples, the massage and the music. The river house is a great spot with lots of internal space. The pool will be a much used asset in the summer months.The less labor intensive meal on Sat night was an improvement. D and G

Paul, I've been delayed in replying to you. Thank you for hosting an excellent weekend! In retrospect, I appreciate which segments of the Dax video you chose to share with us on Friday night. You could have shown only the hot sex, which is GREAT on that video. Instead you also included sections that revealed the couple as real people, who demonstrated their love care and admiration for each other both in their words and on their faces. Perhaps this was the overall tone for the weekend: I remember how, in the "Spin the Bottle" exercise to get to know each other, many couples shared what they loved or appreciated in each other, as well as (or instead of) what attributes of their partner was a turn on. Saturday's dinner was simple, and simply wonderful. Seemed like everyone had something that they enjoyed. By way of improvements: Although you introduce the play room to folks as part of their tour, please consider stating, during your evening introduction, that folks are invited to the playroom after the introductions meeting has completed. Please formally introduce late-comers into the space. I'd like to hear their names and their answers to the questions we all answered earlier! Also, consider giving the newbies their tour of the house after they settled into their space. Please let me know ASAP as to dates for the next weekend, so that I can get it into my calendar. M

Paul & Emily Counting every one at the party, we represented something like 600 years of sexual experience. The lessons we have learned in the last few years from practitioners of "our hobby", have been things like patience, trust, and honesty, not technique, or sexual trivia. We come to your place to spend time with quality people and have fun and we have never been disappointed. D & S

Thanks. We had a very interesting and enlightening time. Looking fwd to doing it again if you will have us!! R and C

OUR NOVEMBER 2005 WEEKEND

PERSONAL NOTE FROM PAUL & EMILY

We have so much enjoyed the support and prayers from those we have met in this community we call the "lifestyle." We have friends that started as "lifestyle friends" that are now..., just really good friends. During this event, some have offered to make meals, some have offered their homes (if we needed to travel for chemotherapy), some have offered to help manage our property..., and all have offered prayers and support. In our massage events and in our newsletters, we often say that the "sexual intimacy is great, but the longer term friendships have been what make swinging very enjoyable." This statement is mild to the real love we have received these past weeks from friends we have met in the lifestyle. It also then, gives us energy to give back to others during their times of BAD THINGS. Because, I guess, one reason "bad things happen to good people" is that everybody, sometimes, experiences "bad things." We again appreciate all your support and prayers.

(Maybe) Needless to say, we were unable to attend the November, Maine 2005 massage event. However, our good friends John & Beth led the weekend. Here is their report.

Four couples attended the erotic massage weekend in Maine on November 4,5 and 6. A combination of circumstances led to a smaller that usual group. Paul and Emily turned the hosting duties, temporarily, over to John and Beth who were attending their 15th consecutive erotic massage weekend. Two of the couples were new to the Maine event, however, one of the couples had attended North Carolina events. For one couple it was their first 'lifestyle' weekend. Two couples were from Massachusetts, one from Northern Maine and the other from middle Tennessee. An eclectic group for sure. The size of the group led to a less formal structure. Everyone stayed at the Farm. For some of us that was a first, and we found staying in the same place is very convenient...The hot tub was a popular spot as was the loft. The Friday night introduction was held in the hot tub. Everyone participated in giving a little background on themselves and their experiences in the lifestyle. There were many questions and as a group we provided answers. A "break the ice game" had been planned but by the time introductions were over it was apparent that there was no ice left in the tub. Later most moved to the loft while others recuperated after the long trip to the wilds of Maine.

After a leisurely breakfast on Saturday morning the group heard a brief introduction to erotic massage from John and Beth. Everyone participated, some with vanilla, some with spicy and some with extra crispy massage. The erotic massage usually lasts around 3 hours...this time it went over 4 and could have gone on longer, but we were all extremely hungry. After a shower, sometimes shared, and a quick lunch the group moved to the loft for good fun and good conversation and a lot of laughter. With the late lunch and a lazy afternoon/evening the formal dinner gave way to chocolate cake, stir fry, white chocolate covered strawberries and lots more fun.

Sunday morning was quiet. Everyone was hungry for some reason..and no one wanted to leave. We all agreed to come back in the Spring to see old and new friends and especially to see Paul and Emily. John and Beth want to thank everyone for making the weekend such fun...We both enjoyed everyone and we hope y'all had as much fun as we did. We look forward to seeing you again soon.

OUR SEPTEMBER 2005 WEEKEND

Our September weekend event was our largest event. Fourteen couples and two single women attended the weekend in NC September 23-25. The event was at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's outdoor deck, hot tub and swim spa were completed. A privacy (nude friendly) fence now surrounds our grounds. The attenders came from North Carolina (9), Virginia (2), Rhode Island (1) and New York (1). The ages of the guests ranged from their 30's to 50's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 60's. As is common with our events there was a range of experience in the lifestyle. For some attenders ( 4) this was one of only a few experiences. All other attenders have been in the lifestyle for over 3 years. Seven attenders have had over 5 years experience in the lifestyle. Two of the attenders kept their play to "soft" swing activities, yet everyone participated in erotic play. Seven couples have visited either Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa.

All but two couple arrived Friday evening. One couple was not able to attend the Saturday massage. First time and new couples to the lifestyle received a telephone call from Paul & Emily prior to the event. During these calls, couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The calls were also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and agreed to the confidentiality statement. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others on Friday. The evening included a spin the bottle game of introductions. The Friday night opening gathering gave each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle. Friday's play began early in the evening and lasted well into the night. Much of the erotic play started in the swim spa (a 9' x 16' waist deep swimming pool with an active current), hot tub and then progressed to the bedrooms and then ended back in the swim spa. The swim spa was also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into five groups, most with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks, naps or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. The sex during the weekend was great, however most everyone raved about the swim spa. The spa has a jet that simulates a current. The current can be adjusted for intensity. Most of the afternoon the current was set to the strongest level. Fifteen or more nude bodies bounced and played in the fast water for much of the afternoon. It was great fun. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group play room. All couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings. Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

D and I just wanted to let you know that we had a great time this weekend. You guys are VERY gracious hosts and your place is awesome. Thanks so much for the opportunity to join your group. Everyone was very nice, respectful, and sexy!! We are looking forward to the next time. We only have one suggestion being the newbies there. For the massage time, newbies should not be placed by themselves with other newbies. We only had 2 couples in our group where everyone else had 3 or 4 couples. It would have been much better to have at least 3 couples in a group or 4 or 5 in a group. We four individuals had a good time...just feel the experience would have been better with someone that had at least done it before with us. We thoroughly enjoyed the weekend, your beautiful home, and the wonderful, friendly, sexy couples we met! D&D

From Paul & Emily: totally agree and next time we will be sure that new couples are not put alone together, very good point. Emily and I so enjoyed you, both your company and the erotic fun with you both..

Paul & Emily, Thank you for your prompt follow-up to our delightful weekend. For us, undoubtedly the best part was meeting and interacting with (on a variety of levels) the fun, stimulating, thoughtful, considerate and interesting people who each contributed to our pleasant and at times very erotic experiences. As first timers, we think the tone of your Friday evening presentation and the "spin the bottle" introductions were very helpful to merge veterans and newcomers into the flow of events. On the drive home, we agreed that as much fun and as exciting as our play with others was, the spice it added to our intimacy was the unexpected benefit of the weekend. We arrived at Riverhouse on Friday with only a vague idea of what to expect. We departed on Sunday with a new sense of life's erotic possibilities. D & N

Paul and Emily, As always you've out-done yourselves ... what a wonderful weekend. It's always so terrific to be with friends, old and new, guy and gal! See you soon and be well. Yours, K

Hi Paul and Emily The weekend was wonderful. Some really fascinating folks (some GREAT looking bodies, too...). We agree with you that the longer weekend format really does allow people time to get to know each other--on whatever level they choose--and feel more comfortable. The river house is a wonderful venue--plenty of room to spread out. We're not sure we could pick one thing that was a highlight, as there were so many good things happening all weekend long. Please share our email address with the group. We look forward to another opportunity to see everyone. P and P

Thank you for opening your gorgeous home to such rowdies. We very much enjoyed our time making new bonds and renewing old ones. Thanks again. K and A

Hi Paul and Emily As always, you were gracious and hospitable hosts, the week-end agenda was well planned...and executed.. The new location is indeed a welcome addition to the traditional week-end massage parties; it allows for a larger group of people in an idyllic setting. We enjoyed meeting all of the couples and singles attending. It was nice to connect with old friends as well as establishing new friendships. Our only regret was missing the massage event and having to leave earlier then usual both friday and saturday (schedules, schedules, schedules...). Nevertheless, our experience was positive as always. Cheers! E & R PS: you may share our contact information with everyone.

We liked sunrise, Sunday, on the river. We stessed some over the Saturday night meal prep. We all get caught up in nirvana and need to be reminded of our duties. We forgot to finish the fruit prep Saturday morning. Paul and Emily, YOU DID A GREAT JOB ! ! ! THANKS from R and M. PS. Feel free to share our email address.

Paul & Emily, I had a great time; everyone was friendly and made me feel comfortable. I was a little stressed since this was my first experience, however I look forward to doing this again. Don't worry about Saturday night; there were times when I was exhausted too. After the massage on Saturday morning, I was tired. I went to my hotel room and rested. All in all you and Emily were great hosts, and I enjoyed the weekend. DEFINITELY WILL DO IT AGAIN. I have always fantasized about making love to 3 or more people a day. My fantasies become a reality that weekend. I wanted to experience being with another woman, but was not brave enough to try it this time. Will do next time, I'm sure. C

OUR JULY 2005 WEEKEND

Our July weekend event was different than our other massage weekends in 4 ways. First, it was open only to couples who had previously attended our massage weekends. Second, we allowed couples to attend for only 1 day. Third, we had a theme other than massage, namely "Guide to better Cunnilingus." Finally, we kept the group small. By consensus, the group would like to vote for some other word than cunnilingus.., yet "eating pussy" probably will not work.

Eight couples and one single women attended the weekend in NC July 8-10. The event was at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's outdoor deck, hot tub and swim spa were completed. A privacy (nude friendly) fence now surrounds our grounds. The couples came from North Carolina (7), Virginia (1), and the single women came from Virginia (1). The ages of the guests ranged from their 30's to 50's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. All of the attenders had been in the lifestyle for over 3 years. Five couples had over 5 years experience in the lifestyle. One of the couples kept their play to "soft" swing activities All couples participated in erotic play. Four couples have visited either Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa. All but two couple arrived Friday evening. The weekend was billed as a "advanced training in cunnilingus" . Actually, the weekend was more of an exercise in threesomes. The addition of a single women added a wonderful opportunity (you do the math) for everyone to enjoy multiple combinations of play with three people. Friday's play began early in the evening and lasted well into the night. Much of the erotic play started in the swim spa (a 9' x 16' waist deep swimming pool with an active current), then progressed to the bedrooms and then ended back in the swim spa. The swim spa was also a center for conversation throughout the weekend.

After Saturday breakfast and after the 7th couple joined the group, the group held a brief meeting. All guests were reminded of the confidentiality agreement. Paul & Emily briefly discussed the importance of condoms, particularly regarding STD's such as genital herpies. Portions of two DVD were then presented. The first was "Ultimate Sexual Massage", an erotic favorite of Paul & Emily. Though the DVD does not focus on oral pleasure, it does provide good examples of pleasure massage for the labia and genitals. The couples in the DVD practicing the techniques were attractive and erotic. The second DVD "Nina Hartley's Guide to Better Cunnilingus ," was less well received. The group found the first segment of the DVD boring as it focuses on an anatomy lesson. However, the group became good students as the second segment of the DVD demonstrated a menu of culinary treats. Some couples passed the oral exam with their spouse (a-la-carte) whereas others enjoyed the buffet.

After (the real) lunch, most guests spent the afternoon in the swim spa. The sex during the weekend was great, however most everyone raved about the swim spa. The spa has a jet that simulates a current. The current can be adjusted for intensity. Most of the afternoon the current was set to the strongest level. Fifteen or more nude bodies bounced and played in the fast water for much of the afternoon. It was great fun. Throughout the afternoon pairs and threesomes formed and reformed for erotic play. The evening meal was managed by Karen. After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group play room. All couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings. Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

Paul, Emily and friends, please accept our apologies for leaving early and on such short notice. My father is not doing well and I needed to be with mom and dad until his journey is complete. Please tell all they are a wonderful group, and it was a pleasure to have been in their company. Please tell S how much I always enjoy our discussions, whatever the subject may be. And please extend to K my regrets for not having spent some quality time with her. Again, C and I had a wonderful, although too short of a time with you all. A & C

Dear Paul & Emily, Great weekend as always at your place. We enjoyed seeing old friends and getting to know some really nice new folks. We both learned some interesting tidbits from viewing the cunnilingus CD, and loved putting our new knowledge to the test. You all are the perfect host and hostess and we look forward to seeing you again soon. Hugs, K & S

Emily and Paul, Many, many thanks to you for being the spectacular hosts you always are and for encouraging me to join you this past weekend. What a treat to spend time with good friends, old and new! And in my opinion everyone passed their "oral exams" with flying colors ... remember, practice makes perfect! Be well and talk to you soon, K

Paul & Emily My favorite part of the weekend was playing in the pool! I felt like a 9 year old. I can't say I actually learned anything about Cunnilingus. (Is that how it's spelled? What an awful word.) But every one who pleased me seemed to have learned a lot. I think we could have added a few techniques to the instructional materials. Thank you all for a delightful weekend. P (& A)

We really did have a great time and enjoyed all the company. Let us know when you all want do this again, count us in. The one thing we came away with is that cunnilingus is erotic for those who receive and those who give. This was the best get together for us yet. R and B

This is Paul. I did learn a few things about oral sex (cunnilingus, the word we love to hate, ...but the act we all love to do). I have always loved to suck and lick a women's lips (labia) and clit. What I learned this weekend is to spend more time pulling, sucking and playing with the skin all around the outside the outer labia. This skin is all connected to the clit (I learned) and if given early attention, the lips and clit become much more sensitive. So being the good student that I am, I went to the web to find more information. Surprise, surprise.., there is much information out there. This is one of my favorite sites called Holistic Wisdom. This page is called A Quick Guide To Cunnilingus,The Art of Female Oral Sex http://www.holisticwisdom.com/oral-sex-on-female-cunnilingus.htm Finally, (how do I day this..,) I want to say something good about the men of this weekend. We men frequently, and often deservedly, get a selfish reputation. We can however be wonderful and patient lovers. This weekend showed that.

This is Emily. I would agree with Paul's comments. I found the men this weekend to be slow, sensual lovers, and men (and us women too) were wanting to please. There was good pointers in both DVD, and the men did very well with the techniques. They enjoyed, practiced... and heavens know, we women enjoyed the attention.

OUR JUNE 2005 WEEKEND

“Eight couples attended the erotic massage weekend in NC June 3, 4 & 5. This was our first NC event in over a year and the first event at our new house on the river in eastern North Carolina. Our new Riverhouse's out door deck, hot tub and swim spa were only partially completed. Our contractors pledge full completion plus completion of privacy (nude friendly) fence by July 1st. However, all those who have ever worked with contractors' promises will take such commitments only as "best guesses." One additional house was rented to accommodate all guests. The couples came from Massachusetts (1), North Carolina (5) Virginia (1), and West Virginia (1). The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As also is common with our events, there was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. There was one couples where this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Five couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About two of the couples kept their play to "soft" swing activities of erotic massage play and erotic play in the hot tub. All couples participated in some swinging activities. Four couples have visited either Hedo resort in Jamaica, Caliente Resort in Tampa or Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa. First time and new couples to the lifestyle received a telephone call from Paul & Emily prior to the event. During these calls, couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The calls were also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and agreed to the confidentiality statement. All couples arrived by late Friday afternoon. All new couples signed the confidentiality statement. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included our usual opening gathering and hot tub. A tradition in our events is a Friday night opening gathering where each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle.

After the introductions, couples were invited to participate in a game. The game was optional and some couples choose instead to socialize in the kitchen or hot tub. The following key words describe this game: blindfolds, back/neck massage, women in control and chocolate strawberries. The game received mixed reviews with some couples feeling that it moved the group too fast into erotic play. After some reflection we (Paul & Emily) have decided to forgo games Friday evening at future events. Though such games sometimes are great fun, they risk unanticipated reactions. We all live and learn.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. A 10 minute DVD was also shown that demonstrated erotic genital massage. The group divided into three groups, with two to three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. In the afternoon, some couples took walks, kayaked or spent time in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared. The food was wonderful. We will continue to work on efficient strategies of food preparation. However, we believe that on our tome stones will be the words, "Here lies Paul & Emily, may they RIP. Please forward all suggestion for improved food preparations to their new email."

After the meal, the couples enjoyed good conversation and at their own pace visited the group play room. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some couples chose to watch. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings. Some enjoyed threesomes. Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

SELECTED REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

hey every one . we had a great time with you all over the weekend and are looking forward to doing it again soon, everyone was so great with us and we would love to thank them for making us so welcomed into the "family." We feel we have met a whole new class of friends .and we do mean classy friends. We discuss the trip in detail and cannot wait to see you all again. Paul and Emily we wouldn't change a thing because it was great You will never know how much it meant to me especially, with me being so nervous and scared, that you made me feel so comfortable in this type of environment. K and I discussed the weekend at length and discovered that it was not the nudity or sexual part that we liked best but the conversation, joking, laughing, and getting to know the others that we enjoyed so much. Again, thank you for such an enjoyable weekend and we hope to attend the next get together. Hopefully, we will see you soon. Thanks again for making a very conservative shy girl feel very comfortable with her own sexuality. I never thought that I would. love k and t

THANK YOU FOR A WONDERFUL WEEKEND E & D

Hi We had a great time! You made a supreme effort to make everyone feel comfortable and at ease. Our impression is that you were very successful in doing so. You asked for suggestions or thoughts for future weekends and while we would enjoy repeating it just as it was, there did seem to be some confusion regarding individual responsibilities for the meals. Perhaps if you listed the menu for each meal, and then the individual items that each couple was to bring, there would be less confusion. We both look forward to opportunities for future massage weekends. J & G

reply from Emily: We enjoyed getting to know both of you. Thanks for the feedback. I've also thought that we should clarify clean-up responsibilities as well. We sort have gotten it down to a science with our Maine parties, but are still figuring out the details for NC. We are trying to figure out what is best when the number of couples exceeds the number of rooms at our place. For some folks the cost and convenience would make mattresses on the floor a better option than driving to a hotel or resort nearby. However, we have tended to feel couples should have there private space. If you have suggestions, let us know. The swim spa is almost completed and we had very nice quiet weekend watching the boats, swimming. and enjoying the almost finished projects. It is fun to see a vision become real.

Paul & Emily, Thanks for a great weekend. We had such a good time. The new place is terrific. P & A

JULY WEEKEND EVENT How about a Cunnilingus Party?? Too spicy for your taste? You are welcome to attend and just enjoy massage, the Swim spa and hot tub. We are adding an extra event to our calendar. We are sponsoring a small group of up to 6 couples or single women to join us for a weekend of play. We have a new DVD titled "Nina Hartley's Guide to Better Cunnilingus ," and think it would be fun to see it together (and then maybe practice) with a group of friends. We welcome any couples or single women who has previously attended one of our events to join us July 8-10. Here is the promotion on the DVD, "Nina Hartley's Guide to Better Cunnilingus." Porn star and registered nurse Nina Hartley offers mouth-watering tips and techniques for going down on women. She begins with a short anatomy lesson and moves on to the real thing, as she and her husband Dave demonstrate a variety of pleasurable techniques on a happily satisfied model. Nina explains how and why each kind of touch is exciting. Hot vignettes at the end make great inspiration for you and a lover to use your newly gained skills!

OUR APRIL 2005 WEEKEND

“Sixteen couples attended the erotic massage weekend in Maine April 15, 16, & 17. Two additional houses were rented to accommodate all guests. The couples came from Maine (2), Massachusetts (11), North Carolina (1) Rhode Island (2), and Pennsylvania (1). The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As also is common with our events, there was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. There were three couples where this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Nine couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About five of the couples kept their play to "soft" swing activities of erotic massage play and erotic play in the hot tub. All couples participated in some swinging activities. Four couples have visited Hedo resort in Jamaica and one couple regularly visits Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa.

First time and new couples to the lifestyle received a telephone call from Paul & Emily prior to the event. During these calls, couples had the opportunity to ask questions. The calls were also a time to assure that all participates had read the Q & A and agreed to the confidentiality statement. All couples arrived by late Friday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included our usual opening gathering and hot tub. A tradition in our events is a Friday night opening gathering where each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle.

After the introductions, couples were invited to participate in a game. The game was optional and some couples choose instead to socialize in the kitchen or hot tub. The following key words describe this game: blindfolds, back/neck massage, women in control and chocolate strawberries. Women rotated to each blindfolded man and delivered a treat (massage, food, play, etc.). Some of the women made the game more erotic by removing some of their clothes. Men were unaware of which women was "treating" them. The group chose to resume the game Saturday night with the women blindfolded and the men "treating." Many couples enjoyed the games. Some chose to watch. The games evolved to very erotic play.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into five groups, with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Later, couples changed into erotic night wear. A Saturday night meal was prepared by three couples. The food was wonderful without taking much preparation time during the weekend, as has been a problem during previous weekends. Again thanks to M&S, M&S, & A&B. After the meal, some women volunteered to experiment with hot wax. Some couples also brought erotic toys. The group met Saturday evening for a sort of “show & tell” with erotic toy demonstrations. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

thanks for another great wk end M & J

Paul and Emily, We'd like to thank you again for such a great weekend. We enjoyed meeting a bunch of great people and sharing some fun times. The Farm was wonderful and we had many interesting conversations with a wide range of people. It was just what we needed to start our vacation! We especially enjoyed the massage. It was terrific!!! I'd like to suggest that you consider adding a time for some nasty dancing. We had a great dance CD but forgot to put it on. Perhaps it would be a good thing to do after supper Saturday night? A great way to work off a few calories after dinner. The only hard part of cooking dinner Saturday was coordinating between the time it took the appetizers to get ready and the time it took to heat the main dish. Next time it should be easier. The game Friday night was nice. Saturday's game seemed to go maybe a little too fast for (some) first time people. I know it's hard to organize things like this and it's hard to gauge how they will progress. I had hoped to see J Sunday morning to thank her again for being brave and taking part in the hot wax experience Saturday night. Please feel free to pass our email address along to the other people from this weekend. We got a few email Sunday morning but didn't manage to get everyone. Thanks again for such a great experience. You were wonderful hosts and have obviously given this a lot of thought. We enjoyed ourselves tremendously and look forward to meeting some of the people we met before the next gathering. We're looking forward to seeing you again at The Farm. Take care, M & S

Hi Paul & Emily, J and I had a great time, it was great to see our old friends again, and we also made some new friends along the way. Things may not always turn out as you would hope they would but the effort that you and Emily put into the weekend is appreciated by us. Hope to see you both again at the next Farm weekend. Please feel free to post our e-mail address. P & J

Paul and Emily, We had a great time. The game Friday night was good, and while it wasn't planed that way, breaking it between the two nights, I think, was for the best. (C disagrees) I know C certainly enjoyed the Saturday session. Hard to think of ways to make it better (our experience is more limited than some), except perhaps a week sometime. The long weekend is so much better than a 6 hour house party. Both times we have been to the farm, we have come away with new friends. As before, there were people we wanted to re-connect with and didn't, and others we hadn't met before and wanted to get to know better. As always, a very non-judgmental group and we both felt very welcome. Cindy was of course nervous, both about being on crutches, and just how she would deal with the sexual activity, having been pretty cautious since her skiing accident and knowing how involved she can get when aroused. If invited back, we will certainly be there. Perhaps also down south. We welcome anyone to email us, and would love to get together with any of you during the summer and fall (before ski season of course - or at the mountain to ski and play - we hope to have our own place up north this next winter). Have a great summer. See you all in the fall. E and C

Paul-- The weekend was marvelous!! Hats (and more!) off to you and Emily for your kindnesses, for setting a wonderful erotic stage for play, for the sense of humor and fun you stirred into the weekend. We'll be back!! (and we might write more, too, when we have a moment....I am dashing between a few aspects of my kids' spring break at the moment. Hope you had a safe & easy trip back down south, and that you're having a great week...! K & M

Paul & Emily, Very nice weekend. It was worth the trip. Only suggestion is: bars of soap in the showers! Thanks for all the obvious significant efforts made to put this weekend together. A & B

We had an excellent time!! Again, thanks for your wonderful hospitality. You manage to do a great job bringing the right mix of people together. We had a blast!! Emily--thanks very much for the bikini-genie site. Paul--What are the tentative dates for the next farm event? Hoping to see you in the Fall of 2005. Have a wonderful summer if we don't reconnect prior to October. Fondly A & D

Hi Paul and Emily, We had a great time at Mainefarm this past weekend. You two were really wonderful hosts and really did make us as first timers welcome and very much at ease. We had a great time and met some wonderful people with whom we hope to become good friends. We enjoyed everything about the weekend, even though we were a little nervous when we first got there. The atmosphere and friendliness of everybody there soon put us at ease. We are already looking forward to hopefully coming to the next massage weekend. The erotic times were wonderful and the time talking and laughing with everyone were fun. You certainly know how the through a great party! Hope to see you again. J and S

OUR NOVEMBER 2004 MAINE WEEKEND

“Fifteen couples attended the erotic massage weekend in Maine November 5, 6, & 7 2004. Two additional houses were rented to accommodate all guests. The couples came from Maine (3), Massachusetts (5), North Carolina (1) Virginia (1), New Jersey (1), Florida (1), New Hampshire (3) and Vermont (1). The ages of the couples ranged from their 40's to 60's. As is common with our events, the majority of the couples were in their late 40's and 50's. As also is common with our events, there was a wide range of experience with the swinging lifestyle. There were two couples where this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Nine couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. About six of the couples kept their play to "soft" swing activities of erotic massage play and erotic play in the hot tub. Three couples did not participate in swinging activities. Three couples regularly visit Hedo resort in Jamaica and one couple regularly visits Paradise Lakes resort in Tampa.

First time and new couples to the lifestyle were invited for a pre-meeting Friday afternoon. All couples arrived by late Friday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. The evening included our usual opening gathering, hot tub, neck & back massage "warm-up" and other play. A tradition in our events is where Friday night has an opening gathering where each couple has an opportunity to introduce themselves, ask questions and talk about their experience in the lifestyle. Some participants sat in a circle (male-female-male-female) and massaged the neck and back of he person in front. These activities simulated much erotic play within the group. The group room and hot tub remained popular well into the night. Some couples brought wonderful chocolate covered strawberries.

After Saturday breakfast Emily and Paul presented a massage introduction. The group divided into four groups, with three couples per group. Massage was "mild" (non-genital) or "spicy" (including genital). Many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures including using ones body to massage another's body.

After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, and then had lunch. Many couples took walks or spent the afternoon in the hot tub. Some couples enjoyed erotic play with others, particularly in the hot tub. Later, couples change into erotic nightwear. We returned to Lucy’s fabulous Lasagna for the Saturday meal. The food was wonderful without taking much preparation time during the weekend, as has been a problem during previous weekends. Again thanks to Lucy, Joyce & D&J.

Some couples brought erotic toys. The group met Saturday evening for a sort of “show & tell” with erotic toy demonstrations. Some couples wished this time could of evolved into more group play. Most, but not all, couples participated in erotic play Saturday evening. Some enjoyed intercourse with others whereas others enjoyed softer sexual activities. Some enjoyed erotic play in the large group room whereas others enjoyed individual pairings in private rooms. Some enjoyed conversation in the living room.

Couples returned Sunday. Sunday was a slower more conversation time. Couples talked about their families, their experiences in the lifestyle (both positive and negative). Plans were made to meet again. Two new couples expressed discomfort with the weekend’s erotic activities. Paul & Emily have decided to schedule phone conversations with new couples prior to their first visit. The phone conversations will re-state the nature of the massage weekend activities, strongly encourage attendance at the first-timers group and confirm that the couple would like to attend such an event. Such phone calls hopefully will minimize such discomfort.

REFLECTIONS AND COMMENTS FROM COUPLES

Terrific time - AGAIN Thanks so much M + S

Just wanted to let you all know that we so enjoyed seeing you all this weekend and spring is always is always to far off,,,,,, hugs and kisses, all our best always k and e

Paul and Emily, D and I would like to thank you for a great weekend! Your ability to introduce a couple of quirky strangers into a group of 30 or so people and make them feel so comfortable... in a theme gathering which can be quite uncomfortable if not organized and run properly.. is truly remarkable. You guys are truly the driving force behind something special. You brought together a group that was truly entertaining, intelligent, talented, sensual, exciting and just plain FUN. We would like the group to know that whether we came together in an intimate setting or just conversation and laughs you all brought something positive to D and my relationship. I know we both feel a rejuvenated spirit. And we hope we forged some friendships that will continue in a variety of settings. The gathering certainly created sufficient memories to keep us laughing and romping until we have an opportunity to meet with all of you again. As for negatives... I fear we can no longer fully appreciate the 'normal' two-handed massage we occasionally enjoy. Thanks again, A and D

p.s. Oh yeah... the food, wine and accommodations were outstanding... the pot-luck informal gatherings, the 'formal' dinner, and the hot tub were all highlights.

p.s.s. Oh yeah... the food and accommodations were outstanding! Did I say that?

p.s.s.s. And S...I welcome any corrections to the above text... spelling IS important.

Great time, many thanks! Awaiting email list. Warm regards, D

Paul, many thanks for a great time. .... One of the things that I think that you would tell ME about the lifestyle is that it is a venue of personal choice and responsibility. ... Not all factors can you or should you control. We had a great time and it has been a while since we've had the hedo like atmosphere. Felt good. With great respect. The only suggestion I would make for the weekend is to have a dance of some sort. As you know, dancing is a great ice breaker/erotic moment with the right crew. M & K

Hi Paul and Emily, Please do share my email with the rest of the group. We're looking forward to communicating with some of the people we met at the farm. The overall weekend was very nice. The accommodations were great and the food ranged from good to great. I thought your organization of the event was superb -- things went off very smoothly from that point of view. I really liked the group back rub exercise on Friday night -- it led to some interesting interactions at the end. The group massage was also very nice, but everyone in my group just wandered away after it was over and it didn't lead directly into more group interaction. If it could be accommodated, I think that putting all the massage tables together into one room might be fun -- it might be fun to observe other massage approaches. I had been expecting a bit more open, public interaction on Saturday evening, however, most of the action seems to have moved off into private rooms, which I found a little disappointing. One of my main interests is in group interactions, so I had been hoping for more in that area. I also heard the same thought from a member of another couple. The interaction could range from open, parallel play (soft swinging) with some degree intergroup touching to more hard swinging. Maybe we can think of a way to encourage more group interaction (for those that are interested), possibly by explicitly designating a room and a time for such an orgy. This could be preceded by some kind of group touching exercise as a lead in (like was done on Friday). The Saturday evening toy show was, I suppose, intended to be a lead in, but it didn't work really well for that since there wasn't much group interaction. Concerning first time couples, I would suggest that you to consider arranging a phone call with both members of any first-time couple before the event. You could answer any questions and make sure that they both understand the nature of the weekend and the type of interactions that are possible there. Overall we were happy with the weekend and we would be interested in coming back again. Thanks, S and J

Reply: Thank you S for the feedback. Your suggestions are helpful and we will consider incorporating them in our future events. It is always a "line to walk" between providing too much structure and not enough structure. There are those who feel the Friday back rub was too much structure. Over the years we have gone back and forth between structuring just the Saturday massage and providing more structure during the rest of the weekend. Usually, we have added some structure on Friday evening to warm the group to each other and then after Saturday's massage allowed couples to pursue the next level of intimacy they desire. It is difficult to find the right combination, however. After this last weekend we will have a phone discussion with new couples. In the past this has not seemed necessary. Emily and I need to do a better job communicating to new couples exactly the nature of our events. Thanks again Paul & Emily

After polling the Massage Weekend participants from this household it has been determined that the weekend was a success. Actually is was one hell of a good time. In the future we suggest that you add more minutes to the hour, more hours to the day and even more to the night, and more days to the weekend. We need to spend more time with old friends, more time meeting new friends more time on and off the massage table more time in the hot tub and sauna and more time with our host and hostess. Yes, ..you're right..we want more...more...more...greedy people that we are. We always meet the greatest people when we come to visit you. And we always hate to leave..that's the toughest part. See you in the Spring, if not sooner. J and B

Paul & Emily, Thanks again for such a very interesting weekend. D and I very much enjoyed the sensual atmosphere that was shared by all attending. We very much enjoyed the massage. That was wild. To have that many hands on you at the same time, all naked, soft music and especially the nails!!! It was absolutely wonderful. We also greatly enjoyed the Saturday evening meal. With everyone wearing something erotic (for the most part) it was very exciting. But honestly it was the sensual atmosphere that really was wonderful to experience. Everyone was so friendly and easy going. Enjoying a wonderful conversation with anyone who attended was a delight. As a first timer I was glad that we had arrived before the evening began with introductions in the living room. Having never experienced this type of gathering it gave me a chance to catch my breath and look around; get my bearings so to speak Even D who has done some swinging in the past was very glad to have that time with everyone. In talking about the weekend and all the had occurred and the people we had met, it brought us to another level as a couple. Amazing how hot it can make you just talking about it. We were a bit disappointed that there was not more of a group get together so to speak. We had not expected everyone to disappear quite so quickly after the toy presentation. The food was excellent. The company and experiences were priceless. Hope to attend more (too bad we have to wait so long!!!) D & J Hugs to everyone

Reply: Dear J and D I wanted to thank you for the providing the extra treat of the scallops this weekend. They were great. I'm not sure which couple told their adolescents that they were going to a gourmet dinner party!! I guess it would be true. Glad you had a good time. Emily

From Emily to S.. Besides the other attributes, you prepare a "mean" gourmet dessert menu, S. If the GI lab doesn't work out, you may want to audition for the Boar's Head Inn. Thanks for helping to make the weekend spectacular.

Emily: You are very welcome. For all the fun and pleasure we get out of coming to the farm making a few desserts was a pleasure. Thanks for all you do. S

OUR FEBRUARY 2004 NC WEEKEND

Twelve couples attended our North Carolina couples erotic weekend, Feb. 14th & 15th. Eight couples came from the North Carolina, the other four traveled from South Carolina, Virginia, West Virginia, and Massachusetts. The ages of the couples ranged from their 30's to 60's. For three couples this was their first or second experience, whereas others have enjoyed the lifestyle for years. Six couples had many years experience in the lifestyle. Some couples kept their play to soft swing. Three couples met mid-morning Saturday. This pre-meeting was hosted by Paul & Emily to talk about the lifestyle and the weekend. Couples new to the lifestyle were invited to attend. All couples arrived by Saturday afternoon. All enjoyed conversation and meeting others. Paul & Emily presented an introduction to the weekend including confidentiality statements for new couples to sign. Each couple briefly introduced themselves and their experience in the lifestyle. The group talked about the importance of respect and saying "no thank you." A massage introduction was presented by Emily and Paul. The instruction included erotic and sensual non-erotic massage. The group divided into four groups, three couples on each of four tables. Though optional, many (we believe) enjoyed erotic genital massage. Some tables explored other erotic pleasures. After the massage, all couples retreated to the showers to clean off the massage oils, some continued the erotic play from the massage. Later, couples change into erotic night wear. Dinner was prepared. The couples group had a "sit-down" dinner. We used K