Couples Tantric Massage, Lifestyle Weekends, New England & North Carolina,

List of Questions & Answers




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List of Questions and Answers

1. Can you describe the Couples Tantric Workshop?
A. The Tantric Couples Workshop will help you deepen your connection with your partner. Come celebrate your sexuality in a relaxed, day-long event in an intimate setting with a small group of couples. In this hands-on workshop you will learn to honor your partner as a sacred sexual being with ancient techniques based on the traditional Tantra Arts. Together we will practice synchronized breathing, a chakra connection meditation, and perform sensual body rubs with a focus on erotic stimulation to raise sexual energy. Please note, this workshop has a specific focus on couples participating only with each other. After the class, the playrooms will open for those couples who (optionally) wish to also exchange erotic energy with other couples.

Raine, our presenter, is passionate about open sexual communication and sees it as a path to healing. Living in the Raleigh, NC area, you will love her casual style and approach to learning about the erotic energy that lies within us all. She is also available for private instruction for couples and individuals.

Note: throughout this Q & A we refer to couples because 95% of people who attend our weekends come as couples. However, we also allow single women to attend the weekends. Single men are not allowed.

2. Should we be in the swinging lifestyle to attend your events?
A. Our Tantric events offers an intimacy experience as a tool to improve intimacy and sexual enjoyment within your partner relationship. Our Saturday lifestyle event includes a group play room for couples to enjoy erotic play with other couples. On Saturday, some couples attend with plans only to have sensual "non-erotic" touch with other couples. Other couples plan to have erotic touching with others.

3. Can you describe the Saturday Lifestyle "merrymaking" gathering?
A. This following is a "Sample List" of Activities (each Saturday event is somewhat different)
10 am Registration
Confidentiality Forms & Payments
Meet & Greet
Juices, coffee, breakfast pastry
Free time to mingle
11am - Introductions,
Discuss House Rules, How to say "No"
Warm Up Tantric exercise with partner
Break - find a couple for afternoon massage, finger food, juices, sandwiches
1:00 Raine' Tantric Erotic Massage Techniques Demo
1:30-3:30 Paired Erotic Massage Practice Time
Raine walking around instructing people and techniques demonstrated
3:30-6:30 Break, play in pools, play in hot tub, boating
6:30 Pre-Dinner Cocktails/wine/beer
7:00 Dinner Prep
Dining Room Set up,
Potluck prepared
Change into Lingerie
7:00 Lingerie Sit down Dinner
Dinner Clean up
9:30 Play Rooms Open

4. What should we bring to the Saturday events?
A. massage tables, Lingerie for dinner, comfortable wrap, warm robe for travel to/from swim spa, condoms/lube, $60 fee, assigned food/beverage for dinner, optional personal beverage, sox's to wear and blindfolds

We strongly encourage all participants to practice safe sex and use condoms. Please bring your own condoms. We usually have condoms available, but DO NOT DEPEND ON US TO HAVE CONDOMS AVAILABLE WHERE AND WHEN YOU NEED THEM. You need to plan ahead with supplies. You need to inform your "playmates" you require condoms. You need to not depend on anyone else to offer condoms or "model" the use of condoms, including US as leaders.

5. Where are the events located?
A. We sponsor events in two locations. One location is 3 hrs. north of Logan Airport in Boston. The New England location is a large remodeled New England Farm, located on 5 acres. The other location is at our Riverhouse in eastern North Carolina. Both locations have outdoor hot tubs. We also have a heated swim spa in North Carolina.

6. What do people wear for dinner?
A.We encourage people to dress-up with erotic cloths for Saturday evening dinner. What people wear varies and definitely leaves room for creativity. Some wear nice "Victoria's Secret" type of clothing. The ladies mostly wear lingerie of all types, but not always. Other find dresses with the best cleavage lines or best view of the legs possible. Then, again, some people appear to have their own personal tailors. We have occasionally seen men's costumes that are both funny and a bit erotic, such as just the bow tie of a tuxedo!! Some of the men wear boxer shorts, some are silk. Have fun! There really isn't a dress code. Some wear regular cloths, nothing special... that's fine too.

7. Is there a fee? How is lodging arranged? Do we bring food?
A. The fee for the Friday Tantric Couples workshop is $150. People attending the workshop can also attend the Saturday lifestyle party for no additional fee. The fee for the Saturday event in $60. For people needing accommodations, we will arrange housing for all couples in a nearby hotel. We will assigned couples food to bring for the evening meal.

8. We understand that you require each couple to agree to a confidentiality agreement. What is the confidentiality statement?
A.> All couples attending the massage events must sign our confidentiality statement using their real names as they appear on their drivers license. The confidentiality statement protects both the sponsors and all couples that attend. We also require couples to agree to the confidentiality statement to be members of our mailing list. The confidentiality statement is also located on the web at Confidentiality Statement

9. What is the rules or "etiquette" in the group room at the weekends?
A. The only "universal" event rules are the NO rules and the CLOSE DOOR RULES. A "no means no" without a need for an explanations. You can always take someone's hand (or mouth or head) and remove it as a way to say "no". Do not enter a room with a closed door.

The group play room door is always open. At our events, when you enter the group room it is a statement that you are open to a group experience. Again, you can always say no and as we have discussed you can always take someone's hand (or mouth or head) and remove it. You also can stay in the corner with your partner and when someone approaches say "were only watching right now." We would also say that similar "understanding" occurs when you are playing in other public areas like the hot tub or swim spa. If you want a restricted experience with only one couple (or a few couples), you should move to a private room and close the door. In theory, we would agree that there should be a "permission to join." However, in reality from our experience this is too hard to define and even harder to police. So therefore, it makes more sense that when entering a group room, it is a statement that you are open to, a group experience.
This being said, EVERYONE at ALL TIMES should be sensitive to others, regardless of your location.